Hi everyone.
Thank you for coming to this page.
My husband, Adam, and I have been married for almost 3 years. We have six children, all six from our previous marriages.
Blended family marriage vows should include not just for better or for worse, but through court dates, false accusations, and mediation.
Here is our story:
In April 2016, our oldest son was upset at us for sticking to our guns and not backing down in our consequences for him.
Because of the blended family/two household situation, he decided he would be better off doing something drastic to get the focus off his bad behavior. It had always worked at his mom's, so he thought that it would work with us.
Our 13 year old decided to take 4 extra pills of his evening medicine. My husband administered first aid and called 911.
2 days prior, the mother of my step-children called CPS to report abuse and neglect on my husband's part. She thought having consequences for our son's misbehaving was "abusive".
CPS investigated our home, birth mom's home, my former spouse, my children, my mother, and the three children from my husband's first marriage.
Even after talking to everyone involved, CPS has found the case inconclusive, meaning there is no evidence of abuse.
Our children's mom made a GoFundMe page 2 days after our son went to the emergency room so she could get money for a lawyer for herself. In the page, she claimed the children were abused and traumatized.
In February 2016, my husband requested that she work with him in getting their shared children in counseling. Her response was that kids don't know how to express or identify their feelings. Yet in April 2016, she claims in court paperwork that the children are scared of their father and feel upset that they have to go to their dad's.
In April 2016, the children's mother filed an emergency request with the court to take away visitation from their dad, my husband.
She lied to the court and her attorney lied as well, stating my husband had been arrested for hitting their son in 2010.
The judge believed her without any proof, and despite my husband's adamant denial.
This has been a pattern for the last 5 years.
A little about their mom:
1. She is a stay at home mom who refuses to work, but states she lives off of $768 per month supporting herself and 4 children (3 from her marriage to my husband and one other child from her current boyfriend that she lives with).
2. She is willing to beg people for money online, but is unwilling to get a job to pay for her own lawyer. Sadly, people have not seen the irony in this and have donated money to her.
3. She is not encouraging a relationship between their children and their father. She makes unilateral decisions regarding their medical treatment and day to day activities and expects their father to jump when she tells him to.
4. She has used the kids as messengers on at least five occasions, because she can't just be a decent person for the sake of her kids and speak to their dad.
5. She was glad to post online about her son taking pills to end his life, but tried to whitewash her father's suicide. He chose to end his life because, as a 64 year old man, he did not want to go to prison as a consequence for his actions.
Since April 29, 2016,
My husband has been court ordered to pay for his children's lawyer for the fee of $1,000. This is being forced on him because their mother chooses to remain unemployed, even though their children are in school full time.
He has also had to get a lawyer to fight this. Since retaining the lawyer, we have been able to get our children's mom deposed, and the first real looking income and expense declaration from her where she admits her household expenses are paid with help by another person. However, the lawyer has cost more than $8500 and we still have 2 more court dates to go to.
My husband also has to pay to see his children, at the rate of $50 per hour and for a minimum of 2 hours each time. We cannot afford $850 per week to see our children, so our relationship suffers, and their mother uses this as an excuse to throw their dad under the bus. The last declaration our children's mom filed shows how hard our struggle is with her; she wanted to take the children away from their father completely and have 100% custody, then files a statement with the court, trying to say that their father is not seeing the kids, showing up late for visits (by 5 minutes), and that he didn't go to his daughter's fifth grade promotion, even though it was never communicated to him that that was even happening.
Adam was even unable to see his children on Father's Day because the consistent supervisor the children have been around was unavailable.
Parents should never have to be subject to a third party's availability and having to pay to ever see their children, especially without cause.
Now our son is being treated by a psychologist at the rate of $125 per hour, even though he has health insurance. His lawyer thought it would be a good idea for this specific person to see him to make sure he really isn't an "abused child" like his mother claims.
This is a stressful situation for everyone involved, including our children from my previous marriage, and while we both are gainfully employed full time, he is still paying child support, we have three other children to support, and we pay our bills. We have no extras right now to pay to see our children or for a lawyer.
We have all court paperwork, bills from attorneys and counselors, as proof if you doubt for a second what we are in the middle of. Please do not hesitate to contact us. For privacy reasons to protect our family and the children's mother, we will not disclose this on the website publicly.
If it is in your heart, please help us on this journey. So many times a father is forced to lose his kids because a mother is bitter, hurt, or really just doesn't care, and our courts are too backed up to investigate any claims.
My husband is an amazing father.
He is the dad you see dressing up in a cowboy costume to take his daughter to a dance.
He is the dad building Legos with his kids and for his kids because he knows they will like it.
He is the dad that will take his kids on his back and go boogie boarding , because he knows they love it and couldn't do it any other way since they don't swim.
He is the dad that doesn't talk negatively about his children's mom.
He is the dad that is honest about his mistakes and the part he played in the breakup of his former marriage.
He is the dad that continues to give his former spouse chances to work together, even after she has not been trustworthy and dishonest.
He is the dad who wants to be a dad, who loves his children despite what he is going through with their mom.
Any other man would have walked away from the hurt and the pain a long time ago, but it takes a good man to and a good dad to stick with it despite what is being thrown his way by his ex wife, her current boyfriend, and our justice system.
If you cannot donate, please keep us in your prayers.
Thank you and God Bless,
Bethany
Thank you for coming to this page.
My husband, Adam, and I have been married for almost 3 years. We have six children, all six from our previous marriages.
Blended family marriage vows should include not just for better or for worse, but through court dates, false accusations, and mediation.
Here is our story:
In April 2016, our oldest son was upset at us for sticking to our guns and not backing down in our consequences for him.
Because of the blended family/two household situation, he decided he would be better off doing something drastic to get the focus off his bad behavior. It had always worked at his mom's, so he thought that it would work with us.
Our 13 year old decided to take 4 extra pills of his evening medicine. My husband administered first aid and called 911.
2 days prior, the mother of my step-children called CPS to report abuse and neglect on my husband's part. She thought having consequences for our son's misbehaving was "abusive".
CPS investigated our home, birth mom's home, my former spouse, my children, my mother, and the three children from my husband's first marriage.
Even after talking to everyone involved, CPS has found the case inconclusive, meaning there is no evidence of abuse.
Our children's mom made a GoFundMe page 2 days after our son went to the emergency room so she could get money for a lawyer for herself. In the page, she claimed the children were abused and traumatized.
In February 2016, my husband requested that she work with him in getting their shared children in counseling. Her response was that kids don't know how to express or identify their feelings. Yet in April 2016, she claims in court paperwork that the children are scared of their father and feel upset that they have to go to their dad's.
In April 2016, the children's mother filed an emergency request with the court to take away visitation from their dad, my husband.
She lied to the court and her attorney lied as well, stating my husband had been arrested for hitting their son in 2010.
The judge believed her without any proof, and despite my husband's adamant denial.
This has been a pattern for the last 5 years.
A little about their mom:
1. She is a stay at home mom who refuses to work, but states she lives off of $768 per month supporting herself and 4 children (3 from her marriage to my husband and one other child from her current boyfriend that she lives with).
2. She is willing to beg people for money online, but is unwilling to get a job to pay for her own lawyer. Sadly, people have not seen the irony in this and have donated money to her.
3. She is not encouraging a relationship between their children and their father. She makes unilateral decisions regarding their medical treatment and day to day activities and expects their father to jump when she tells him to.
4. She has used the kids as messengers on at least five occasions, because she can't just be a decent person for the sake of her kids and speak to their dad.
5. She was glad to post online about her son taking pills to end his life, but tried to whitewash her father's suicide. He chose to end his life because, as a 64 year old man, he did not want to go to prison as a consequence for his actions.
Since April 29, 2016,
My husband has been court ordered to pay for his children's lawyer for the fee of $1,000. This is being forced on him because their mother chooses to remain unemployed, even though their children are in school full time.
He has also had to get a lawyer to fight this. Since retaining the lawyer, we have been able to get our children's mom deposed, and the first real looking income and expense declaration from her where she admits her household expenses are paid with help by another person. However, the lawyer has cost more than $8500 and we still have 2 more court dates to go to.
My husband also has to pay to see his children, at the rate of $50 per hour and for a minimum of 2 hours each time. We cannot afford $850 per week to see our children, so our relationship suffers, and their mother uses this as an excuse to throw their dad under the bus. The last declaration our children's mom filed shows how hard our struggle is with her; she wanted to take the children away from their father completely and have 100% custody, then files a statement with the court, trying to say that their father is not seeing the kids, showing up late for visits (by 5 minutes), and that he didn't go to his daughter's fifth grade promotion, even though it was never communicated to him that that was even happening.
Adam was even unable to see his children on Father's Day because the consistent supervisor the children have been around was unavailable.
Parents should never have to be subject to a third party's availability and having to pay to ever see their children, especially without cause.
Now our son is being treated by a psychologist at the rate of $125 per hour, even though he has health insurance. His lawyer thought it would be a good idea for this specific person to see him to make sure he really isn't an "abused child" like his mother claims.
This is a stressful situation for everyone involved, including our children from my previous marriage, and while we both are gainfully employed full time, he is still paying child support, we have three other children to support, and we pay our bills. We have no extras right now to pay to see our children or for a lawyer.
We have all court paperwork, bills from attorneys and counselors, as proof if you doubt for a second what we are in the middle of. Please do not hesitate to contact us. For privacy reasons to protect our family and the children's mother, we will not disclose this on the website publicly.
If it is in your heart, please help us on this journey. So many times a father is forced to lose his kids because a mother is bitter, hurt, or really just doesn't care, and our courts are too backed up to investigate any claims.
My husband is an amazing father.
He is the dad you see dressing up in a cowboy costume to take his daughter to a dance.
He is the dad building Legos with his kids and for his kids because he knows they will like it.
He is the dad that will take his kids on his back and go boogie boarding , because he knows they love it and couldn't do it any other way since they don't swim.
He is the dad that doesn't talk negatively about his children's mom.
He is the dad that is honest about his mistakes and the part he played in the breakup of his former marriage.
He is the dad that continues to give his former spouse chances to work together, even after she has not been trustworthy and dishonest.
He is the dad who wants to be a dad, who loves his children despite what he is going through with their mom.
Any other man would have walked away from the hurt and the pain a long time ago, but it takes a good man to and a good dad to stick with it despite what is being thrown his way by his ex wife, her current boyfriend, and our justice system.
If you cannot donate, please keep us in your prayers.
Thank you and God Bless,
Bethany