Time to be honest. This is not easy to admit, nor easy to post.

I am a survivor of domestic violence, currently homeless, disabled, and struggling to access basic support.

I live with ankylosing spondylitis, a progressive inflammatory disease that affects my spine and mobility. I require hospital treatment once a month just to remain upright and functional.

In September, I spent every dollar I had trying to secure a home. I relied on written statements that later proved to be false or made recklessly. I now have documentation from council confirming this. The matter is with Legal Aid, but the process is slow.

The property I purchased has no running water, no bathroom, and no shower. As a result, I became homeless.

I am currently in emergency motel accommodation costing $150–$200 per night. This is not sustainable. The room does not allow cooking facilities beyond a kettle. Preparing food requires using a shared laundry, which is unsafe, impractical, and degrading—especially given my disability. There is a fully equipped kitchen directly across from my room that no one is allowed to access.

Before this, I left a toxic and abusive relationship that escalated over time. Since leaving, I have been subjected to ongoing harassment by my former partner, including repeated unwanted contact, stalking behaviors, and deeply disturbing boundary violations. Despite reports, police have not recognised this as domestic violence.

To stay safe, I have had to move between motels and effectively disappear. Because I am not classified as a perpetrator, I am ineligible for most domestic violence services and emergency housing supports.

I am an Aboriginal man with a disability, and I have learned firsthand how invisible male victims can be.

Earlier, I was offered a potential property and travelled over five hours round trip—without a driver’s licence—because I had no other option. When I arrived, the unit was uninhabitable: boarded windows, disconnected hot water, and covered in pigeon droppings. Neighbours told me no one had lived there for years. I had spent money I could not afford just to attend the viewing.

Prior to all of this, I had been staying intermittently with my aunt since 2024. She sadly passed away during routine surgery. I was left with keys to her assisted living unit, but I have been denied the lease transfer because my name was not on the lease for 12 months.

I have received little to no practical help from government services.

NDIS will not proceed because I have no fixed address

Services SA declined assistance because I had already left my permanent address

1800RESPECT confirmed I was ineligible for available services and advised me to create this fundraiser

I was granted the Disability Support Pension in 2019, yet records list an effective date of 2012. Support I could have used for mobility aids and assisted living was never accessible.

I am exhausted, unwell, and doing everything I can to survive with dignity.

I am asking for help to:

Secure stable, accessible accommodation

Cover emergency accommodation costs

Afford food, transport, and medical-related expenses

Regain a foundation while legal and disability processes continue.

Thank you for reading. Thank you for believing me.