Evan's Adoption

$8,225 of $12,500 goal

Raised by 52 people in 45 months
Welcome to this world Evan Ray Alexander. Born over a month ago on September 16th, you have been prayed for and over well before your birth. It wasn't until Tuesday evening, October 20 that we knew that you existed - and since that call, our lives will be forever changed.

Without a picture of Evan, and really no information about him, we said yes. We said yes to adoption. Yes to life. Yes to God.

Those first 2 hours after that call on Tuesday were crazy. Confidence in our selection was pretty low. Evan's birthparents had specific requirements for the adoptive family. They must have no kids, speak Spanish, and live in Texas. Well, 1 out of 3 ain't bad. Then, the agency supervising the adoption had fees that were above what we had hoped for. Really, it all seemed like we wouldn't be selected.

But God. In His perfect will - the hearts of birth mom and dad were softened to our profile. The placing agency agreed to lower their fees to accommodate us. AND, they even chose to forgo the placement and contract in our adoption agency. Unheard of. All aligned in a matter of 2 hours.

What an indescribable gift! Evan was born into this world with Down Syndrome. Our fallen world looks at this diagnosis as a disability. Which is true, he may not be able to do all the things that you and I do - but it doesn't lessen the fact that he is a gift. God knit him together exactly the way He intended.

So we welcome this precious boy into our family. #11. The joke was that we should just name him Eleven. It's a good solid number. Starts with the letter E. Perfect. But after careful consideration, we decided against. Evan is not a number. He's not a statistic. He is fearfully and wonderfully made.

This page is a petition. A request for you to participate in this gift of adoption. It's a beautiful process, but it's also hard. There is instant love, excitement and joy. But there is also loss, brokenness and heartache. There is a new child for us, but there is a loss of a child for another family. In this beauty and brokenness, you can pray. Pray that Evan would thrive in his new home. Pray that he would attach to his new mom and dad. Pray that he would fall in love with each new brother and sister. Also pray for the birth family. That they would find comfort in their decision and that they would find peace that only comes from our Savior, Jesus. Pray that they would not fall under attack, but be supported in this difficult decision they have made. We also hope that you would pray Ephesians 3:20-21 over this entire adoption. To God be the glory.

Finally, we ask that you prayerfully consider giving financially. As you know, adoption is costly. Even though we were able to negotiate the placement fees down, they still exist. To be completely transparent, our placement fees were $10,000. We will have an additional cost in post placement visits ($1500) and finalization($1,000-$2000) that will bring the total to roughly $13,000. Anything you give will be graciously received. After all, the name Evan is rooted from the name John, meaning YHWY is gracious.

We can't wait for you to meet this beautiful boy.
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Hey friends.

Just another quick update. Today marks 20 days that Evan has been ours. He is so loved and we already can't imagine not having him here.

In those 20 days, Evan has gained over 2lbs, and as of this morning, he weighed in at 9.8lbs. He's getting sooo big. He's also smiling a lot more (Brandy takes all the credit) and making eye contact all the time. Everyone in the house begs to hold the little guy.

We were able to take him to church on Orphan Sunday and show off the blessing that he is. Orphan Sunday is a special day in our house. If you didn't get a chance to read Brandy's post about it, you can by going to the last update on our feed.

We still a little more to raise to reach our fundraising goal. Would you prayerfully consider helping us reach that goal. Again, thank you for all your prayers for our family and for our newest blessing.

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Today is Orphan Sunday. A day where believers all over the world shed light not just on the orphan crisis our world faces, but also more importantly on God's heart for the orphan.

As an adoptive mom of 8 adopted children this day holds a special meaning in my heart too. My children's stories have been changed forever. By God's grace and goodness, He is allowing me to be a part of their new story. I daily marvel at the fact that God is allowing me this unique and undeserved gift of mothering children that grew in another mother's womb. I do not take that gift lightly and am always praying for their birth families.

I urge you today to first seek out God's heart for the fatherless. I know that you will find that God's heart is for the vulnerable, oppressed, and lonely. I know that you will see that He himself stands in the gap for them but also that He is calling us all to do our part and be the hope that these children and their families need.

Years ago-in 2004-my goal in adoption was very "me" focused. Having had three daughters-2 here and 1 with Jesus-I was faced with the idea that I would be raising 2 sweet girls. We had longed for a large family and when the doors were shut for us to have more biologically, I will admit to you that it was a loss for us. God opened our heart to foster care. There are so many details of that story that bring glory and honor to God and I hope in the coming weeks that I will find time to write more about it. But, in the beginning adoption to me was about growing my little family. Not a bad thing, but not a Christ focused thing either.

Now over a decade later, adoption has little to do with me. God has shaped my heart and changed all of my expectations and desires and today adoption is simply a beautiful expression of the gospel. Adoption is simply us living out the gift that God already gave us. While I was alone and helpless, God saw me in my distress and rescued me. He chose me and pursued me. He told me that He loved me and that I was wanted. God adopted me as His own and made me His family. Adoption is simply us telling the world that God loves them and desires that all should be raised with the hope and love that only a family and a loving God can provide.

On to little Evan.........tears flow as I type this out. Evan Ray has been in our hearts always. Since college God has used people with Down syndrome to shape our hearts and give us a growing longing for that special gift of a child that carries the love chromosome. There are so many instances where God has continued to say "yes, this" to us. It is remarkable really. He was so faithful to truly make His plan known to us.

We joined the National Down Syndrome Adoption Network in November of 2012. All these years we have been called, we have prayed, we have had the privilege to support birth moms, and we have grown closer to God as we have walked the long road of waiting. Evan has been a faith builder long before he was conceived. Evan Ray is our hearts desire and our "full circle" in a sense. This journey also led us to our Ezra. Ezra was God's sweet sweet gift to us. I cannot even believe that we have these precious boys. God's timing and plan is so much better than ours. Trust well friends if you are waiting on the Lord. He is a good good father.

Please listen to this song. We sang it this morning. I held Evan's hand as the tears fell and I was so overwhelmed that this is our blessed life.


So today, join us as we stand in the gap for Evan. Help us on this special day to reach our fundraising goal. Help us also stand in the gap to raise awareness for adoption. God is calling all of us to do our part. If God is calling you to adopt or foster-don't wait. There is never the "perfect time". The time is now. Today. They need you and they need to see that God sees them and hears their calls for a family.

We are here if you have questions. Not just about adoption, but also if you want to know more about this Jesus that loves you and is calling you into His own family, do not hesitate to contact us. Our church, The Met, is in the process of growing a Compassion Ministry. There are so many ways for you to help the orphan and the fatherless today. Please do not hesitate to email us at compassion@themetonline.org to see how you can make a difference today. We celebrate Orphan Sunday for a purpose-do something today before another day passes. Praise God with me that we have such a good good father in heaven. For we are so very blessed to be loved by such a God.

Thank you for loving us and loving our sweet Evan. We look forward to sharing the journey with you.
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God bless!
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Hey friends. I told you yesterday that I would post an update as soon as we heard word from the doctor about Evan's lab work.

So, without any further delay, Evan is doing fantastic. All of the numbers that we needed to rise, rose. In fact, his WBC are near normal levels now. YES YES YES.

This morning we weighed our little boy and he has already hit the 9lb mark. 9lbs! He was only 7lb, 4oz less than 2 weeks ago. He's growing like a weed and out of newborn diapers and some of his newborn clothes already.

What a gift. We can't believe we get to be his parents.

Please continue to pray for him, and for us. We're almost 60% to our funding goal. Thank you, thank you, thank you for your generosity and your willingness to share our page.

God is so good.
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Today was a really long day for Evan and his mom. They spent the day, from 9:00am to 3:30 downtown in the Medical Center. The reason for the trip: more blood tests.

We're trusting that the results will be good, and we should get them by tomorrow afternoon.

So will you pray with us? Specifically, we need his white blood cell count to raise, as well as his iron levels. There is a concern that Evan's current blood counts could lead to a disease called TMD, or worse, Leukemia.

Those are scary words. But our God is bigger and we find peace in Him. I will keep you updated when we hear back from the doctors....

Look at my beautiful eyes!
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Created October 23, 2015
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