Elena Nodel cancer relief fund

$44,372 of $50,000 goal

Raised by 624 people in 19 months
On March 22, 2017 my loving wife, Elena, was told her cancer is back, worse than before and is now inoperable and she has less than a year to live. She is only 42 years old. Our family is devastated, and our ten-year old daughter, Maya, still does not know how serious the situation is.

We live in a small beautiful town where we are raising Maya, and were building a successful family business. Never had we thought of being in a situation where we would be forced to ask for help.

It began about a year ago when Elena was diagnosed with cervical cancer Stage 1. We were given hope that this form of cancer is very susceptible to treatment, with a high success rate. We closed our business for without her it could not operate. We had to go to the big city for nearly three months of radiation and chemotherapy. Throughout the first round of treatments she stayed positive and hopeful, never once complaining about her condition - absolutely astounding for someone in her position. Following a three-month recovery, she was declared clear of any cancer. Even with the help of family and friends this last year has nearly broke us. We used up all our savings, but we thought it was well worth it for Elena could be given a clean bill of health in the end. However, the cancer returned and this time very aggressively. Shortly after we found ourselves at the BC Cancer agency, sitting in a room with a strange doctor, feeling disembodied from the news that Elena’s life will end far too soon.

The only chance my wife has now is another brutal six-month round of chemotherapy, which will not cure her, but there is a very small chance it might shrink the tumor enough to make it operable. She is already in great pain, and the next chemotherapy treatments will make her very sick. My wife needs me, and I cannot be parted from her in this difficult time. I need to take care of her. We are asking you to help us, so we are not separated and that I can be there for her to the very end.

If the cancer does not respond to chemotherapy then we at least might buy her a little more time to be with me and our daughter. We are asking for urgent help with the costs associated with further treatment: travel, medication, living expenses and other medical needs. These funds will be of great use during this difficult time, and we hope that in the end Elena will receive her surgery and enjoy a long life. Elena's kindness, strength of spirit and generosity for those around her are these rare qualities we all love about her. Whether you know her or not, we hope you will find in your heart to help her in any way you can.
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Hello everyone,

On October 25, 2008 Elena and I were married, meaning today would have been our nine year wedding anniversary. In total we were together over 11 years, and it seems like a blink of an eye. For months after Elena’s death I was consumed by grief, tethered to reality only by my love for Maya. Then the wonderful memories of Elena began to penetrate the sorrow. As you would pull back the curtains in the morning I relived all the joyful moments of my life with Elena, and I was changed. Like she took my hand and helped raise me from the crucible of this tragedy, I was empowered. Elena has truly blessed me from the moment our eyes met, until I close mine forever. The darkest times are now behind, and the path to recovery for both me and Maya is clearer.

Now when I remember Elena, my vision of her has changed profoundly. She has been elevated and placed amongst the great experiences which shape my life. She is revered. My memories of her now fill me with joy and gratitude. With this gift Maya and I will be able to stride into the next chapter in our life, filled with happiness for having such precious time with a radiant and enlightened woman such as Elena.

In loving memory,
Peter and Maya
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Thank you so much for the wonderful comments and support. It has now been a week since Elena passed, and the emptiness left behind is vast. We all feel her absence. As we approach the time when the campaign will be closed I would like to share with you a picture taken a short time after Elena and I first met, and just before she started designing. It reminds me of the start of our wonderful journey together, and the blossoming of our love. I hope it will leave all of you with similar feelings of joy at connecting with Elena and sharing in her life.
-Peter and Maya.
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I am so heartbroken to say that Elena passed away the morning of June 13. She fought so hard. I wish there was more I could have done, we all tried to help her. I am unable to thank all of you enough for everything you have done for Elena and our family. She was so moved by your love and support. I will keep the campaign open for a short time to come for anyone who wishes to say or contribute anything. Your words have always uplifted her and I will always be thankful. In closing I would like so share with you a few words for Elena, my loving wife.

Dear Elena,

I love you. With you I was complete; two pieces of a puzzle perfectly matched and designed to fit together. Two people one person. You were everything to me; my entire world; my north south east and west. Though you were torn from me so early in our journey, I know I will always feel you beside me. The strength of the love we shared will last forever.

Our love gave birth to Maya. Shining above us for all time, and inspiring us to always strive for a better life. I see you in her, just as you saw me. We were a family; perfect and loving. In all the years to come I will be by her side, keeping her safe and giving all that I have to make her happy. I know that in all the years to come you will be by our side, helping me teach and love her. We will miss you. The life Maya and I live from this day forward will be a tribute to the tremendous person you were. We will always remember you. As Maya was a shining star above our life, so shall you be a shining star above ours, forever.

One of the greatest achievements of my life was helping you aspire to be such a great artist. We worked together, and side by side built something that was a testimony to our love and your talent. Such a great light you were in the knitting community. I was so proud of you. Your light shone on so many people, and so bright it was that it will keep shining for a long time to come. So many people will miss you. Yet, you leave behind so much to remember you by.

Goodbye my love. I shall feel your love every time the sun shines on me, and hear your voice every time the birds sing. Goodbye my love.

Peter.
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Dear friends,

We want to share with you further progress. The last week of the first cycle of chemotherapy was really hard, and made Elena very sick. She just underwent the second cycle of chemo on June 6. She has now lost all her hair, but we keep on fighting. Hopefully this week will be a bit easier and give some respite.

We are still trying to be active, but as the chemo effects get stronger we spend increasing time in the backyard with the flowers and our dog. The fresh air and peaceful clean surroundings do wonders for her. Elena even attempts to knit occasionally while reclining. She very much loves seeing your projects, and she thanks you for being there and sharing. It helps to keep her part of the community.

Elena’s CT scan is scheduled for June 19. We’ll all be anxiously awaiting these results, and share them with you as soon as possible. We are also happy to share a couple pictures of Elena in the backyard receiving some of her favorite therapy.

Thank you again everyone for being there for us,
-Peter, Elena and Maya.
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Francis Adams
19 months ago
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Oh! I don't know how to help other then to tell you that Medical pot has cured more people then Chemo. plus not near as expensive. Chemo kills cells that are need to fight the cancer, where medical marijuana kills the cancer cells. PLEASE get in touch with reliable people that know which product to use. I have friends who were told that they had a very short time to live and are cancer free now. They were just about down and out , so thought why not give it a go. Most were against pot because of the bad name rec. pot has. But medical is a far cry from rec. and very effective. If you wish I can put you in contact with people from our church, that have gone through this and were so against pot before. But are cancer free now without the danger of the cancer coming back because of the cells killed by Chemo. Frank Adams

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Cindy Lou Chiasson
19 months ago
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Please please go to the compassion club and get some help with Medical Marijuana. You dont have to smoke there are tons of other ways to use Marijuana medically and have a way better chance at survival than with Chemo which will kill you long before the cancer does. Get help hun before it is too late. For your families sake.

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Julianne B. Ricksecker
12 months ago

I am glad you have turned that corner in your grief process. I know from experience that you will never not miss her, and that there will still be moments where the pain is fresh and piercing. But to be ready to rejoice in the memories of what you shared, what you made together, that is a huge shift and I am glad you are there. I never met her, but I grieve that we lost her so young. I have not made everything she ever designed, but I grieve that she is not still creating new stuff for my granddaughters to enjoy. I never met you or Maya, but you both are in my heart often, when I work on a pattern that Elena created, or when I see one of the little ones wearing something I made from one of her patterns over the years. She was a generous spirit as well as a creative one, and I hope she continues to inspire us to be all that we can be while we still have time. Thanks for posting an update.

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Maria Bringas Cristiano
17 months ago

Thank you for sharing Peter. That is a lovely picture of Elena. She will always be in the hearts of the knitting community. Praying for the family.

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Lise Hyam
17 months ago

What a beautiful picture of a beautiful friend!

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Carol Quilici
17 months ago

Peter and Maya: I only knew Elena through the Ravelry-verse, and also buying her yarn on etsy. I cannot imagine what you are going through. I am so sorry for your loss. Elena was a very special woman, who was extremely generous with her knowledge and art and skill. Sending you much love and peace. ♥

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Laura Klement
17 months ago

I am so sorry for your loss. I'm sending you all the strength for this hard time and I'm sure many stitches will be knit with Elena in mind, she will not be forgotten.

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Angela Patterson
17 months ago

Sending deepest condolences from Australia. I feel so sad on hearing of the sudden loss of such an inspiring woman. May you be consoled knowing that Elena touched the lives of so many who did not know her personally but feel a special connection through her beautiful knitting patterns.

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Esther Laks Rubin
17 months ago

Although I don't know you and your family, my heart is breaking for you. I pray that you and Maya will find moments of comfort and strength in your grief knowing that Elena inspired so many people through her artistry and her fight to live.

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Olga Liakhovich
17 months ago

Lena will always be in our hearts! Her smile, her generosity will never leave us. Peter, I know you will be strong. For Maya. For Lena. Lot's of hugs and hoping to see you in nearest future.

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Lisa Scott
17 months ago

Oh I'm so sorry to hear the news. Huge hugs xx

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Diane DeBray
17 months ago

Peter, we are so shocked. If there is anything we can do for you, please let us know. Wool & Wicker will only bring in Colour Adventures hand paints as long as we are in business to honour Elena's legacy, and because I can never find anything better than her colours and the yarns she dyed. Thank goodness the yarns will live on with Camilla and Ryan. They are another wonderful couple we have been privileged to know and love.

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Gerlind Ni
17 months ago

I'm so sorry for your loss :-( Elena will stay in our hearts for ever

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Deborah Loker-Lee
17 months ago

I am so sorry for your loss - my heart goes out to you, your daughter, and your family.

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Hilda Brown
17 months ago

Peter, Maya, my heart breaks for you. Elena inspired so many people, and her work and talent will live on in the knitting community and beyond. The designs she created, the beautiful colours in the yarn, will last a lifetime. We, too, will always remember your Shining Star.

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Elena Rostovtsevae
17 months ago

Леночка, милая, держись! Химия - это тяжело, но это надежда, это жизнь. Ты самый добрый человек на свете, каких я знаю, ты сделала в жизни много добра, и ты будешь еще много-много его делать. Болезнь всегда отступает перед мужеством, у тебя его много. Верь в хорошее, что твои добрые дела вернутся к тебе выздоровлением. Анина мама.

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Deborah Loker-Lee
17 months ago

Thank you for posting these updates. Although I know you, Elena, only through the knitting community, I think of you often and pray for you and your family. I wonder if you follow Chris at www.chrisbeatcancer.com - he just posted a new podcast where he interviews Dr. John Kelly. I haven't listened to it yet, but it seems like it'll be a good one. :) I hope today is a good day for you! ♥

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Marlene Jones
18 months ago

I am so very sorry. I cannot donate at this time due to my 33 yr old daughter having the same cancer as your dear wife. She has 4 children and her is stage 3 and in her bladder also. I pray they both are granted more time than drs say. Im so afraid for my daughter as i know you are also. My daughter has twin 10 yr old boys and a 13 yr old boy as well as a 15 yr old girl. I cannot express how sad i was to hear of Elenas diagnosis. Its so disheartening to learn of another suffering. My daughter needs a total hysterectomy but at this pou t cannot have surgery to a severe lung infection. Once thats gone she will undergo surgery. If i do come across even an extra ten dollars i will surely help you and your family as I know how important it is to be with her as she goes through rough chemo. Im praying for her tumor to shrink. I am hopeful for her. May God be with during this time.

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Mugdha Shankar
18 months ago

Stay strong Elena. We hope you get better soon! Take lots of care and stay positive. Best, SS

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Suzanne Cavin Ledbetter
19 months ago

Please look into Gerson Therapy. Worth a try. So sorry!

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My deepest condolences for your loss. Elena was a superstar to me and I only met her once, in a shining moment when one glorious day her star passed my way. As a mother of two girls also, I want to send hugs and love and deepest, deepest comfort more than anything in the universe. Only having learned of her passing today, I want you to know that she is always in our hearts and not forgotten.

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Francis Adams
19 months ago
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Oh! I don't know how to help other then to tell you that Medical pot has cured more people then Chemo. plus not near as expensive. Chemo kills cells that are need to fight the cancer, where medical marijuana kills the cancer cells. PLEASE get in touch with reliable people that know which product to use. I have friends who were told that they had a very short time to live and are cancer free now. They were just about down and out , so thought why not give it a go. Most were against pot because of the bad name rec. pot has. But medical is a far cry from rec. and very effective. If you wish I can put you in contact with people from our church, that have gone through this and were so against pot before. But are cancer free now without the danger of the cancer coming back because of the cells killed by Chemo. Frank Adams

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Cindy Lou Chiasson
19 months ago
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Please please go to the compassion club and get some help with Medical Marijuana. You dont have to smoke there are tons of other ways to use Marijuana medically and have a way better chance at survival than with Chemo which will kill you long before the cancer does. Get help hun before it is too late. For your families sake.

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Julianne B. Ricksecker
12 months ago

I am glad you have turned that corner in your grief process. I know from experience that you will never not miss her, and that there will still be moments where the pain is fresh and piercing. But to be ready to rejoice in the memories of what you shared, what you made together, that is a huge shift and I am glad you are there. I never met her, but I grieve that we lost her so young. I have not made everything she ever designed, but I grieve that she is not still creating new stuff for my granddaughters to enjoy. I never met you or Maya, but you both are in my heart often, when I work on a pattern that Elena created, or when I see one of the little ones wearing something I made from one of her patterns over the years. She was a generous spirit as well as a creative one, and I hope she continues to inspire us to be all that we can be while we still have time. Thanks for posting an update.

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Maria Bringas Cristiano
17 months ago

Thank you for sharing Peter. That is a lovely picture of Elena. She will always be in the hearts of the knitting community. Praying for the family.

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Lise Hyam
17 months ago

What a beautiful picture of a beautiful friend!

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Carol Quilici
17 months ago

Peter and Maya: I only knew Elena through the Ravelry-verse, and also buying her yarn on etsy. I cannot imagine what you are going through. I am so sorry for your loss. Elena was a very special woman, who was extremely generous with her knowledge and art and skill. Sending you much love and peace. ♥

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Laura Klement
17 months ago

I am so sorry for your loss. I'm sending you all the strength for this hard time and I'm sure many stitches will be knit with Elena in mind, she will not be forgotten.

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Angela Patterson
17 months ago

Sending deepest condolences from Australia. I feel so sad on hearing of the sudden loss of such an inspiring woman. May you be consoled knowing that Elena touched the lives of so many who did not know her personally but feel a special connection through her beautiful knitting patterns.

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Esther Laks Rubin
17 months ago

Although I don't know you and your family, my heart is breaking for you. I pray that you and Maya will find moments of comfort and strength in your grief knowing that Elena inspired so many people through her artistry and her fight to live.

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Olga Liakhovich
17 months ago

Lena will always be in our hearts! Her smile, her generosity will never leave us. Peter, I know you will be strong. For Maya. For Lena. Lot's of hugs and hoping to see you in nearest future.

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Lisa Scott
17 months ago

Oh I'm so sorry to hear the news. Huge hugs xx

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Diane DeBray
17 months ago

Peter, we are so shocked. If there is anything we can do for you, please let us know. Wool & Wicker will only bring in Colour Adventures hand paints as long as we are in business to honour Elena's legacy, and because I can never find anything better than her colours and the yarns she dyed. Thank goodness the yarns will live on with Camilla and Ryan. They are another wonderful couple we have been privileged to know and love.

+ Read More
Gerlind Ni
17 months ago

I'm so sorry for your loss :-( Elena will stay in our hearts for ever

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Deborah Loker-Lee
17 months ago

I am so sorry for your loss - my heart goes out to you, your daughter, and your family.

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Hilda Brown
17 months ago

Peter, Maya, my heart breaks for you. Elena inspired so many people, and her work and talent will live on in the knitting community and beyond. The designs she created, the beautiful colours in the yarn, will last a lifetime. We, too, will always remember your Shining Star.

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Elena Rostovtsevae
17 months ago

Леночка, милая, держись! Химия - это тяжело, но это надежда, это жизнь. Ты самый добрый человек на свете, каких я знаю, ты сделала в жизни много добра, и ты будешь еще много-много его делать. Болезнь всегда отступает перед мужеством, у тебя его много. Верь в хорошее, что твои добрые дела вернутся к тебе выздоровлением. Анина мама.

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Deborah Loker-Lee
17 months ago

Thank you for posting these updates. Although I know you, Elena, only through the knitting community, I think of you often and pray for you and your family. I wonder if you follow Chris at www.chrisbeatcancer.com - he just posted a new podcast where he interviews Dr. John Kelly. I haven't listened to it yet, but it seems like it'll be a good one. :) I hope today is a good day for you! ♥

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Marlene Jones
18 months ago

I am so very sorry. I cannot donate at this time due to my 33 yr old daughter having the same cancer as your dear wife. She has 4 children and her is stage 3 and in her bladder also. I pray they both are granted more time than drs say. Im so afraid for my daughter as i know you are also. My daughter has twin 10 yr old boys and a 13 yr old boy as well as a 15 yr old girl. I cannot express how sad i was to hear of Elenas diagnosis. Its so disheartening to learn of another suffering. My daughter needs a total hysterectomy but at this pou t cannot have surgery to a severe lung infection. Once thats gone she will undergo surgery. If i do come across even an extra ten dollars i will surely help you and your family as I know how important it is to be with her as she goes through rough chemo. Im praying for her tumor to shrink. I am hopeful for her. May God be with during this time.

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Mugdha Shankar
18 months ago

Stay strong Elena. We hope you get better soon! Take lots of care and stay positive. Best, SS

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Suzanne Cavin Ledbetter
19 months ago

Please look into Gerson Therapy. Worth a try. So sorry!

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