Making Brianna-Mommy Memories

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Heather McManamy  MC FARLAND, WI
In April of 2013, Heather McManamy was diagnosed with stage 2b breast cancer. Despite doing everything "right" (including major surgeries and countless chemos), the cancer has metastasized in her liver and the current treatment is no longer working. In addition to liver mets, the cancer is also starting to grow in her bones. There is still hope. A lot of it. If doctors can find a treatment that will work, she can buy some time. But at some point, that treatment will stop working it and will be on to the next option. There is no cure for Heather's cancer. While cancer can be a chronic condition Heather can live with for awhile, the reality is that most people only get between two to three years. The unfortunate reality is that it is possible that none of the options doctors have will work in this case and it could be much less time than that. Ultimately, no matter how effective the treatments are, Heather will not get the time she had hoped to have with her three year old daughter, Brianna, and her loving husband, Jeff.

Given this information, oncologists have said NOW is the time to do the things The McManamys have always wanted to do. Heather will be in cancer treatment for the rest of her life and as time goes by, the side effects will make her sicker. Now is the time to enjoy things to their fullest while Heather is able to. And there are so many things to do: Disney World (Heather's one dream is to take Bri to see the princesses she loves so much), trips to Kalahari for Bri to splash in the waterpark, and time somewhere relaxing for Jeff and Heather to enjoy each moment peacefully away from the world of hospitals and scanning machines.

The truth is, as much as they never want to ask, they need help. They're going to need a lot of help. While Heather has been able to work over the past year, at some point she will no longer be able to. In addition to medical bills, there are expenses for things like a freezer to keep pre-made dinners so Bri and Jeff don't have to exist on solely McDonald's (as much as Bri would love that). A camera to have something more than cell phone pictures for Bri to look back on. Funeral costs (apparently, dying is expensive). And hopefully a small memorial in Bri and Heather's favorite place, Olbirch Gardens. Anything not needed now will be set aside for a lifetime of dance and swim lessons for Bri and maybe even something to help pay for her college education.

While there is still realistic hope in Heather's situation, and her family is holding onto that, the truth is that there is no way to predict what the future will hold. There could be a very short period of time to live a lifetime's worth of memories. The hope is for Heather to be at peace knowing Jeff and Bri can always hold onto those memories. This time is a gift that so many people don't get to have when their time comes and Heather is incredibly grateful for that. Heather and Jeff are lucky to have many amazing people in their life that want to help and this is one of many ways to do so. Thank you.
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Update 8
Posted by Heather McManamy
12 months ago
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A few people have been asking for updates on our situation, so I figure now is as good a time as any :)

This morning, I completed a short round of palliative spine radiation to see if I can get relief from some of my more painful bone mets (have I mentioned that bone mets hurt? Because they do...a LOT).

Despite quite a few hospital adventures thanks to chemo complications and other cancery woes, we have continued adjusting to our new normal of focusing on the quality of my remaining time vs. the ever-growing riskiness of pushing for quantity. After 2.5 years of chemo, my body simply can't handle what it used to. And what's the point of going through all of this if I can't enjoy what matters most: time with my family?

Thanks to amazing organizations like Jack and Jill Late Stage Cancer Foundation, we have managed to continue squeezing in amazing memory after surreal experience (hanging out with our new friends, the UW Badgers or Motley Crue, for example). We plan to continue living as we have been these past couple of years, soaking in every beautiful moment and laughing along the way. Because cancer or not, that's what life should be all about.

There's no way to predict what lies ahead, but we recently celebrated the best Thanksgiving yet, had a heck of a 36th birthday party-party for myself (I made it!), and Christmas 2015 officially starts now :)

Whatever lies ahead, we continue to live in the moment, thanks in large part to your wonderful words of support. Please know how grateful we are. Simply reading a kind message that someone took a moment out of a busy day to write can help turn a scary day around and put a genuine smile on my face. While there isn't much of a plan at the moment (what fun would that be?), I'm not dead and we will continue having fun, enjoying one another and making each day matter. Because the party certainly isn't over yet :)

Thank you again. For everything. Especially the sweet new wheelchair.
This sums things up well at the moment.
Despite a few setbacks....
We're soaking in every beautiful moment.
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Update 7
Posted by Heather McManamy
16 months ago
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After my near-death hospital experience last weekend, we have decided to power through with even more family memories crammed into each day than the one before. Today, we dipped into our fund to get Brianna her first pet: Goldie McManamy. It was amazing to be able to experience Bri's excitement (she was BESIDE herself with joy) and share such a big day with her. Seeing her reaction to her first pet, I literally bawled awesome tears. I'm so grateful to be here with her and Jeff for every special moment, no matter how small they may seem. To watch her hug and kiss the aquarium before bed, I felt incredibly lucky.

I also wanted to take a moment to say thank you again for the amazing outpouring of generosity for our family. It still leaves me speechless. And while the money is life changing and helps beyond words, it's the support and the messages that mean the world to us. At a very scary time, to be able to read those kind words and smile lifts us up. Thank you.

So now, as we patiently wait to see if this latest chemo can get a handle on things, rather than dwelling on what lies in our future, we are laughing and living in the moment with a love that makes each day matter. Thank you for helping us be able to do that.
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Update 6
Posted by Heather McManamy
18 months ago
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I am so incredibly happy that our sign went up at Olbrich Gardens. Bri and I now have a special place to visit on our frequent trips and she'll have the memory of us seeing it together when she goes back later and I'm not around (the wording was all her idea).
We've burned through two treatment options already and while it is discouraging to have failed so quickly knowing that treatment options are numbered, we still have plenty of hope. I was able to feel well enough to enjoy Bri's fourth birthday (best.birthday.ever) and have pretty good quality of life on my current chemo. We plan to pack a million memories into this summer to take advantage of every second, as remaining treatments will not be so easy. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for helping to make that happen.
Olbrich Gardens Tribute Trellis
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Update 5
Posted by Heather McManamy
24 months ago
Because some people still visit this page, I wanted to give another update. I recently came to the difficult realization that I can no longer work. Chemo and other treatments simply make me too exhausted. I need to save all of my energy to be able to enjoy every moment with Bri and Jeff to the fullest. There are too many important things that need to be done while I am still feeling well. Because it takes awhile for payments to kick in from disability and Social Security, please know that these donations truly changed our life. Rather than worrying about how to cover bills during this time, we can focus on each other. Again, thank you.
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Michel Quesnel
16 months ago
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Cancer CAN be cure..............pls watch these vidéo it will help you. https://youtu.be/ewjO3exoAwg http://www.greenmedinfo.com/blog/why-alkaline-approach-can-successfully-treat-cancer I had brain cancer stage 4 in 2012,the cure start with what we put in ours dishes. U can reach me at my facebook if you would like more info. Hope it will give you some hope..like it was for me in 2012

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Christa Plisko Califano
16 months ago
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I have recently been diagnosed with stage 4 melanoma...can I ask how long the letters took, i a thinking of doing that too.

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Laura Stratte
27 months ago
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I can't wait to see the pics of your Disney trip! I hope it involves matching princess dresses for you and Bri....

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Kay Bafus
12 months ago
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Please update how things are going for this dear family.

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Patryca Obanor
16 months ago
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Hi heather. I recommend u thinkig about alternative medicin. First u Need to know what cancer truely is. Try to change ur blood and bodys Ph level to Alkaline simply by switching ur diet to an alkaline diet. No meat, espacially Red one and No sugar to starve cancerogenic cells. Follow the e.g. GERSON THERAPHY, to start ask your husband to watch the documentary CANCER IS CURABLE NOW on youtube and have a strong believe. Find your everyday strength in prayers to god. Give it a try for there is nothing left to lose.For you and your beloved Familie.

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Kenny Andersson
27 months ago
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My mom died from cancer when I was 12, sadly we never got the opportunity to do much as the cancer was found when it was too late. As much as I'd love to help, I can't do anything more but to send hope that everything will go well.

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Jane Haralson
11 months ago

Prayers are lifted up for her family. She was a very special person, even if i didn't have the pleasure of knowing her. God bless the husband and daughter.

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Monica Vazquez
16 months ago

I found this info for you on www.Aleteia.org, may be you can google it to see more about "BIONEUROEMOCION" ... May our loving GOD richly bless you and your family. Hola, por favor , alguien que le haga llegar informacion a esta gran mujer sobre BIONEUROEMOCION, ENRICH CORBERA, busca por favor videos donde esta Enrich hablando sobre este tema, es muy posible que se pueda salvar. La medicina alopatica o convencional ya dice en este caso que no tienen solucion para su problema de salud, sin embargo con BIONEUROEMOCION podra salir de zona de riesgos..

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Clara Meyer
16 months ago

Here is a support page for moms with a terminal diagnosis. http://momalways.org/

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Marie Tolentino
16 months ago

Greetings in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. I prayed after I read of what you are going through right now. I will continue to pray for you and your family. God performed in miracles before and He still do it today. Please have Faith in GOD that He will miraculously heal your disease because His is able. He is a GOD who is able to heal the sick. He is our #1 Doctor. At my darkest moments due to my health condition too on 2009 to 2012..I never lose hope. I hold onto GOD's promises. If you have a Bible I encourage you to read it, and listen to christian songs from you tube..healing songs and others, it will lift you up...Songs that lifted me up with my situations then was "GOD Will Make A Way", "You Are My All I n All", "In Christ Alone One", "I Surrender All", & many more encouraging songs. Also, the Scripture that I put in my heart is this: Jeremiah 29:11 (New International Version) 11 For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. It is my prayer that you will see your daughter grow and graduate from Elementary, High School, and College, and see her get married and see your grandchildren from her and be with her for a long life, and that is my prayer too that GOD will extend your life. I'll call you sister although I do not know you personally, pray every seconds for miracle healing, talk to GOD everyday and believe, trust in HIM and most importantly have FAITH that HE will answer your prayers. I would like to share this verse from the Bible too. Matthew 7:7 "Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. May our loving GOD richly bless you and your family. Making letters to your daughter is great, and at the same time, believe in the Power of Prayers.

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Pauline Noel
16 months ago

I read your story from CNN's website and I loved it. I wanted to give you a gift that my parents have given me. Its a song I sing when I am sad, happy, anxious, happy, depressed, happy LOL. It can be used to create miracles in your life. Not saying that it will change your destiny but it will bring you peace and understanding and wisdom. The song is called HU and here is a video on youtube about it. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zvecTKM_-wk . Thank you again for sharing your beautiful story and in the process teaching others how to embrace life and to live it with a fullness of love. Sending you lots of love. Pauline Noel

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Katrina DeNeal
16 months ago

May God Bless you, He works miracles everyday. Please ensure that all of these wonderful memories be stored safely; even in a deposit box at a bank as these will be of the utmost importance and with every trip you make to get a card, will be more meaningful each day. I'm a firm believer in power of prayer. God bless your family.

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Franc Charoensuwan
16 months ago

Hello Heather, I am a freshman college student. My mom is currently going through the same process as she just discovered a 4th stage colon cancer not too long ago. Everyday, I am living with the fear of losing my mom very soon as I want her to see and be proud of my future accomplishment. Even though the situation looks really miserable, please stay hopeful. I still believe that everything will be better, both for you and for my mother. Never give up on hope. And please enjoy your Disney trip with your family and best of luck fighting this disease!

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Cathy Dean
16 months ago

What a beautiful way to leave a touching legacy for your daughter. If my mother left me these loving cards, they would completely comfort me and make me feel closer to her on that special occasion. I wish you nothing but love, happiness and light. Life should never be measure by its length, but rather by its joy. And I hope your life is an explosion of joy from here forward. You're a wonderful mother.

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Jennifer Malone
16 months ago

Praying for you and your family. I love the idea of the cards, and I encourage you to leave video as well. I believe in miracles and that God is a healer. Praying for you and hope that you get all the time you need to spend with your beautiful family. Always praying.

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Rick Rocco
16 months ago

Research showing a concoction of lysine, proline and other natural ingredients inhibit cancer cell proliferation and invasion of healthy cells. It also killed cancer cells Reducing tumor size. It may not be a cure but may slow down progression and would most likely at least help counter the negative effects of chemo and radiation. This is one study example. There are many more on the nih website. http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/15879623. Preferably, a daily dosage of the pharmaceutical composition includes: 13-70 mg/kg lysine, 10-56 mg/kg proline, 7-42 mg/kg arginine, 9.8-4 mg/kg ascorbic acid, 0.7-4.2 mg/kg magnesium, 13-70 mg/kg green tea extract, 3-14 mg/kg N-acetyl-cysteine, 0.0004-0.006 mg/kg selenium, 0.03-0.15 mg/kg copper, 0.01-0.1 mg/kg manganese, wherein the composition contains 24-25 wt % lysine, 16-25 wt % ascorbic acid and 22-25 wt % green tea extract. Hope this helps you.

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Prte Ravi
16 months ago

I am sending you all of my strength and mental energy as you go through this period.....build yourself up work out hard eat good gain weight muscle build up that immunity

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I also had Breastcancer....I think that is beautiful what you do (writing letters for your thogter. ..I hope you still have some magic moments with your family...strong hug

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Rachel O'Neal
11 months ago

Your story has moved me to tears, but what an amazing woman you must of been and spirit will live on to be. While I don't have much to give I hope this little bit helps for your daughter or husband.

Michel Quesnel
16 months ago
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Cancer CAN be cure..............pls watch these vidéo it will help you. https://youtu.be/ewjO3exoAwg http://www.greenmedinfo.com/blog/why-alkaline-approach-can-successfully-treat-cancer I had brain cancer stage 4 in 2012,the cure start with what we put in ours dishes. U can reach me at my facebook if you would like more info. Hope it will give you some hope..like it was for me in 2012

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Christa Plisko Califano
16 months ago
2
2

I have recently been diagnosed with stage 4 melanoma...can I ask how long the letters took, i a thinking of doing that too.

+ Read More
Laura Stratte
27 months ago
2
2

I can't wait to see the pics of your Disney trip! I hope it involves matching princess dresses for you and Bri....

+ Read More
Kay Bafus
12 months ago
1
1

Please update how things are going for this dear family.

+ Read More
Patryca Obanor
16 months ago
1
1

Hi heather. I recommend u thinkig about alternative medicin. First u Need to know what cancer truely is. Try to change ur blood and bodys Ph level to Alkaline simply by switching ur diet to an alkaline diet. No meat, espacially Red one and No sugar to starve cancerogenic cells. Follow the e.g. GERSON THERAPHY, to start ask your husband to watch the documentary CANCER IS CURABLE NOW on youtube and have a strong believe. Find your everyday strength in prayers to god. Give it a try for there is nothing left to lose.For you and your beloved Familie.

+ Read More
Kenny Andersson
27 months ago
1
1

My mom died from cancer when I was 12, sadly we never got the opportunity to do much as the cancer was found when it was too late. As much as I'd love to help, I can't do anything more but to send hope that everything will go well.

+ Read More
Jane Haralson
11 months ago

Prayers are lifted up for her family. She was a very special person, even if i didn't have the pleasure of knowing her. God bless the husband and daughter.

+ Read More
Monica Vazquez
16 months ago

I found this info for you on www.Aleteia.org, may be you can google it to see more about "BIONEUROEMOCION" ... May our loving GOD richly bless you and your family. Hola, por favor , alguien que le haga llegar informacion a esta gran mujer sobre BIONEUROEMOCION, ENRICH CORBERA, busca por favor videos donde esta Enrich hablando sobre este tema, es muy posible que se pueda salvar. La medicina alopatica o convencional ya dice en este caso que no tienen solucion para su problema de salud, sin embargo con BIONEUROEMOCION podra salir de zona de riesgos..

+ Read More
Clara Meyer
16 months ago

Here is a support page for moms with a terminal diagnosis. http://momalways.org/

+ Read More
Marie Tolentino
16 months ago

Greetings in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. I prayed after I read of what you are going through right now. I will continue to pray for you and your family. God performed in miracles before and He still do it today. Please have Faith in GOD that He will miraculously heal your disease because His is able. He is a GOD who is able to heal the sick. He is our #1 Doctor. At my darkest moments due to my health condition too on 2009 to 2012..I never lose hope. I hold onto GOD's promises. If you have a Bible I encourage you to read it, and listen to christian songs from you tube..healing songs and others, it will lift you up...Songs that lifted me up with my situations then was "GOD Will Make A Way", "You Are My All I n All", "In Christ Alone One", "I Surrender All", & many more encouraging songs. Also, the Scripture that I put in my heart is this: Jeremiah 29:11 (New International Version) 11 For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. It is my prayer that you will see your daughter grow and graduate from Elementary, High School, and College, and see her get married and see your grandchildren from her and be with her for a long life, and that is my prayer too that GOD will extend your life. I'll call you sister although I do not know you personally, pray every seconds for miracle healing, talk to GOD everyday and believe, trust in HIM and most importantly have FAITH that HE will answer your prayers. I would like to share this verse from the Bible too. Matthew 7:7 "Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. May our loving GOD richly bless you and your family. Making letters to your daughter is great, and at the same time, believe in the Power of Prayers.

+ Read More
Pauline Noel
16 months ago

I read your story from CNN's website and I loved it. I wanted to give you a gift that my parents have given me. Its a song I sing when I am sad, happy, anxious, happy, depressed, happy LOL. It can be used to create miracles in your life. Not saying that it will change your destiny but it will bring you peace and understanding and wisdom. The song is called HU and here is a video on youtube about it. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zvecTKM_-wk . Thank you again for sharing your beautiful story and in the process teaching others how to embrace life and to live it with a fullness of love. Sending you lots of love. Pauline Noel

+ Read More
Katrina DeNeal
16 months ago

May God Bless you, He works miracles everyday. Please ensure that all of these wonderful memories be stored safely; even in a deposit box at a bank as these will be of the utmost importance and with every trip you make to get a card, will be more meaningful each day. I'm a firm believer in power of prayer. God bless your family.

+ Read More
Franc Charoensuwan
16 months ago

Hello Heather, I am a freshman college student. My mom is currently going through the same process as she just discovered a 4th stage colon cancer not too long ago. Everyday, I am living with the fear of losing my mom very soon as I want her to see and be proud of my future accomplishment. Even though the situation looks really miserable, please stay hopeful. I still believe that everything will be better, both for you and for my mother. Never give up on hope. And please enjoy your Disney trip with your family and best of luck fighting this disease!

+ Read More
Cathy Dean
16 months ago

What a beautiful way to leave a touching legacy for your daughter. If my mother left me these loving cards, they would completely comfort me and make me feel closer to her on that special occasion. I wish you nothing but love, happiness and light. Life should never be measure by its length, but rather by its joy. And I hope your life is an explosion of joy from here forward. You're a wonderful mother.

+ Read More
Jennifer Malone
16 months ago

Praying for you and your family. I love the idea of the cards, and I encourage you to leave video as well. I believe in miracles and that God is a healer. Praying for you and hope that you get all the time you need to spend with your beautiful family. Always praying.

+ Read More
Rick Rocco
16 months ago

Research showing a concoction of lysine, proline and other natural ingredients inhibit cancer cell proliferation and invasion of healthy cells. It also killed cancer cells Reducing tumor size. It may not be a cure but may slow down progression and would most likely at least help counter the negative effects of chemo and radiation. This is one study example. There are many more on the nih website. http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/15879623. Preferably, a daily dosage of the pharmaceutical composition includes: 13-70 mg/kg lysine, 10-56 mg/kg proline, 7-42 mg/kg arginine, 9.8-4 mg/kg ascorbic acid, 0.7-4.2 mg/kg magnesium, 13-70 mg/kg green tea extract, 3-14 mg/kg N-acetyl-cysteine, 0.0004-0.006 mg/kg selenium, 0.03-0.15 mg/kg copper, 0.01-0.1 mg/kg manganese, wherein the composition contains 24-25 wt % lysine, 16-25 wt % ascorbic acid and 22-25 wt % green tea extract. Hope this helps you.

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Prte Ravi
16 months ago

I am sending you all of my strength and mental energy as you go through this period.....build yourself up work out hard eat good gain weight muscle build up that immunity

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