Gender Confirmation Surgery
I started my transition in 1999 in Texas at a time when it required an 8 hour drive to get to the nearest qualified doctor only to received a minimally awkward amount of care for my gender dysphoria.
My transition has dictated most of my life. If I had not had to go through all these surgeries to meet a minimum standard of comfort in my life I would have been focused on art and music long ago, lived poorly, enjoyed my life.
Instead I struggled for nearly 20 years to build a business from the ground up that, at the end of the day, was really about funding my transition, if I am to be honest.
I was fortunate enough that through a brief moment in my life when the business was running well, I was able to correct the masculinity wrought across my face, as well my voice, but shortly there-after the stability of my life and business fell apart and I have since been unable to afford the final surgery I need to finally find peace with my physical form.
I have been reticent to seek help in raising the funds for this because time and time again over the past five years people and circumstances have made me feel I was not worth this. That my transition was a luxury. That the adversity I faced was an inexcusable failure of my own doing.
I am not the pretty picture of a perfect trans woman. I am flawed through and through, but that shouldn't disqualify me from a level of empathy all who are trans are deserving of in this insurmountable struggle to find a baseline of physical peace in this incredibly bigoted and uncaring world.
I want to be done with the physical aspect of my journey so once and for all I can concentrate on the other aspects of my life that are so important, my Wife, my Daughter, my Friends, and my creative work.
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I am raising $25k to get gender confirmation surgery with Dr. Brassard in Canada. The total covers the base surgery cost, the flight there and back, and a buffer to cover medical supplies and time off from work.
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If you are supportive of this and have questions, I will be glad to answer.
If this fundraiser angers you or you hold hate in your heart towards me, just please leave me alone.
My transition has dictated most of my life. If I had not had to go through all these surgeries to meet a minimum standard of comfort in my life I would have been focused on art and music long ago, lived poorly, enjoyed my life.
Instead I struggled for nearly 20 years to build a business from the ground up that, at the end of the day, was really about funding my transition, if I am to be honest.
I was fortunate enough that through a brief moment in my life when the business was running well, I was able to correct the masculinity wrought across my face, as well my voice, but shortly there-after the stability of my life and business fell apart and I have since been unable to afford the final surgery I need to finally find peace with my physical form.
I have been reticent to seek help in raising the funds for this because time and time again over the past five years people and circumstances have made me feel I was not worth this. That my transition was a luxury. That the adversity I faced was an inexcusable failure of my own doing.
I am not the pretty picture of a perfect trans woman. I am flawed through and through, but that shouldn't disqualify me from a level of empathy all who are trans are deserving of in this insurmountable struggle to find a baseline of physical peace in this incredibly bigoted and uncaring world.
I want to be done with the physical aspect of my journey so once and for all I can concentrate on the other aspects of my life that are so important, my Wife, my Daughter, my Friends, and my creative work.
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I am raising $25k to get gender confirmation surgery with Dr. Brassard in Canada. The total covers the base surgery cost, the flight there and back, and a buffer to cover medical supplies and time off from work.
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If you are supportive of this and have questions, I will be glad to answer.
If this fundraiser angers you or you hold hate in your heart towards me, just please leave me alone.
Organizer
Devi Ever
Organizer
Hillsboro, OR