Mick Deaver Family Medical Fund
As some of you may know, the Deaver family experienced a tragic accident last Friday night, 11/18/16. Shawn and Jennifer’s son, Mick, attends high school and plays hockey in Boston. While at a tournament in New Jersey over the weekend, Mick had a collision with a player on the opposite team. As Shawn said, I’ve seen this hit a million times, and 99% of the time it’s ok. But this time it wasn’t. Shawn and Jennifer watch all of Mick’s games by live internet feed. They saw the accident happen and watched as Mick lie on the ice for 30 minutes as medical personnel attended to him. I can’t even imagine the pain of feeling so helpless while you are hundreds of miles away and unable to help your child.
Mick was taken to Robert Wood Johnson University Hospital in New Brusnwick, New Jersey, and is currently in pediatric ICU. Mick has damage to the C5 vertebrate. As of today (11/21), Mick has feeling in his lower extremities, but cannot move his legs or feet. He is able to move his upper arms. He is conscious and able to speak. Mick had surgery Sunday morning, and is scheduled to have a second surgery on Tuesday.
This is all so new, that there is not much more information available yet. Mick is expected to be at the New Jersey hospital at least four weeks before he will be transported. It is too early to know what feeling and movement he will regain. We are all hopeful and prayerful that Mick makes a full recovery and gets his butt back on the ice asap!
The Deaver family will experience much stress as the holidays approach. The Deaver clan is together in New Jersey for Thanksgiving. Jennifer and Mary will head back to Columbia early next week. Shawn will stay with Mick until he’s ready to come home. The hospital has provided housing for Shawn and Jennifer at the local Ronald McDonald house. Shawn is actually considering getting a job while in New Jersey so he can continue to help support the family in some capacity.
Undoubtedly, the physical, emotional, and financial stress will be a huge burden on this awesome family. Let’s all show our support, first in prayer, and second in giving. This is something that we, as parents, have nightmares about. Let’s all help make this road to recovery as quickly and painlessly as possible.
We thank you in advance for any and all contributions. Please give what you can and share with your friends and family. No amount is too small! Shawn and Jennifer have promised to keep us updated, so we will make updates on this site as information arrives.
With Deepest Thanks
On the Road…. and exceedingly grateful to be moving to the next phase.
Mick and Shawn are leaving New Jersey and on their way home.
It has been six months since Mick has experienced his life changing accident on November 18, 2016. Since then, the Deavers have been blessed by an outpouring of kindness from friends, family and strangers who identified with their situation and provided unwavering help along the way. There have been a number of special people placed in Mick’s path that are nothing short of divine intervention. Each and everyone has contributed substantially to his overall advancement and well-being. In retrospect, it has been an overwhelmingly humbling experience for the Deavers. From his therapists (with family connections in Columbia) to the various patients that have formed a solid supportive friendship that continually encourages each other, to the physician who selected Mick to participate in a trial study designed to help treat wounded servicemen and women with similar injuries.
The road to recovery has been bumpy at times with additional health issues. Mick experienced the incredible discomfort of kidney stones requiring surgery and a stent. Followed by weeks of recovery which delayed his therapy progress.
Then there is geographic gap that has separated the Deavers. With Mick and Shawn in NJ and Mary and Jennifer in Columbia. Expenses of two households, transportation, out of pocket medical expenses, etc.
Mick has maintained a positive attitude and continues to display his strong determination and hard work to meet his goal to return to full mobility.
Mick is excited to share the attached video which documents his progress and has allowed him the opportunity to move back to Columbia.
As Mick and his family continue to meet the daily challenges there is still so much unknown. There will be new physicians, new therapists, the transfer of medical records, additional equipment to facilitate his recovery, and modifications to their home to accommodate Mick. Much of which isn’t covered by insurance or or if it is, the reimbursement level is a fraction of the actual cost. The insurance company seems to limit or challenge most claims which only adds to stress of the family.
The Deavers fully understand the window for Mick’s recovery and are striving to provide the best opportunities for him. Mick will be returning to his studies once a method has been agreed upon to faciltate his limited hand and finger functions.
Please join us in helping the Deavers make it through this next phase. Your prayers and financial support can make the difference. If you are uncomfortable with the overhead costs of “Go Fund Me” just shoot me an email (email@example.com) and I will share with you how to make a direct donation to the Special Needs Trust established for Mick at the Landmark Bank in Columbia.
Thank you for your interest, prayers and support. You are making a huge difference in the life of this amazing young man.
Stay strong ……29
We knew that a day would come when this boy would rise again! Baby steps, and this was one giant leap forward! With the help of his nurses, Mick was able to stand upright and take a step forward. He still has little to no movement in his left leg, but he is regaining movement in his right leg. With that said, Shawn said that Mick was able to move his left big toe a couple of days ago. It went something like this, "Dad, come here.....look at my toe!" It's the little things, right?
So other than this huge step forward, there hasn't been much other news to report. A few things.... Mick was in and out of the hospital two weeks ago with a kidney infection and stones. He had a high fever and felt very sick, but a few days in the hospital, and one quick return trip, brought him back to his normal self. Sad, but good news, Mick's buddy, Scotty, has recovered to the point of being able to go home. Although it is great news for Scotty, I know that his companionship is certainly missed. And a little personal news on Shawn......he and Scotty's dad are in a weight loss competition. Shawn has lost 18 lbs. Go Shawn! That's it for now, but we will try and keep the updates more frequent. And as you can see by the video, there is still a long way to go. Please keep the donations coming for this awesome family!
The last two weeks have been positive for Mick and the Deaver family. Mick turned 18 last month, they were able to celebrate Christmas together, and Mick had several visitors over the Christmas holiday. But the really exciting news is that Mick has some improvement in mobility! He is regaining movement in his right hand and able to move his fingers! And equally exciting, he has some movement in his right leg and able to bend his right knee! Huge!! His left side is dragging behind, but baby steps are good!
Mick is scheduled for a visit to the hospital this week to see his doctor. They will determine if his neck brace can be removed at this point.
Mick continues to work hard and push his therapists harder than they are pushing him! He is ready to get better, and his hard work and great attitude will get him there! As always, please continue to pray for Mick and all of the Deavers. And please continue to support financially through GoFundMe whenever possible.
I just had the privilege of staying with Mick and Shawn for three days at the Kessler Rehab facility. Friends are honest, open, and tell it like it is. They do not sugar coat things. Please keep this in mind as you read this update! Now that I’ve seen Mick, I will give you my observations first hand.
Mick has an incredible spirit and zest for life. He has his bad moments of course, but generally, he is smiling, outgoing, fun, and anxious to work and get better. He gets aggravated when his PT and OT therapists don’t work him hard enough. He is ready to take on this battle, and he is confronting it head on.
Mick has a new set of wheels! This electric wheel chair gives Mick the ability and FREEDOM to move about the building on his own. He must be loaded into the chair of course, but he can operate the speed, direction, and tilt of the chair on his own. We’ll get more into his abilities later, but he is able to use his right arm and wrist to make this happen. Up until a few days ago, he has been limited to a hospital bed for the last month. So this is huge, and his first steps to independence.
Mick is the youngest person in the rehab, but he is making new friends. There is one guy, in particular, that is going to have a huge impact on Mick. His name is Scotty Cranmer. Scotty is a 29 year old BMX champion that had a terrible accident about a month before Mick. We sat with Scotty and his parents for hours talking last Friday. He is going to be an amazing role model, and he is about a month ahead of Mick on his journey. He has regained some movement in his hands and legs, and he rules the “halls” in his chair. He has the most amazing attitude and gratefulness for life. He’s helpful, inquisitive, and just a great all around guy. He’s a great inspiration. I highly recommend that you watch his YouTube video below. He explains, first hand, the challenges that he has, and how he is overcoming those challenges.
Mobility – Basically, Mick has to relearn just about every movement and all of those everyday actions that we take for granted……like scratching his nose, or picking up a fork, or directing that fork to his mouth, or holding a cup, etc. With PT and OT, they jump right in to some of these activities. Mick wears a wrist band that holds a fork for eating and a stylus for texting on his phone. No more “Hey Siri”….now he has to work for it! Mick has PT/OT for three hours a day (Monday – Friday) and about 45 minutes on Saturday. They also have other sessions, such as, “lunch session”. This is where he goes to lunch and works on feeding abilities. Scotty describes it perfectly in his video. It’s like all of his muscles are asleep, and he has to awaken each one of them again.
Cool stuff last week – Mick received a surprise in the mail from Mike Eruzione. Mr. Eruzione sent Mick an autographed US Olympic jersey and picture of the old 1980 US Olympic team when they won the gold medal beating the Soviets (and others). Very exciting! He also received a flash drive that contained a video made by his hockey team (The Boston Bandits). We watched it this weekend, and it was awesome….not a dry eye in the room…..at least Shawn and I…. I’ll post the video, but the airline lost my luggage today! So, I’ll post it tomorrow hopefully.
Jennifer and Mary are headed to New Jersey on Thursday, so they will all get to spend Christmas together! The amount of prayerful, financial, and emotional support that the Deaver’s are receiving is humbling. It truly shows how each one of them has touched this world. With that said, please keep it coming. It will be needed for a long time to follow.
The Bad and The Ugly
I’ll combine these since they tend to cross over each other. Let’s start with mobility. Mick is able to move his right arm with some consistency. He does not have total control, but he does have some movement. For instance, he can raise his arm some, but he could not raise it over his head. He can raise it just enough to get a fork to his mouth. He can also bend his right wrist. This is how he operates the chair. He can bend his wrist up and down/side to side over the controls to drive. He hit the wall a few times on day 1, but he’s getting better! He also ran over Shawn’s toe once which wasn’t pretty! The left arm and wrist are dragging behind. He definitely has dominance and strength in his right. He cannot move his fingers at all. They stay in somewhat of a curled position for the time being. There will be more work to follow soon with his fingers. Mick can move his head and neck to some extent. He wears a neck brace, so that limits his ability to turn his head, but he does have the ability to do so.
As far as mobility, that’s pretty much it. He cannot move his legs, feet, or toes. He cannot turn over, scooch, or roll over. He can only lay on his back. He must be strapped into his chair. Mick cannot feel hot or cold in his legs and feet. However, they do play a hot/cold game with his toes, and he has learned to cheat! He felt a water drip on his foot so he assumed, correctly, that it was ice melting! He does have some feeling in his legs, but I’m a little confused on this. He gets his shots in his right leg because he can’t feel the shot. He also can’t feel when Shawn pulls one of his leg hairs!
In order to get out of bed, he must be lifted with a small lift machine and placed in his chair. Watch Scotty’s YouTube video and you can see how this is done. There is no more humility. You pretty much lose all humility when everything has to be done for you, and I mean everything. He must be bathed, catheterized, lifted, dressed, teeth brushed, scratched, etc. Mick is incredible, and handling all of this like a true champion. I think most people would have self pity and be totally depressed. But not this kid. I’m really proud of you Mick!
More to follow on a regular basis now that I know the procedures!
Please have a very Merry and Blessed Christmas! And please continue to send prayers and financial support!
Hi, My name is Bernadette and I am with the Christopher & Dana Reeve Foundation Paralysis Resource Center. If someone would give Mick's parents my contact information, I am happy to assist them in navigating their way. Best, Bernadette Mauro Director, Information and Resource Services Christopher & Dana Reeve Foundation Paralysis Resource Center www.paralysis.org 1-800-539-7309
Dear Deaver Family, My name is Steve Nichols. My son Michael like Mick was injured in a HS hockey game on January 4th, 2014 when he was checked from behind and broke his C5 Vertebrae leaving him a Quadriplegic. Almost three years have passed since Mikey's injury and he has come so far. Mike was inpatient and outpatient at Kessler after 51/2 weeks in ICU. Believe me when I say I understand what you are going through. Mike and I would gladly chat or visit you at Kessler. Mike and Mick can talk some puck, and Shawn and I can talk about our courageous sons and their hockey mentality. You can check out our Facebook page prayformikey23 if you would like or you can contact me at 917 763 2120. I definitely know you are being bombarded by well wishers and may decide to disregard this comment, and that is ok. If we can help in any way please feel free to reach out. Best wishes for a speedy and successful recovery.
I don't know this young man or his family, but seeing that video & reading your update brought tears to my eyes! I am so so happy for him & the progress he has made. I'm a mom of a hockey player & they are some of the toughest people I know! Best wishes on his continued recovery!
Way to go Mick! You've always been a hard worker. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. ♥️
Hi Mick, I'm so excited to hear about your progress. Keep it up. WE enjoyed our visit in December, it was nice to meet your Dad. I know you will keep moving forward. I cant image you would have it any other way. Happy Birthday Beth Kassab (Matt's mom)
Lucky to have had the opportunity to bring Bailey and Brendon, yesterday, to visit this amazing young man, We were nervous heading in to see him, but true to who he is, he was the one that put us all at ease and made us comfortable, with his quick wit, and easy going manner. He has a long and difficult road ahead of him, but from his outlook and attitude you would never know it! Looking forward to visiting again soon!