A Home For David And Adam

With the passing of our parents Arlene and Edward. David(my older brother) and I find ourselves with no way to stay in our home and no money to find a new home. I have been the caretaker for both my sick Parents and David . David as many may know is mentally challenged and deaf. I as many may not know i have survived Aides and am now living with HIV. At the moment we are living in the home our parents rented for us all (  Edward, Arlene, David, Adam, Malachi, and Sean.) With the passing of our Brother Malachi about 8yrs ago and Sean getting engaged and moving out. It left them with to big a house and less financial contributors. Then dad got sick. advanced c.o.p.d. The caregiving started and expenses started rolling in . Time off from my small paying but very rewarding job started. Medicines/Medical expenses and doctor appointments were priorities. All the while trying to maintain my H.I.V, Edwards, David's  and our mothers minor c.o.p.d as well. All their meds, doctor appointments had to be arrange and distributed. The house maintained and household expenses . Then my mother got the worst news CANCER. After over four years of chasing the cancer around her body and two separate strokes, and our father developing a hart condition. their bodies and minds said enough. Arlene and Edward passed this April  one week apart of each other, leaving nothing but our love for them to sustain us. i have so little time and so little monies and much to do trying to manage David's grief and incomprehension of our loss as well as prepairing to move ( where and how i have no idea) . His greif is expressed by anger directed at me (as though i could cure cancer, c.o.p.d, and H.I.V ). This is part of his emotional disability. his acidemic level is at about 3rd grade as is his emotional level. Of course he can fix just about anything i.e.  lawmowers. Sean my youngest brother. helps with a lot but i cant bring myself to  ask him for more. He is so young and just starting out in his life with his wonderful fiancé' Sara. As I wright this David and I are living in this house it has only been 1 month since my mother and fathers passing grief is so overwhelming. One day she was fine ready to fight this evil cancer, then next she was in the hospital delearous, as the cancer spread through her brain. We can not pay the bills alone, everything was in our parents name. I wish I could have done more  to sustain them in life. All my free time was spent in careing for their health and nutrition and living enviroment. As a caregiver i was working triple time and a half. My concern is David he needs a stable environment to be well, a small 2 bedroom home not a money robing 4 bedroom rental . A small morgage is much more sustainable than the rental of almost 3000.00 monthly. His Mom and dad gave everything. They could and sacrificed so much of their selves to provide for us, I am afraid  all that thiey gave could just end up seeing David in some institution or worse on the streets. Emotionaly David just shuts down when ever i talk to him about having to move, he (being deaf) just signs why and where is mom doctors will fix her, it breaks my hart.  I am so humbled by our situation and know many people have life changing problems. I just don't know where to turn. We just want to get us back to normal (whatever that means).  Work hard pay the bills and COME HOME and know we will be ok together is close enough for me. Any donations are humbly appreciated and your thoughtfulness will never be forgotten,,,, AS OUR PARENTS WILL NEVER BE, 
WE  LOVE YOU MOM AND DAD….

UPDATED 3-weeks Dad 4/6/17
                         2- weeks Mom 4/13/17
Thanks to all who have supported us durring this difficult time your words, thoughts, prayers and donations are verry comforting...

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