Connor's resting plot

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On 22/09/17 I had two beautiful, identical twin boys via emergency C-section. Connor was born first weighing 3lb 14oz, then Sam arrived weighing 2lb 8oz. We were on cloud 9, they were perfect, tiny and our little miracles. My husband was amazing, he kept running to the NICU and back to me (on crutches as he'd had an operation on his knee the same day) as I'd lost 4 litres of blood and needed a transfusion. Colin didn't want to leave me or our sons. He was in agony but didn't allow it to stop him being with all of us. Our bliss didn't last long. Quickly the boys needed support with their breathing, Connor began to have seizures and was put into a medical coma. The Oliver Fisher Unit at Medway hospital went above and beyond. I can't type everything that happened as it's unbearable. So I'll try my best to explain what I can. On day 4 we were told that Sam had a hole in his bowel and needed urgent life saving surgery at GOSH, so Colin travelled with Sam to London and I stayed with Connor in Kent.  From that moment on Connor quickly deteriorated. I watched at the internal bleeding left my perfect boy deformed. Each day he looked more and more different. It was horrific. Connor had a rare heart condition called hypertrophic cardiomyopathy. That started uncontrolled bleeding into his organs. On the 28/09/17 his consultant told me he needed to speak with me and Colin together, so my Mum went to stay with Sam at GOSH whilst Colin travelled back to Medway.  We were taken into a room and told Connor has been declared brain dead due to the bleed on his brain. He died the next day in my arms. We had a small and private funeral service for him. Colin and I spent the rest of our time focusing on our children Faye, Joe, Oliver and Sam.  I'm not well enough to work and Colin has had to take care of everything. We're unable to save the money to buy Connor a plot and headstone at the cemetery and our Christmas wish is that we're able to lay Connor to rest properly and have somewhere to grieve.  Thank you for reading and for any donations. Love the Ives family  Xxxxx You can also donate via PayPal. paypal.me/NatalieIves09 Thank you for your extraordinary love and support! Xxx 
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Thank you again for all of your amazing donations, after choosing a headstone and realising that I've been looking at prices for plaques and not headstones I will be editing the target amount. I do feel very silly!

Connor is being buried on the 11th of January 2019. if not for the generosity of MGF along with family and friends we wouldn't have been able to lay him to rest properly. I truly wish you never understand how greatful we are. There is absolutely nothing worse than losing a child.

Thank you for your continued support and love!

The Ives family
Xxxxxx
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So I have had 3 hours sleep, I've spent the last two days trolling the country for a suitable burial urn for our beautiful son Connor.

Finally with much relief we have ordered the perfect one for our angel.

We are so thankful to the wonderful company for their assistance.
The best parents online group EVER (MGF)
Our secret Santa
All the friends and family who have donated
Most of all a lady I had the privilege of meeting, who without her input and wonderful advice The Ives family Christmas wish would not have happened. Karen Salem, you are such a caring and compassionate person. Thank you for listening and being an absolute beaut!

With lots of love

The Ives family
Xxxxxx
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long story short...

With being so focused on getting Connor's plot and headstone at no point did I think about a burial urn. so I have had to edit the amount we're raising to hopefully cover the urn too.

Apologies for any confusion. I've never had to do this before and I didnt realise how strict things have become regarding what you can and can't have and use. I'm so stressed out right now I feel dizzy with it all.

Thank you again to all who have already donated.
I know this is such an enormous ask right on top of Christmas!

We really are so very greatful. Below is another way you can donate.

All our love. The Ives family Xxxxxx

paypal.meNatalieIves09
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some of you have continued to donate even though we have reached our target amount to purchase Connor's grave and a headstone.

Your magnificent donations will either buy him a really good quality headstone or it will be put towards his decorations like solar lights so he's never without light and special ornaments which we will let the children choose.
I will have to check if I'm allowed but I'd also like to plant some Blue Bells and ForgetMeNots.

I can not thank you all enough! A vast majority of Connor's donations have come from members of a Facebook group called Mummy's Gin Fun (MGF).
The funds we're raised in just 3 days which is astonishing!
We have most definitely felt the power of GIN. The love and support from each of our donors has overwhelmed us in the most beautiful way.

I'd like to take this opportunity to send you all our most sincere gratitude. Especially MGF #nomumleftbehind

With all our love
The Ives family
Xxxxxx
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