Cathy Day's Cancer Fight
Back in June of 2018, my wife Cathy was diagnosed with ovarian cancer, stage 3. This revelation came in the middle of my own health crisis, and knocked us out of commission for the rest of the year. Cathy is currently undergoing chemotherapy and taking blood thinners to remove a blood clot in her leg as we await her inevitable surgery. I will be having two minor surgeries at the end of the year that, while necessary for my health and survival going forward, will require two weeks of recovery time. On top of all of this comes our insurance renewal and we are uncertain if we'll get to keep our existing plan, or if we will have to switch, and if they will allow our extant pre-existing conditions. Both surgeries will happen AFTER our deductible has reset.
That's a lot to deal with, along with ongoing expenses, a brace of prescriptions, and regular trips to see doctors in Wichita Falls and the Metroplex.
Our friends have been so helpful and encouraging with well-wishes and support and we were hoping we wouldn't have to do this, but the recent discovery of the clot in Cathy's leg has forced our hand.
The amount above covers our out of pocket expenses that we have already incurred, and will have to pay out at the beginning of the year. Some of the fees associated with my surgeries are not covered by insurance, either. Finally, the above amount includes time when we won't be able to work, but still need to eat food.
Many of our friends and family, and many of my fans, have expressed an interest in helping out. We are profoundly grateful and humbled by all of this. Your positive energy has kept Cathy afloat on many days when she was overwhelmed by side-effects from the chemotherapy and the medicines that go with it. If you are so inclined, we are appreciative of any donation. If you live near us in North Texas and would like to do something more immediate and face-to-face, one of our friends set up a Meal Train account for us that you can check out here.
As Cathy and I were raised by Baby Boomers and feel tremendous guilt at even asking for this kind of help, I have decided that anyone who makes a donation of $25 dollars or more will get a PDF copy of our wedding comic, On Our Marry Way, emailed to them. This was an actual comic book we gave out at our wedding and later sold through Diamond Comic Distributors in 2004. I wrote the stories, and my artist friends provided the artwork; John Lucas, Bobby Diaz, Bill Williams, Jeff Parker, Doug Potter, Shannon Wheeler, and Martin Thomas all gave up time and talent to make the comic one of the highlights of the wedding. If you like stories about how people meet people, and fall in love, then On Our Marry Way is the romance comic for you!
My surgeries happen in Early December. With luck, Cathy's surgery will take place in January or February. This will be followed up with more chemotherapy. We're not out of the woods yet, but we are keeping our heads up and taking great joy and comfort in the people who matter to us: friends and family, neighbors and fans. And of course, each other and our goofy dog, Sonya. It's been a difficult, emotional year for us, and yet, we are closer than ever.
Thank you for reading this far, and for considering to help out with our ongoing medical expenses. We appreciate it, and we love you.
Unbelievable. You people...I mean, really, now. We quietly crossed the 50% funded milestone yesterday, and I just wanted to let everyone know how incredibly grateful we both are. This has been on our minds a lot lately as we have begun to navigate the process of re-acquiring insurance for the coming year.
Thank you so much. Please keep sharing, or if you know someone who knows us who might not be on Facebook or other social media, please make them aware of our situation.
We took a day trip recently. It did not go as expected. If you're interested in a (somewhat) humorous recounting of our experiences, please visit my blog and check out "Nobody Vomits Gracefully:" http://marktheaginghipster.blogspot.com/
Much Love from the North Texas Apocalypse Watch Bunker,
Mark and Cathy
Amazing. Your tweets and retweets, posts and shares, all of that, has happened 770 times and the page itself has been viewed over 2,000 times.
And I've still got people messaging me saying they can't do anything right now, but they will as soon as X or Y happens. Again, I'm blown away. We are just humbled and grateful.
This week has been hard on both of us. We were supposed to be heading into surgery today. Our attempts at personal distraction have been only somewhat successful. I think the worst is coming this weekend, and I anticipate daily magic shows and tap-dancing on my part to keep Cathy in an upbeat frame of mind.
Having good news like this to report to her is enormous. Thanks, everyone.
We assumed, like most people, I think, that a lot of our friends would donate a small amount and that would get us where we need to be. But that's not what happened. We have been getting massive donations from friends and family, numbers and amounts that have stunned us into wonderment.
Cathy finally got all of her cards and letters up on the Wall of Grace. She's also excited to wear her purple wig, in honor of Halloween. Mostly we're just incredulous that we are four dollars short of six thousand raised for this campaign, and in so few days.
This week will be very hard on Cathy--this was the week she was supposed to have her surgery, before they found the blood clot in her leg. My job then is to keep her as distracted and thinking about other things as possible. We are planning a quick day trip to Denton, Texas, in the middle of the week, and I may need to plan another Staycation if that doesn't do the trick.
If you are so inclined and have the time, I know Cathy would appreciate a note of encouragement, especially after this most recent setback. Please don't feel obligated to do this. If you're seeing this, you have already helped more than you can possibly know.
That news is what really pushed us into finishing the set up on this campaign, as we now knew it would be an economic necessity. We did the math and came up with the number, and I thought to myself, "It's too much. It's just too much. This is how people fall off of the face of the Earth, buried under medical debt." So this was a Hail Mary Pass, however you want to define it.
We were both stunned and humbled by the initial outpouring of support and donations and the sharing. It's just been incredible, and also, very uplifting to both of us, that you think so much of us that you'd help out. I know that sounds weird, but we've all got our own trials and tribulations going on, some of you more than others, so I know what Twenty-Five or Fifty dollars means to you. I want you all to know, it means the same thing to us.
We're almost a quarter of the way to full funding. If you are inclined to share the campaign, especially after reading the wedding comic--I mean, come on!--we remain grateful. Thanks for helping us.