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My name is Jessica and I am a mom of two beautiful boys. I have created this page to help them because I am now in a position where I cannot.
In 2009, I married a man who was physically, mentally and emotionally abusive to me. I stayed married to him because he controlled all of our money and I knew I could not afford to take care of my children by myself.
In 2012, I finally gathered my courage to leave him. I finally admitted to my family and close friends about everything. My dad allowed me to borrow money and I hired an attorney for a divorce and we have been in a legal battle ever since. During our divorce DCF became involved because of the abuse I suffered during our marriage. I was heartbroken to learn my oldest son, who was 5 at the time, told a DCF worker about how his mommy was beaten and covered holes in the wall that his daddy made with his pictures he drew. I had always assumed that my kids were safe in their rooms and didn't see or hear anything. My son also disclosed during his interviews that he was abused. I will never be able to forgive myself for allowing such an awful person hurt my children and I have done everything in my power since to keep them safe since.
I am not financially secure because of the legal fees I have incurred during my divorce. Unfortunatly, I was not granted sole custody of my children and they have been forced to visit with my exhusband. DCF has been involved several times and I am working as hard as I can to get my children to where they will be safe from his abuse. My ex plays mental games with my children telling them awful things and yelling at them constantly when they are with him. It breaks my heart more everytime something happens because I know that when I called the police when I was scared during our mariage, I should have never lied to protect him because I hurt my children in the longterm.
In 2014, I did remarry an amazing man who has stood by me and worked just as hard as me to fund this legal battle. I am now in more financial hardship because we are in court again. I was informed that my exhusband wanted to terminate his rights as my childrens' father because he got his girlfriend pregnant and does not want to pay child support (which he is thousands behind on and not paying). Now that he has requested to terminate his rights, he is not signing the paperwork and using his "visitation rights" to force me to live away from my husband, who is living in Colorado and is also creating huge expenses for us. It looks like he was only saying he wanted to terminate his rights to prolong us getting a court date.
As of right now I owe well over $7,000 to my amazing attorney and we still have a LONG fight ahead of us. I had to stop working earlier this year because my children have been having a difficult time in school. My youngest is developmentally delayed and my oldest is attending therapy frequently, which is also quite expensive. The emotional hardships they have endured for so long are affecting them and I am trying my best to help them. I have been taking side jobs, such as babysitting and cleaning, and my husband works more than full time to help pay for bills but at this point I am drowning. I already had to file bancruptcy after my divorce because my exhusband left all the medical bills to me and he left the state for a year.
To anyone who has read this, I would greatly appreciate anything you could donate to help my children. This battle is to save them from a man who is using them to hurt me. He knows my children mean more to me than anything in this world and I would give my life if I knew they would be safe, happy and healthy for the rest of their lives.
My ex told me he would make me miserable for the rest of my life and seeing my children hurt the way that they do is killing me. I promise every penny will be given to my attorney to pay her for her services and if for some reason I receive more than needed I will donate the extra money to a women's shelter to help other women that are or were like me and find themselves in the scariest situations of their lives. The affect of abuse on someone doesn't stop after the wounds can no longer be seen. I am going to keep fighting because my kids need me to and I am hoping you could help me help them.
Writing all of this and explaining my situation has been really difficult because I never want to be defined by the abuse I endured but I am hoping my story helps others and that in return someone who may have a little extra could help me continue my fight. Anything helps! Donated money would help the quickest but I will take job offers, prayers and advice!
Thank you so much!
In 2009, I married a man who was physically, mentally and emotionally abusive to me. I stayed married to him because he controlled all of our money and I knew I could not afford to take care of my children by myself.
In 2012, I finally gathered my courage to leave him. I finally admitted to my family and close friends about everything. My dad allowed me to borrow money and I hired an attorney for a divorce and we have been in a legal battle ever since. During our divorce DCF became involved because of the abuse I suffered during our marriage. I was heartbroken to learn my oldest son, who was 5 at the time, told a DCF worker about how his mommy was beaten and covered holes in the wall that his daddy made with his pictures he drew. I had always assumed that my kids were safe in their rooms and didn't see or hear anything. My son also disclosed during his interviews that he was abused. I will never be able to forgive myself for allowing such an awful person hurt my children and I have done everything in my power since to keep them safe since.
I am not financially secure because of the legal fees I have incurred during my divorce. Unfortunatly, I was not granted sole custody of my children and they have been forced to visit with my exhusband. DCF has been involved several times and I am working as hard as I can to get my children to where they will be safe from his abuse. My ex plays mental games with my children telling them awful things and yelling at them constantly when they are with him. It breaks my heart more everytime something happens because I know that when I called the police when I was scared during our mariage, I should have never lied to protect him because I hurt my children in the longterm.
In 2014, I did remarry an amazing man who has stood by me and worked just as hard as me to fund this legal battle. I am now in more financial hardship because we are in court again. I was informed that my exhusband wanted to terminate his rights as my childrens' father because he got his girlfriend pregnant and does not want to pay child support (which he is thousands behind on and not paying). Now that he has requested to terminate his rights, he is not signing the paperwork and using his "visitation rights" to force me to live away from my husband, who is living in Colorado and is also creating huge expenses for us. It looks like he was only saying he wanted to terminate his rights to prolong us getting a court date.
As of right now I owe well over $7,000 to my amazing attorney and we still have a LONG fight ahead of us. I had to stop working earlier this year because my children have been having a difficult time in school. My youngest is developmentally delayed and my oldest is attending therapy frequently, which is also quite expensive. The emotional hardships they have endured for so long are affecting them and I am trying my best to help them. I have been taking side jobs, such as babysitting and cleaning, and my husband works more than full time to help pay for bills but at this point I am drowning. I already had to file bancruptcy after my divorce because my exhusband left all the medical bills to me and he left the state for a year.
To anyone who has read this, I would greatly appreciate anything you could donate to help my children. This battle is to save them from a man who is using them to hurt me. He knows my children mean more to me than anything in this world and I would give my life if I knew they would be safe, happy and healthy for the rest of their lives.
My ex told me he would make me miserable for the rest of my life and seeing my children hurt the way that they do is killing me. I promise every penny will be given to my attorney to pay her for her services and if for some reason I receive more than needed I will donate the extra money to a women's shelter to help other women that are or were like me and find themselves in the scariest situations of their lives. The affect of abuse on someone doesn't stop after the wounds can no longer be seen. I am going to keep fighting because my kids need me to and I am hoping you could help me help them.
Writing all of this and explaining my situation has been really difficult because I never want to be defined by the abuse I endured but I am hoping my story helps others and that in return someone who may have a little extra could help me continue my fight. Anything helps! Donated money would help the quickest but I will take job offers, prayers and advice!
Thank you so much!
Organizer
Harry Jessica Kong
Organizer
Colorado Springs, CO
