Building for Bob
You know those Facebook memes that say, “Julie will stay up browsing Facebook when she should be sleeping. Julie is gonna complain about being tired tomorrow. Don't be like Julie.” Or “Shirley is loyal to the people that are loyal to her. Shirley values loyalty. Be like Shirley.”
It’s ironic because the app that generates those memes is called “Be like Bob.” Ironic, because although my brother-in-law Bob is a bona fide technofile, he has no time for Facebook. But many of us could stand to be more like Bob, for sure.
Bob Schulze is my brother-in-law and I’ve known him since the late 90s. I was immediately struck by two things about Bob. He is a knock-out country western dancer and he is an incredibly kind man. He would do anything for anybody.
Bob and my sister, Robin, taught country western dance for a period of time, moonlighting from their day jobs managing every aspect of the business for a local homebuilder.
With most of the kids from their prior marriages approaching adulthood, they settled into the busy-ness of mid-life never slowing down even as “mid-“ turned into “later-“.
And when I say busy-ness, I mean busy!
Bob has worked for himself for the last 15 years. He’s become an independent contractor working for people who need projects completed around their homes. Bob has worked around the country – from Tennessee, where they lived for almost nine years, to California and several points in between, but mainly in Colorado where they spent the majority of their lives.
An elderly neighbor tells the story of calling Bob late one night because their smoke detector was going off and he was unable to climb a ladder. Without a second thought, Bob put on his slippers and went out in the night to handle the situation. That’s the kind of man Bob is. Just ask anyone who knows him.
Bob is the father of four children who have, between them, provided him with nine grandchildren. Robin’s son and his wife are awaiting their first child, her first grandbaby, this fall.
Life was busy, but life was good. Until life came screeching to a halt on Tuesday, May Day, 2018. Bob had been feeling a generalized weakness and suddenly began falling. After a particularly puzzling tumble, he decided to make an appointment with his doctor, knowing that it was nothing more than a case of vertigo or a vitamin deficiency.
Twenty four hours later, he was admitted to a local hospital to the oncology floor. The MRI had revealed two tumors on his brain. The corresponding swelling of his brain explained his lack of balance and other strange symptoms.
After a second MRI, it was discovered that he had a mass on his lung and small lesions on his liver. Physicians moved to begin treatment immediately initiating a course of radiation. More options will be discussed at a future time, but the battle is being drawn and engaged.
That’s where you come in, dear reader. The treatments will be costly, well above what they are able to pay. Not covered at all will be new therapies and treatments that show great potential! That said, the expenses that Bob and Robin will incur will be more than just medical. Bob was primary breadwinner for their family, and so they are looking at a significant reduction in income.
This new reality is a devastating event in their lives on many levels. Levels that we, their community, can’t help with despite the profound desire to do so. Where we can help is giving financially. All funds raised will go to medical and living expenses as Bob turns from being a builder into a fighter…in for the fight of his life.
Bob helps people. Bob never gives up. Be like Bob.
Robin would like to say thank you to each one of you for your contributions, your prayers, and your support.
It’s been a while since I've given an update on what’s going on with my treatments for cancer.
To briefly recap, I had my first chemotherapy treatment on June 1. I then received four additional treatments, one every three weeks with a follow-up visit with my oncologist the following week to see how my body and the cancer were responding to the chemo. My last treatment was received on August 24, not knowing at the time that it would be my last. To say that the chemo was hard on me and my body would be an understatement. The scans after the last treatment showed that one of the tumors had shrunk, but it had no impact on the others as we had hoped would be the case.
After many discussions with my wife, Robin, and my oncologist, I made the decision to suspend chemotherapy to allow my body to recover as much as possible from the effects of the first five rounds. There may be an option for immunotherapy at some point in time or other alternative treatments that might expedite my ability to heal. My will to fight is as strong as ever! We have another CT scan scheduled for December 4 with a follow-up appointment with my oncologist on December 5 to review the CT scan results.
Due to the effects of the chemo, my doctors have restricted my driving, but I still want to help my customers diagnose problems and assist in the development of corrective recommendations and prepare plans and budgets. Robin has become my chauffeur, and coupled with phone video technology, much of my work can be accomplished remotely with minimal delay.
I will continue to recommend trusted and reliable contractors who I personally know to assist in the completion of projects and will remain available to assist in the quality control and project scheduling.
There have been those who have given multiple gifts to my GoFundMe page and since it’s an ongoing battle with increasing costs, those thoughtful donations, as well as every gift we’ve received, have been and will continue to be much appreciated!
Robin and I are so very thankful for your prayers and well wishes.
Blessings to all.
The nurse who administered the chemo told he and Robin what to expect each week.
The first week will involve the chemo being administered. He will likely feel fine this week, but by the second week fatigue will set in and he might possibly want to do nothing other than sleep.
This has been the case today as he came home around 2pm and went directly to bed. He did not pass "GO," he did not collect $200.
By next week, the third week, he should recover and begin to have more energy. The fourth week will conclude the course with a visit with Dr. Reddy to assess how he's handling treatment.
The following week Bob will begin his second round of chemo. The date for that Friday is June 22, 2018.
Speaking of collecting $200, I'd like to extend a personal thank you to those who have donated! Thank you for caring. Thank you for sharing. Thank you for making a difference in the life of two people loved by many.
"Bob helped my mother, his neighbor, when she was diagnosed with cancer. I had the pleasure of meeting Bob and had him help me with some properties we rent out. When my mother moved across the country, Bob helped pack and load the van...asking for nothing in return. May God watch over this great man as he engages in this battle. Our thoughts and prayers are with him and his family."