They Don't Eat Alone in Spain

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Raised by 73 people in 33 months
Since launching my blog "A Wandering Jewess: My Journey Back to Self"  in 2011, I've often been asked "When is your book coming out?" My answer has been a vague, "One of these days." Truth is, I didn't know. For personal reasons, I didn't want to self publish. And I didn't know how to move my writing from blog to book deal. Until now. 

About two months ago, I ended my morning meditation with the words, "Show my work, show me my money, show me my love." I then opened my computer to find an e-mail from my ex-boyfriend, sent exactly eight minutes earlier, just one word — "Interesting?" and a link to the Rocaberti Castle Writers Retreat in Barcelona

"This retreat is for you if … You’re working on a book/screenplay combination or have an idea for one. You have a book and want to turn it into a screenplay or vice-versa —or sell it directly to Hollywood. You’re unsure how to get your book/screenplay in front of agents and producers. You’re serious about completing your project and making your dream come true!" 

 Yes. Yes. Yes. And yes. 

I am a big believer in fate. In signs. In messages from the universe.

So this October I'll be returning to Spain for the Rocaberti Castle Writers Retreat. Joining a small group of other writers, I'll meet with expert mentors – published authors, produced screenwriters and film producers – for the express purpose of taking my writing from screen to page to big screen. 


(Taken in Seville ... before I knew I was going!)

My proposed project, "They Don't Eat Alone in Spain" garnered a half scholarship to the retreat. I need your help to raise the other half, plus airfare, reward gifts and incidentals. (See budget breakdown below.)

"They Don't Eat Alone in Spain" is based on posts from "A Wandering Jewess," about my choice to “go it alone” for a year after the dissolution of my 10-year marriage and how Julia Cameron’s "The Artists Way" offered me an unintended framework for doing it. 

"They Don't Eat Alone in Spain" is a series of 52 Artist Dates – one-person play dates – which led me on solo sojourns to the opera and the Art Institute, to a three-week stag jaunt in Italy and ultimately an unaccompanied year in Spain (Ironically, a country notorious for togetherness. “Look around,” Robert said over lunch on my second day in Madrid. “No one here eats alone. They just don’t ...") 


(They don't eat alone, but sometimes the servers will feed you ... literally.)

Whereas the majority of "post-divorce" reads fit neatly into one of two categories – "How To's" for getting back in the relationship game or “Crazy Dating Confessionals” ("I had sex with my boss, my trainer and the bagel boy ... in the same day.") – "They Don't Eat Alone in Spain" offers another possibility, a happy ending that doesn't end in romance.

"They Don't Eat Alone in Spain" offers no advice, no salacious sex, no Prince Charming – just a weekly "postcard" sent from the road  back to self, a journey taken on the backroads ... stopping to fix my own flat tires, visit old promises – traveling alone, living overseas, writing a book – and becoming the heroine of my own story.
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Budget Breakdown

Rocaberti Castle Writers Retreat, Half Tuition: $2,500

Round-trip Airfare from Chicago to Barcelona and Back: $900

Accomodations, Food, Incidentals for 2 nights (pre and post retreat): $200

Rewards: Up to $300

Go Fund Me: 7.9 percent + .30 per gift: Approximately  $350 on $4000
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I received my first agent rejection.

I’m smiling as I write this. Perhaps because it means I am “in the game.” I’ve taken another step into a vulnerable and unknown place in publishing.

Last week I began putting “They Don’t Eat Alone in Spain” in the hands (inboxes, really) of literary agents, hoping one will find this post-divorce memoir with the possibility of a happy ending – no partner required – compelling enough to represent.

It’s taken a long time to get here, far longer than I imagined.

It was a little more than two years ago that I sat in the drawing room of my Madrid apartment and asked the universe for guidance. It came in the form of a single email from an old beau – an introduction to the Rocaberti Castle Writers’ Retreat – and called all my “one day-s” to task. Did I really believe a blog chronicling my path from desperate divorcee to European ex-pat – told through the lens of a weekly solo sojourn – could be a book? Was I willing to find out?

I decided to say yes … and so did many readers who funded my trip to the castle that fall.

Upon my return, I began working one-on-one with my retreat writing coach. I developed a proposal (story summary, audience analysis, competitive landscape and marketing concepts), a chapter-by-chapter outline and agent query. I spit-shined the introduction and two other chapters and made a list of target agents and a spreadsheet to track my communications.

Last Sunday night – filled with doubt and trepidation, my heart racing – I hit send. At that moment, I truly understood impostor syndrome for the first time. Who was I to pitch a writing project – my writing project – to an agent, anyway?

A few years ago I read that most people would rather fail by not trying than by trying.

I get that. And thankfully, I’ve never wanted to be “most people.”

When I received this note on Tuesday, I was assured I wasn’t.

“Dear Lesley,
Thank you so much for querying me. “They Don’t Eat Alone in Spain: How 52 Solo Sojourns Healed My Heart and Helped Me Write My Own Happy Ending (No Partner Required) sounds like an interesting project, but I'm afraid I'm going to pass on looking at more. My client list is very full, forcing me to be extremely selective about taking on anyone new at the moment. But please do keep querying other agents, and I wish you all the best with your writing career.”

I’ve taken this agent’s counsel and have continued to query. Meanwhile, a friend suggested I keep all of my rejection letters … “You can have fun with them later,” he wrote. “Maybe include them in the preface in future books.”

Maybe.

Until then, please consider subscribing to my blog at www.awanderingjewess.com, liking my Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/lesleypearl.awanderingjewess/, and/or sharing this message and encouraging your friends to do the same. (Agents love to see a strong social-media presence.)

With Gratitude,

Lesley
(Photo: In Seville. Sometimes you have to eat alone in Spain ...)
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Five years ago today I boarded a plane bound for Kigali.

I was in the middle of a divorce I didn't quite see coming, and certain I had no idea of where I was going, other than to Africa -- a place I had dreamed of visiting since I was a child.

Several months earlier I had signed up to join a group of volunteers from my synagogue, working with two AIDS service organizations in the Rwandan capital. Little did I know that there -- under my mosquito net in the wee hours of the morning -- I would reclaim my voice as a writer, that I would succumb to the siren of the blue-light glow of my computer to tell the stories of my experiences on my blog -- www.awanderingjewess.com.

I had secured the blog address about the same time I secured my place on the trip and had a vague notion that I might write about the road to becoming a rabbi. Instead I wrote about the road to Bombogo – a village on the outskirts of Kigali -- where students learned to create kitchen gardens that would feed their families.

I wrote about house visits with social worker and part-time saint, Mary Grace, and her clients. The reed thin woman who sat in the dark, her face illuminated by a hole in the metal roof, who was unsure how she would feed her family now that her rabbits -- her source of both food and income -- had been stolen. And the robust one who replied to the missionary offering to help her build a roof, "Roof? I need a house!" and then built one for her and her daughters, and then another -- thus becoming a landlord.

I wrote about painting walls and filling prescription packets. Dancing with a professional troupe in a style close to the one I had been studying for years. And about a room full of girls all with shaved heads, curious about the "Muzungo" with the same "do."

The trip that began on Independence Day 2012 returned me to my craft after a 15-year hiatus, changing the trajectory of both my life and my blog. It led me to write about my experiences post-divorce, about dating, and mostly not dating -- taking myself on solo excursions AKA Artist Dates instead -- and ultimately moving to Madrid, the basis for "They Don't Eat Alone in Spain."

I recently sent an update on the status of this project, one year after launching it. Many thanks to Tanya Gazdik Irwin, Jan Mekula and AJ Benham who responded to the update with contributions to the “They Don’t Eat Alone in Spain” campaign.


The “They Don’t Eat Alone in Spain” campaign was created to defray the costs of the Rocaberti Castle Writers Retreat which I attended in the fall of 2016. Additional contributions have been used to pay for coaching sessions with Debra Engle, my retreat mentor, who is guiding me in the process of taking my writing from blog to book to screen.

To learn more about "They Don't Eat Alone in Spain -- A Post-Divorce Narrative With the Possibility of a Happy Ending, No Partner Required" -- click here, https://www.gofundme.com/awanderingjewess.

Also, please consider subscribing to my blog at www.awanderingjewess.com, liking my Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/lesleypearl.awanderingjewess/, and/or sharing this message and encouraging your friends to do the same.

With Gratitude,

Lesley
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Five years ago today I boarded a plane bound for Kigali.

I was in the middle of a divorce I didn't quite see coming, and certain I had no idea of where I was going, other than to Africa -- a place I had dreamed of visiting since I was a child.

Several months earlier I had signed up to join a group of volunteers from my synagogue, working with two AIDS service organizations in the Rwandan capital. Little did I know that there -- under my mosquito net in the wee hours of the morning -- I would reclaim my voice as a writer, that I would succumb to the siren of the blue-light glow of my computer to tell the stories of my experiences on my blog -- www.awanderingjewess.com.

I had secured the blog address about the same time I secured my place on the trip and had a vague notion that I might write about the road to becoming a rabbi. Instead I wrote about the road to Bombogo – a village on the outskirts of Kigali -- where students learned to create kitchen gardens that would feed their families.

I wrote about house visits with social worker and part-time saint, Mary Grace, and her clients. The reed thin woman who sat in the dark, her face illuminated by a hole in the metal roof, who was unsure how she would feed her family now that her rabbits -- her source of both food and income -- had been stolen. And the robust one who replied to the missionary offering to help her build a roof, "Roof? I need a house!" and then built one for her and her daughters, and then another -- thus becoming a landlord.

I wrote about painting walls and filling prescription packets. Dancing with a professional troupe in a style close to the one I had been studying for years. And about a room full of girls all with shaved heads, curious about the "Muzungo" with the same "do."

The trip that began on Independence Day 2012 returned me to my craft after a 15-year hiatus, changing the trajectory of both my life and my blog. It led me to write about my experiences post-divorce, about dating, and mostly not dating -- taking myself on solo excursions AKA Artist Dates instead -- and ultimately moving to Madrid, the basis for "They Don't Eat Alone in Spain."

I recently sent an update on the status of this project, one year after launching it. Many thanks to Tanya Gazdik Irwin, Jan Mekula and AJ Benham who responded to the update with contributions to the “They Don’t Eat Alone in Spain” campaign.

The “They Don’t Eat Alone in Spain” campaign was created to defray the costs of the Rocaberti Castle Writers Retreat which I attended in the fall of 2016. Additional contributions have been used to pay for coaching sessions with Debra Engle, my retreat mentor, who is guiding me in the process of taking my writing from blog to book to screen.

To learn more about "They Don't Eat Alone in Spain -- A Post-Divorce Narrative With the Possibility of a Happy Ending, No Partner Required" -- click here, https://www.gofundme.com/awanderingjewess.

Also, please consider subscribing to my blog at www.awanderingjewess.com, liking my Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/lesleypearl.awanderingjewess/, and/or sharing this message and encouraging your friends to do the same.

With Gratitude,

Lesley
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God's time ... not mine.

I hear these words often in recovery circles -- usually in reference to romance or finance but its application is universal. Truthfully, I prefer"my time," but it seems that's not how things work -- not even in writing, of which I have more than a modicum of control.

According to Facebook, "On This Day" in 2016 I launched my Go Fund Me campaign. I wrote:

"For those of you who have asked, 'When's the book coming out?' (And those of you who haven't ...) I need your help! I'll be returning to Spain this fall for the Rocaberti Castle Writers Retreat, to meet with industry experts who will help me go from blog to book. I received a half-scholarship to the retreat. Please consider a donation to help defray the remaining costs ... "

I hit my goal in October of last year and went to the retreat in Girona the same month. Inside the cocoon-like confines of the castle, I pitched my project to industry professionals, and received constructive feedback and guidance on my manuscript -- both one-on-one and in small work circles. The shorthand takeaway was MORE -- more details, more lushness of language, let go of the tight journalistic training and "take us there."

Eight months have passed ... and I naively thought I'd have a book deal by now. (Politics aside, I feel a bit like our current president when he said that his job was way harder than he anticipated. Turns out ... so is going from blog to book.)

Today's "On This Day" seemed like a nudge from the Universe to let those who so generously supported this project know the status of it.

What's Happened Since the Retreat:

Returning home, I began to incorporate the feedback I had received and quickly found myself lost in my own story. So in early 2017, I took retreat mentor Debra Engle up on her offer of a complimentary 30-minute coaching session, to see if she could help guide me out of the weeds. She did, and then some ... so I hired her.

We have completed eight of 10 coaching sessions. (I anticipate buying a package of five more for a total of 15.) It has been a slow and enlightening process.

I discovered many Artist Dates included in the original manuscript got tossed out as they didn't move the story forward, while others that were seemingly less sexy were added because they illustrated the growth trajectory on my journey from "we" to "me" so well.

With Deb's guidance I have completed a solid Introduction and Chapter One -- which took "seemingly forever." (Again, God's time, not mine.) According to Deb, this is normal. "You're setting up the whole book," she explained. The "why" of the 52 Artist Dates, which received short shrift in the first-draft manuscript.

In addition, I have completed a chapter-by-chapter outline -- 54 easy-to-scan one paragraph summaries that show the arc and trajectory of the story.

What's Next:

Once upon a time writers could bypass the agent and take their work straight to publishing houses. This is no longer the case with the exception of small, specialty houses, which Deb suggested I not consider as the story has "universal appeal."

I am currently working on the proposal to send to potential agents. It includes:

*Chapter-by-Chapter Outline. Status: Done
*Three Sample Chapters. Status: Introduction and Chapter One completed, rewriting third sample chapter to include "more lushness."
*The pitch -- A summary and overview of the book, consideration of the market, its competition, marketing and "About the Author." Status: About 75 percent complete.

My goal is to have the proposal "agent ready" by July 4 -- Independence Day, which seems fitting as I found every Artist Date moved me towards greater emotional and spiritual freedom -- and to begin shopping it July 5.

How You Can Help:

The marketing portion of the proposal is where I boast the number of blog or Facebook followers I have. More is obviously better. If you haven't already, please consider subscribing to my blog at www.awanderingjewess.com, liking my Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/lesleypearl.awanderingjewess/, and/or sharing this message and encouraging your friends to do the same.

The original "They Don't Eat Alone in Spain" campaign was created to defray the costs of the Rocaberti Castle Writers Retreat and related travel costs. Time with a writing coach was not factored in. To that end, I have not formally re-opened the campaign or changed the fundraising goal. However, I am accepting donations towards this cost -- $900 for 15, 30-minute sessions.

To learn more about "They Don't Eat Alone in Spain -- A Post-Divorce Narrative With the Possibility of a Happy Ending, No Partner Required" -- click here, https://www.gofundme.com/awanderingjewess.

With Gratitude,

Lesley
Almost Famous -- Deb & I at the castle.
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Janice Mekula
21 months ago

Way to go taking your next steps toward publication, Lesley!

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AJ Benham
21 months ago

Keep up the good work. Your second book is going to be about getting the first one published! : }

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Tanya Gazdik Irwin
21 months ago

This is to help with your writing coach sessions. Again, no need for a reward. I'd love to see you next time you are in Detroit or I'm in Chicago!

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Harriett Kelley
30 months ago

Go write your book!

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Nicole Vahlkamp
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Can't wait to see this happen, Lesley! So excited for you!

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