Ashlyn Byers Memorial Fund

$13,298 of $10k goal

Raised by 279 people in 5 days
It seems like yesterday that I was just bringing home this small, beautiful bundle of joy. My life definitely changed when Ashlyn came into it. Before she was born I always knew I had a soft, genuine loving heart. Once she was born it was really no different, I just started wearing it on the outside...because she became my heart. From the day I brought her home from the hospital I always swore that I would give her a different life than what I had. I wanted to instill in her the life lessons that I had learned. I wanted to teach her strength, compassion, kindness, confidence, independence, courage and most of all love. 

No one ever tells you that the hardest part of motherhood...is when your kids grow up. It's not when they have boo-boos or when they're sick...or when they have their first heartbreak. It's in that moment when it sinks in...that my baby girl is not a baby girl anymore. And when I found out that Ashlyn was having a baby...I knew my baby girl was all grown up. She was about to embark on the same journey that I did at her age. As a young parent, I may have met her a little early...but that also meant that I got to love her a little longer.

But unfortunately, God had different plans for my baby girl. Because late last night I lost Ashlyn in a tragic car accident. The doctors did everything they could to try and save her but God chose to take her home. And by His grace, the doctors were able to save my granddaughter, Sally Rose. But she is still in critical condition and needs all the love and prayers she can get.

My heart is breaking and my soul hurts like it never has before. No parent should ever have to bury their child before themselves. It’s just not natural. Please know I am not asking for any handouts. I am only asking if you feel it in your heart to donate, to please give any small amount, to help us with medical and funeral expenses.

I want to thank all of those who have called and sent messages. We can definitely feel your love and prayers! And please keep them coming..because my family needs them…and I need them today and for many days to come.

Much love and peace,

Tonia Marie


Mama loves you baby girl...always and forever...
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Update 2
Posted by Tonia Byers
3 days ago
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I have been contacted by several people who have asked about donating baby items for Sally. When my daughter was still alive, I was able to give her and Sally's dad, James, several items to help with the baby. A crib, stroller, car seat, bassinet and a few other small things. However, they still needed several other items as well. If anyone is interested in donating any baby items, please send me a message and I will make sure he receives them.

As a single dad, he has a long road ahead of him. And I will be there every step of the way to help in any way I can. Sally is all I have left of my daughter. I will do everything I can to make sure she gets what she needs. Sally will know just how much her momma loved her and what a beautiful person she was.

To everyone that has donated, please know that after all medical and/or funeral expenses are taken care of, the leftover money will be given to Sally's father to help with anything he needs for Sally.

I want to personally thank everyone that has donated and reached out to me. Your love and kindness means so much to me during this difficult time. Never in a million years did I think I would have to bury my daughter at the age of 20. I keep hoping this is all a dream...but the emptiness I feel tells me that it's not. I would give anything to hear her voice again...to see her beautiful smile...to hear her excitement of being a mother. I don't know if I'll ever understand why she was taken...but I can promise her this. I will honor her and keep her memory alive. Sally will know how much Ashlyn loved her and what a beautiful person she was. I will do whatever I can to help Sally's dad in taking care of her and raising her. It is what my daughter would have wanted.

I love you baby girl...
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Posted by Tonia Byers
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Here's an update on my granddaughter Sally. She is 5lbs, 6oz, 19 inches long. Since Ashlyn was unresponsive for a period of time after the accident, Sally suffered from a lack of oxygen to the brain which has caused her to have multiple seizures a day. They have been cooling her body temperature to lessen the seizures and will start the process of warming her back up tomorrow night at 10 p.m. If Sally is anything like my daughter and me, her Gigi...she is a fighter and will make it through this!

I have had several people ask me about services for Ashlyn. Unfortunately, due to the circumstances of the car accident, she has not been released yet from the medical examiner. I will let everyone know as soon as we have arrangements made. The love and support that I have received from everyone is truly overwhelming. Your messages have given me comfort in a time when I need it the most. There are no words for me to express just how much it means to me.

I've been through a lot in my lifetime but nothing will ever compare to this heartache that I feel. It is hard for me to comprehend that I will never again hear Ashlyn's voice, or be able to hug her, or tell her I love you. Or create lifelong memories with her and Sally. It breaks my heart that she never got a chance to see Sally or hold her before she left this world. To make a decision of which clothes to bury my daughter in is just unbearable. It just isn't natural to bury my child before myself. Please continue to keep Sally, her dad, my family and myself in your prayers for the days ahead. It's going to be long, tough road...but the love everyone has been sending sure makes it a little easier...
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Jessica KayLea Wehner
4 days ago

I know nothing I say can take away the pain you and your family must be experiencing. I have done nothing but thought about your daughter and her baby. I was in the car next to them when this all happened. We jumped out and my brother ran over there to help them and ended up giving them his shirt off his back to help with her broken wrist. When he ran back over to our side and I found out she was pregnant, I just lost it. I didn't know you from Adam, but Seeing her laying there and everyone doing everything they could just broke my heart. I know y'all left an impression on my brother and our lives and I will continue to pray for you and your family.

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Kristi Garner John
5 days ago
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Tonia, I have no words to describe what I feel, and how you must feel. I am so sorry for your loss, Those words feel so insigficant, but they are all I have to offer you. Much love to you, your family and to your baby princess as you morn your loss.

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Angelica Herrera
3 days ago
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My heart hurts for you momma. Just know that your baby girl it's in a better place and that your angel that you have here on earth will give you the strength to go on. Please know that I will be praying for you, your baby girl and your angel that it's here with you.

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Hannah Lee Hayes
5 days ago
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Tonia, your daughter is with you now and forever. Sending positive vibes too you. Your granddaughter will grow up happy & healthy..

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Kathy O. M. Huxley
5 days ago

I'm so sorry for.your lose.. She was a great young lady ... Shell always be on my mind ... If we can help in any way let us know..

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Jennifer Morgan
1 day ago

We never know why God plans these things as he does but all we can do is believe in him & that he knows what he is doing. I couldn't imagine losing 1 of my children he may have took the love of your life or who you thought was. He knew what he was doing because honey he left you that sweet grandaughter & I promise you from experience you have really truly just met the love of your life there is no love like you are fixing to learn & feel from that sweet baby. My oldest grandaughter is in profile pic her name is Braelei she's 5 & God as my witness she is my love my pride & joy I never knew that I had or could feel the love & happiness I have since we were blessed with her she will make your broken heart mend easier. Never will be whole with Ashlyn gone but promise that lil girl will almost make it feel that way. Your family is on our church prayer list. Prayers for strength & healing.

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Kendra Marie
2 days ago

Prayers

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Angie Christensen
2 days ago

My heart breaks for you but God gave you your granddaughter. I cried reading this as I couldn't imagine the pain you're going through . God bless and prayers

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Barbie Justice
2 days ago

Is baby doin ok

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Jennifer N. Oglesby
3 days ago

Is Sally gonna go up for adoption just wondering I feel bad for Sally and Her dad I'm so sorry I lost my son but from a different situation but my prayers to y'all when y'all go through terrible situation I'm sorry for y'all loss

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Skynyrdmama VanZant
3 days ago

Oh Tonia I wish I could give you a big old hug right now and never let go. Ashlyn and you have been though so much together, and that is just it together. I will never understand why things like this happen. I guess we are not suppose to. Sally is beautiful and I am praying for you all. I know nothing I say will take away you hurt but please know that I love you so much I will continue to pray for you guys. Please keep us updated on Sally. Much love God speed.

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Michelle M. Amway Fogle
4 days ago

May Gods comfort and peace wrap his loving arms around you at this most difficult time. My prayers to you and the family.

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Shelly Smith
5 days ago

Tonia I am so very sorry. My thoughts are with you.

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Lynn Henderson
5 days ago

Please know I am praying. I cannot imagine. I know that your daughter meant the world to you! You know I have a daughter and a son and my heart is hurting for you right now. Please know that the miles don't mean a thing! Let me know if you need anything. I love you and your family and I am calling on many prayer warriors to surround you with angels right now❤️

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$13,298 of $10k goal

Raised by 279 people in 5 days
Created March 17, 2017
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Kevin Grant
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Shante Miles
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Karen Talley
17 hours ago

I am so sorry for this unimaginable heartbreak. I will leave more when I can. I will pray for you and your family.

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Barb Thacker
1 day ago

So sorry for your loss. Thoughts and prayers for you and your family.

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Sara Wray
1 day ago

There are just no words.. devastating.. sending so much love to the whole family.

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Tonya Lambert
1 day ago

Lots of prayers for you and your family.

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Rebecca Schneider
1 day ago

I am so sorry for your loss. I will keep you in my prayers.

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Jessica KayLea Wehner
4 days ago

I know nothing I say can take away the pain you and your family must be experiencing. I have done nothing but thought about your daughter and her baby. I was in the car next to them when this all happened. We jumped out and my brother ran over there to help them and ended up giving them his shirt off his back to help with her broken wrist. When he ran back over to our side and I found out she was pregnant, I just lost it. I didn't know you from Adam, but Seeing her laying there and everyone doing everything they could just broke my heart. I know y'all left an impression on my brother and our lives and I will continue to pray for you and your family.

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Kristi Garner John
5 days ago
3
3

Tonia, I have no words to describe what I feel, and how you must feel. I am so sorry for your loss, Those words feel so insigficant, but they are all I have to offer you. Much love to you, your family and to your baby princess as you morn your loss.

+ Read More
Angelica Herrera
3 days ago
1
1

My heart hurts for you momma. Just know that your baby girl it's in a better place and that your angel that you have here on earth will give you the strength to go on. Please know that I will be praying for you, your baby girl and your angel that it's here with you.

+ Read More
Hannah Lee Hayes
5 days ago
1
1

Tonia, your daughter is with you now and forever. Sending positive vibes too you. Your granddaughter will grow up happy & healthy..

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Kathy O. M. Huxley
5 days ago

I'm so sorry for.your lose.. She was a great young lady ... Shell always be on my mind ... If we can help in any way let us know..

+ Read More
Jennifer Morgan
1 day ago

We never know why God plans these things as he does but all we can do is believe in him & that he knows what he is doing. I couldn't imagine losing 1 of my children he may have took the love of your life or who you thought was. He knew what he was doing because honey he left you that sweet grandaughter & I promise you from experience you have really truly just met the love of your life there is no love like you are fixing to learn & feel from that sweet baby. My oldest grandaughter is in profile pic her name is Braelei she's 5 & God as my witness she is my love my pride & joy I never knew that I had or could feel the love & happiness I have since we were blessed with her she will make your broken heart mend easier. Never will be whole with Ashlyn gone but promise that lil girl will almost make it feel that way. Your family is on our church prayer list. Prayers for strength & healing.

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Kendra Marie
2 days ago

Prayers

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Angie Christensen
2 days ago

My heart breaks for you but God gave you your granddaughter. I cried reading this as I couldn't imagine the pain you're going through . God bless and prayers

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Barbie Justice
2 days ago

Is baby doin ok

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Jennifer N. Oglesby
3 days ago

Is Sally gonna go up for adoption just wondering I feel bad for Sally and Her dad I'm so sorry I lost my son but from a different situation but my prayers to y'all when y'all go through terrible situation I'm sorry for y'all loss

+ Read More
Skynyrdmama VanZant
3 days ago

Oh Tonia I wish I could give you a big old hug right now and never let go. Ashlyn and you have been though so much together, and that is just it together. I will never understand why things like this happen. I guess we are not suppose to. Sally is beautiful and I am praying for you all. I know nothing I say will take away you hurt but please know that I love you so much I will continue to pray for you guys. Please keep us updated on Sally. Much love God speed.

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Michelle M. Amway Fogle
4 days ago

May Gods comfort and peace wrap his loving arms around you at this most difficult time. My prayers to you and the family.

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Shelly Smith
5 days ago

Tonia I am so very sorry. My thoughts are with you.

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Lynn Henderson
5 days ago

Please know I am praying. I cannot imagine. I know that your daughter meant the world to you! You know I have a daughter and a son and my heart is hurting for you right now. Please know that the miles don't mean a thing! Let me know if you need anything. I love you and your family and I am calling on many prayer warriors to surround you with angels right now❤️

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