The Gift of Financial Provision

$24,839 of $100,000 goal

Raised by 632 people in 86 months

Yes I know.....$100K!  Lofty Goal, right?  Well, my God is in the business of miracles and we are prayerfully asking and expecting to receive one.....or 100,000! 

First, please let me start by saying that one of my major character defects is the absolute aversion to asking others for help (a condition alternatively known as "I have to control everything and I prefer to do everything for myself" :-)  ).  Now, when this defect concerns matters of a financial nature, you can just FORGET about me asking someone for money!  Granted, I take great joy in giving it away to others in need and yet I feel people will judge me as a horribly irresponsible and greedy person if I ask for it.  Anyhoo...I have to get over all that and (wo)man-up.  I'm a 32-year-old housewife with a husband, 2 toddlers, a business, an active social and spiritual life, a recovering alcoholic....and I was just diagnosed with brain cancer last week. 

I just found out tonight (ironically through the neurosurgery "Welcome Packet" I received in the mail and NOT from the mouth of a live person) that the biopsy I'm having on Friday isn't really like a "biopsy" at all and a lot more like brain surgery!  In my "I can do everything world", I had planned to have the biopsy Friday, recover Saturday and have Bible study at my house that night, take a quickie trip to the mountains with Kevin for a long weekend, fly to the beach Tuesday for a week of relaxation with my family and then come back for my follow-up to get my biopsy results and start treatment on Monday. We had already come to the conclusion that we were going to have to hire a nanny (on our single income) but I thought we had several weeks before I would really need anything.  I also thought I had several more weeks of the go-getter me to organize my life, house, return emails and tie a lovely raffia bow neatly around the whole thing!  Turns out, I can't drive or be alone with my kids for at least a month, no lifting, exercise, exertion, straining, sex or work of any kind for a minimum of 6 weeks!!!  I'm at an increased risk for seizures, hemorrhage and meningitis so it just might be ill-advised to be 6 hours away from the hospital on VACATION!  The reality of my situation has arrived! 

Not only did I not have the time for this, we certainly don't have the money!  We were actually scheduled to put our house on the market THIS WEEKEND so we could keep working toward our financial goals by getting a smaller mortgage.  Getting the cancer diagnosis last week takes moving off the table for now.  In addition, we had faithfully paid off all of our credit cards and then this month, a fallen tree caused damage to Kevin's car which we repaired, my entire transmission had to be replaced ($4K), we had to pay for a rental car while it was fixed, Kevin's car got broken into at the rental place and that same day we discovered he needed all new tires.  We were just told Saturday that our A/C needs to be replaced (with a lovely $10K price tag) and well, you get the idea......

Ok, take a pause from reading and SMILE!  This is sounding tragic, even to me, and I do not intend it to be that way.  Let's get back to the good stuff....
G O D and His miracles.  The way I see it, God owns all the money in the world so He is just going to send a lot of it our way.  I think the recent hailstorm of financial burden was just a test to see if we would lose faith in God's promise for provision.......um, I believe we passed!!!!!

Even more so than I, Kevin would never ask for money.  He is, of course, a wonderful provider for this family and I want everyone to know this is totally my idea.  He keeps saying "Even if we have to file bankruptcy or you are sick for a long time, there is only one outcome here I am not OK with....so as long as we come out on the other side of this as a family of 4, I don't care what else happens to us."

 

(You're tearing up, right?  I definitely married a good one!)  Anyway, he expressed some reservations about this whole thing but this is my only way to actively try (other than prayer) to ease the financial burdens he must be feeling.  After reading all this, if you feel lead to donate then know that we humbly accept your gracious offering.  Remember that every penny adds up so no amount is ever unappreciated! 

Here is what your money will be used for.....Medical Expenses, Medication Costs, ChildCare, Transportation and basic household needs like groceries.  Here is what your money WIL NOT EVER be used for........our vacations, clothing, vanity and luxury items.  We will keep all the money in a seperate account that we use to pay bills.  (Just want to be clear so if I post something about getting a massage or a new outfit or, heaven forbid botox-just sayin', if I'm going to be bald I at least want to get rid of my "elevens" between my eyebrows-, you don't feel like your donation money was used friviliously).

If it's not on your heart or in your bank account to give at this time, then don't sweat it!  Monetary donation is just one of the MANY ways we NEED your help! Our most vital need is prayer-for healing, wisdom for my healthcare team, comfort and security for our boys, provision, peace, joy, patience, rest (this is a toughie for me-I literally loathe sitting still!) love & kindness toward one another, steadfast faith & physical help in the form of meals, babysitting, driving!  

 

Ways to Stay In the Know:

1.      I have created an online community where we will post updates and photos.  You can post comments on the message board and sign up to bring a meal, babysit, run errands or cart my non-drivin' fanny around town!  Go to: https://nhc.lotsahelpinghands.com/c/642388 .  Fill out the right-hand side of the form which is a Request to Join the Community. Once you've done this, a coordinator will approve you and you will be automatically added to the community and sent instructions for setting a password and signing-in.

2.      You can also find me on Facebook under Tonya Dearman Breen.

 

Thanks for visiting the site and we will be praying that God blesses you, too!!!!

Sincerely, Tonya, Kevin, Conlin & Nolen Breen

 

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Good afternoon Loved Ones!

Though I have not been on this site in a while, I wanted to remember those of you who do not have/have not yet friended me on Facebook. My blog is up and running and you can now get updates without going through facebook or this site. My goal is to try to post there at least once a week, though I am sometimes finding that hard with 2 toddlers!

Check it out when you have a minute.

www.tonyatransformed.org

We are hanging in there. Getting the boys ready for Halloween and all the fun holiday festivities to come after. Conlin, in his infinite wisdom, dictated how we were all going to dress. He is a giraffe; Nolen a Lion; I am a butterfly and Kevin is an Ant....still trying to figure out that costume!

Your continued thoughts and prayers are greatly appreciated as I try to find answers concerning my tumor and how, if possible, to stop or slow it's progression. Unfortunately, the holistic therapies I have researched this summer don't seem to be providing much hope.....but I plan to keep looking. We also need continued prayer as we dig ourselves out of financial disaster. The Crown Financial Course at our church couldn't have come at a better time. Please pray that we will be diligent in applying it's principles and unified as we deal with the very dividing monster of money.

God bless you all. In Him, Tonya
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I just read all of your comments and I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for hanging in there with me this summer, sans thank you notes and all! I wish that I never had to sleep and I could reply to each and every one of you but I am working (it is a real exercise for me) to take better care of myself and "sleeping" is at the top of my "To Do" List! Please friend me on Facebook if you have not already because I want (and need, please) the encouragement and prayers to keep on comin'! At my meeting tonight, the topics of "asking others for help" and "giving up control" were posed. A very wise man said that he had been coming to meetings for years, often withholding what he felt called to share because it might seem trivial, "sound dumb" or because he thought "no one else would understand." He said he had finally learned that his thought process all boiled down to PRIDE. "Who was he to say what would impact someone else or what may or may not be meaningful? And who was he to WITHHOLD something that might potentially HELP somebody else?!?!" The next man who spoke, another old-timer, said he has realized that nothing in this life is inconsequential. He chuckled and said, "Well, it may not mean anything TO YOU, but it sure does mean somthing to me." I just sat there in my chair, smile from ear-to-ear because I knew EXACTLY what he meant! Every song that comes on the radio, every prayer that is spoken over me, every piece of scripture that someone emails me, each 5 & 10 dollar donation (yes, someone donated five dollars and that literally made me cry more than any of the larger donations because I know they likely needed that $5 more than I did but they gave it in faith anyway!), every word of encouragement......these things are making up the fabric of MY LIFE and they mean EVERYTHING TO ME! You will never know! With gratitude and humility, Tonya
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One day, I hope to share all of the summer's events with you in detail, but for now I will just leave it at WOW! I still can't even read and write very well as I come off the fog of the drugs so it has been hard for me to post the last 3 months but I sit here now typing with tear-filled eyes, Bible out, letting the words of Christian music fill my house (and my heart and my mind!) from my iPod and I know EXACTLY why this tumor-"Justine"-came into my life! For example, the song playing RIGHT NOW is saying ("Strong Enough" by Matthew West in bold-my words in red italics):
"You must, You must think I'm strong
To give me what I'm going through"
(Diagnosis of a Brain Tumor on May 24th, 2011 at the age of 32 years old with Kevin (my wonderful Husband), my babies (Conlin-3 & Nolen-2), THE WEEKEND we were planning to move out of our house to place it on the market for sale- ALSO THE SAME WEEKEND I launched my business at my first ever public craft show "¦.OH, OH, OH, ALSO COINCIDENTALLY THE LAST WEEK OF SCHOOL WHEN MY KIDS ARE GOING TO BE OUT FOR THE ENTIRE SUMMER!!!! REALLY GOD, REALLY? Is this a joke? No, no seriously, where are the hidden cameras!?!?!?)

"Well forgive me, forgive me if I'm wrong
But this looks like more than I can do
On my own"
(That was the middle of my summer-when I allowed the chaos and fear around me to infest my thinking and shake my faith with doubt.)

"I know I'm not strong enough to be
Everything that I'm supposed to be
I give up, I'm not strong enough
Hands of mercy won't You cover me?
Lord, right now I'm asking You to be
Strong enough, strong enough
For the both of us"
(For those of you who don't know me, I haven't always been this "embrace-the-Holy Spirit, let-Him-move-you, throw-all-caution-to-the-wind" kind of person you are seeing today. I can now look at myself and say with raw honesty that, before this tumor and really before I got sober on March 7th-can I get 3 cheers for sober living?-I cared WAY TOO MUCH what all you people thought about me to raise my arms up to the Lord during worship, to fall to me knees to pray in public, to be adamant about what I believed in the face of someone questioning my belief in Jesus Christ as the only way to the Father"¦"¦but this experience has literally weakened my knees in a way that I couldn't help but fall to Him in prayer because there was nothing else left for me to do"¦my arms just found themselves in the air above my head and I wasn't sure how they got there because I was grasping for help from anywhere. I had completely lost control of my body"¦"¦.I will come back to this later but I want to make this point clear before moving on: FEAR OF LOSS OF CONTROL is what had been crippling my life, my body, my soul FOR YEARS and I was absolutely paralyzed by it"¦.)

"Well maybe, maybe that's the point
To reach the point of giving up
"˜Cause when I'm finally, finally at rock bottom
Well that's when I start looking up
And reaching out"

(All I can say about this lyric is that it is THE ANSWER: The absolute truth of the Lord our God spoken through Matthew West-AMEN and "˜nuf said! It is only in our ABSOLUTE brokenness that we finally "LET GO & LET GOD")

"I know I'm not strong enough to be
Everything that I'm supposed to be
I give up, I'm not strong enough
Hands of mercy won't You cover me?
Lord, right now I'm asking You to be
Strong enough, strong enough
For the both of us"
(Here was Rock Bottom-more begging, totally broken, on a doctor-induced pharmaceutical drug trip locked in my bathroom crying, DEMANDING that He hear me and answer me pleas for Mercy and Healing! I REALLY could not take it anymore. I had been, and am still to some degree, suffering from auditory and visual hallucinations, heightened sense of hearing, inability to read, write, think, feed my kids or myself-just meet the basic gosh darn needs of my family that a woman needs to meet-can you tell, I'm trying to be nice, but I'M REALLY FREAKIN' MAD AND NEED A POSTITIVE PLACE TO CHANNEL THIS ANGER-I do have a plan for that"¦just wait"¦.  )

""˜Cause I'm broken
Down to nothing
But I'm still holding on to the one thing
You are God
And You are strong when I am weak
I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength
And I don't have to be strong enough
I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength
And I don't have to be
Strong enough, strong enough
Oh yeah"
I have come full circle. Right back into the arms of my Abba Daddy where I started. Why? Not because of anything I did but because of WHO HE IS!!!! I started the summer with my feet planted firmly on solid ground, roots grown DEEP into a solid foundation of HIS PERFECT LOVE, PEACE AND PROMISE to me; but please hear me on this--HIS PROMISE IS AVAILABLE TO ANYONE WHO ASKS FOR IT"¦
THAT INCLUDES YOU!!!! ISN'T THAT FANTASTIC NEWS?!?!?
I couldn't orchestrate this life better if I tried! (Check out the new FB pic. Now-imagine me, in my cowboy boots, stomping my right foot and slapping my knee in sheer and utter joy"¦because that is how I have been walking around here the last few days! God is so perfect in His faithfulness! I just can't stinkin' stand it sometimes!) By the way since Caitlin did post the picture of it yesterday I guess now is the time to tell you all, the picture of the tattoo on the back of my head IS REAL!!!!! Yes, take a moment to soak that in"¦"¦I am still shocked myself, not at the tattoo because if you recall-I received the vision to get one the day after my diagnosis. What amazes me is that I actually when out and did it at the height of the insanity around here-because I was still so sure in my heart that God was calling me to do it-the week BEFORE I went to Duke and the miracles converged in my life in such a way that God and His faithfulness to heal me were absolutely undeniable!! HE HAD ME ENSCRIBE "THANK YOU" ON MY OWN HEAD IN PERMENANT INK-TALK ABOUT A COMPLETE ABANDON OF WHAT ANYONE ELSE THINKS OF ME!!!-and as it is healing, I get an answer to EVERY prayer I have prayed this summer and all of the sudden I am so overcome with JOY I am ABSOLUTELY BESIDE MYSELF!!

There is too much to say in one post of course and I am so blessed to have people that can sum up my life with much more brevity that I ever manage to muster! PLEASE see Caitlin's latest post!!! I just saw her husband for acupuncture yesterday and in my brief conversation with her in the waiting room and 2 snaps of her camera in their parking lot, she was able to capture the essence of my soul in such a way that is even a mystery to me! http://www.healthytippingpoint.com/2011/09/on-the-other-side.html (only one minor correction and I know Caitlin would never intentionally misrepresent anything but-the doctors definitely did NOT clear me for a tattoo and in fact, they were very opposed, along with the rest of my family. Actually, it was my sweet nanny Lyndsie who had to bear the squeeze of my hand for 2 hours as I grit my teeth and took the pain !)

I will close with this verse sent to me from a dear friend (you know who you are-at such a CRITICAL time for my soul the week of Nolen's birthday party) from The Word of God-The Alpha and The Omega-The Beginning and The End-The Most High-The Everlasting God-The place you can find the answer to every question you could possibly have"¦someone this summer likened The Bible to people as an "Owner's Manual" is to a car. I like that"¦a lot. This "vehicle" I'm sitin' in isn't much use to me at all IF I NEVER OPEN THE MANUAL AND LEARN HOW TO TURN THE IGNITION ON!!!
"This is what the Lord says:
I HAVE HEARD YOUR PRAYER AND SEEN YOUR TEARS: I WILL HEAL YOU."
*2 Kings 20:5*
If you know the doxology as a hymn, please stop, slow down and take the time to sing it along with me here-----
*Praise God from whom all blessings flow. Praise Him all Creatures Here B
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I am so thankful for the arrival of September! Fall has always been my favorite season but I have a feeling that this year, God has some extra-special blessings in store for my family and me. We finally made it to Duke Hospital and were blessed to receive promising news about my diagnosis! They do not agree with MD Anderson and, in fact, side with Carolina's Medical Center that my tumor is a Grade 2 (less aggressive) and are recommending a much more conservative "wait-and-watch" approach-with the feeling that I am much too young to start radiation and chemotherapy which could cause me permanent brain damage. I will get an MRI every 2 months and return to Duke for follow-up and they will be assuming my care from here on out. Now, the medical community tells me (and everyone else) that Grade 2 tumors can (and will eventually within 5-10 years) turn into grade 3/4 tumors at some point but there are hundreds of testimonials/documentaries/studies/cases where people were able to heal themselves of their tumors through dramatic changes in their diets and lifestyle. So, the way we live and eat is still going to dramatically change forever because we don't ever want Justine turning into a 3!

I have to admit, I think the summer of 2011 will go down in Breen household history as "The Summer of Suffering." I was diagnosed with this brain tumor on May 30th at the age of 32. My entire family, immediate and extended, and my friends have been sucked into a whirlwind of doctors' appointments, internet research, prayer chains, meal deliveries, babysitting, fighting with each other, watching Kevin and I fall apart and bearing witness to a rapid decline in my health. Over the last 3 months, I have suffered from extreme fatigue, seizures, numbness, visual and auditory dysfunctions, mania, insomnia and my weight has plummeted from 125-105. I have been completely unable to tolerate overstimulation (which doesn't bode well for a mom of a 2 & 3 year-old) and I have been extremely irritable (all qualities which don't make for a very pleasant wife either). I just found out that what I thought was my tumor causing all these symptoms has actually been, in fact, physician-directed self-overdosing of my seizure medication! An ER doctor had told me 2 months ago my symptoms were "seizure aura" and not only prescribed me Ativan I didn't need but also told me to take additional Topamax whenever I experienced these symptoms.......and the more I did this, the more frequently it has been occurring to the point where I have snowballed myself into taking these extra meds every day!

While I am thrilled to know the truth, and more importantly, know that these problems are drug-related rather than biological, it will still be a few weeks before I can wean myself off these harmful medications and see if I might feel normal again. They could be more harmful to me if I stopped them suddenly. Still, we went to Duke full of prayerful expectation and feel like God fully answered every single request so we will hang on to that hope. Thank you all for you continued prayers, support and encouragement. We could not get through such a trying time without the blessing of friends and family like you! Tonya

PS: Today is my 6-month sober Birthday so there's another praise!!! :-) I managed to make it through all this and not add my wine back into the mix! Praise Jesus for a clear mind there! Can you imagine if I was drunk on top of all these meds?!?!?! What a mess that would have been!
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Megan Nicole Parker
21 months ago

Let me start off by saying I am beyond sorry for all of this you and your beautiful family are going through! I truly wish I had the finacial stability to be able to donate to you and your family in this dark time in your lives, but sadly I do not! :( I can offer prayer! I can and will pray for you and for your family, for whatever you need.... God will know exactly what I'm praying for and where to place his healing hands! I wish I could offer both prayer and a donation but I can't 41st this time. I will personally pray for you and your family for ALL your needs and I will place you on the prayer request in my woman's bible study class. I can not imagine all that your going through so you won't hear me say "I understand" in the least about what your going through BUT I will say that anything is possible through Christ and he doesn't out you through any situation that he can't bring you out of.... But I'm sure you know all of this already! :) I hope everything works out for you and your family! And yes, you do have an awesome husband! May God be with you all! God bless you! I'm praying for you!

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76 months ago

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theorist
83 months ago

God bless, heal, keep you and yours. Amen.

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Lisa Kulig
85 months ago

Also - I tried to donate and it went to an error screen. I know you need to know that :( In addition, I have many friends in the AA community who will be more than happy to assist in your well being. You WILL make it through.

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Lisa Kulig
85 months ago

Hello, Tonya. I cannot imagine your frustration, grief, etc. However. I do want to say that in the face of adversity you are a true testament to the human spirit. I hope and pray that your story gets more attention. I've made that my personal goal (I'm a stay at home Mom, so I'm kinda bored -- gotta do SOMETHING) ... anyway. You are in my thoughts, prayers and I hope to God that you make it through this.

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Katie
85 months ago

I just read your latest update, and I'm crying right now. I know I don't know you (heard your story from Healthy Tipping Point), but I think about you often. Your positivity and faith are staggering to me. Please don't be harsh on yourself for feeling angry, frightened, sad, anything. If I could I would give you the biggest hug right now.

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Wes Wheeler
86 months ago

Tonya, I have just recently joined the Bankers family, so I don't know Kevin personally but I certainly understand a small part of what he is feeling. My father after working 42 years retired last June, and then was diagnosed stage 4 lung cancer that had also spread to his brain. Through intense chemo, radiation, and prayers from anyone and everyone we could get to remember him his brain tumor is so small its almost undetectable and now we are focusing on his lungs. I am not a very religious person, however when the Oncologist told him he had about 3 months( You don't have an expiration date!!!). We all thought the worst, he is still fighting hard as I am sure you will also. My prayers will be with you and and your family. And when I am in the position to donate I can not think of a better cause.

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Tonya Dearman Breen
86 months ago

Come out and join us for fun, fellowship, friendship, refreshments, hope, positivity and love whild I donate my haire to Locks for Love, shave my head (my radiologist already said no-no to the lead in the ink of a tattoo because of all the MRI's I'll have to get -poo) and get a Big, Beautiful Henna Tattoo on my head! I've realized through this experience that the one thing that I kept hearing from women with post-partum, and st...ruggling, stay-at-home moms, and men and women with drug and alcohol problems, and those who had sexually abused or divorced, or abnadoned or raped or on, and on, and on, was "I just couldn't tell any one" or "I just didn't have anyone to talk to" or "I just figured this didn't happen to other people." God has revealed to me that shaving my head and getting the Henna has nothing to do with me at all. He has shown me that this disease of not talking to eash other is what is really eating us alive! God has yet to reveal to me all my spiritual gifts y

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Kenia Sawyer
86 months ago

Blessings Tonya, A friend shared with me your story and I knew immediatly without hesitation that I wanted to help. I am also 32, married, mother of 4 little ones (3 girs and a boy), but most of all I am a child of the Most High God Jehova-Rapha ("The Lord That Healeth Thee"). After reading your first posting I was so taken by the precious spirit of peace and strenght the Lord Jesus Christ has bestowed upon you. Know that you and your precious family are in my prayers. I live in Matthews and if you need anything, groceries to be picked up, laundry done, or anything that i may be able to assist, it would be my family's blessings to serve a lovely and courageus child of God. my email is matthews937@hotmail.com or chrisandkenia@yahoo.com In Jesus name, Kenia

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adriana hannahs
86 months ago

Hi Tonya, I just read your posting and I'm glad to know you can get treatment. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. God Bless you, with love, Adriana Hannahs

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Tonya Dearman Breen
86 months ago

Elisabeth who posted first thing this morning, I have spent over an hour trying to navigate this site to get your email address but I cannot figure it out! Please email me your phone number ASAP at tonya.breen@gmail.com! I would love to have a phone conversation with you. Your reply to my post just made my week and there is nothing I would rather do IN THIS WORLD today than speak to you in person!

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Tonya Dearman Breen
86 months ago

Elisabeth who posted first thing this morning, I have spent over an hour trying to navigate this site to get your email address but I cannot figure it out! Please email me your phone number ASAP at tonya.breen@gmail.com! I would love to have a phone conversation with you. Your reply to my post just made my week and there is nothing I would rather do IN THIS WORLD today than speak to you in person!

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Elisabeth
86 months ago

I haven't prayed in a long time, but I felt so compelled to pray for you. So thank you for nudging me back to the faith that I thought I had left behind forever. I will keep praying.

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Alexis
86 months ago

You are strengthening my relationship in Christ, Tonya, by your strength. Thank you.

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Tonya Dearman Breen
86 months ago

Up at a friend's lake house now trying hard to rest. Still not doing great at it. Had a crazy scary with Ambien last night(I don't remember any of it but apparently i went to take a bath and passed out on the bed with the tub water running. My sister found me very groggy, they tried to get me to eat and even debated calling the ambulance and my grandmother slept with me all night-needless to say I will never be taking that again!) and have been forgetting things and seeing spots this evening so I am on permanent sofa detail for the rest of the night. Still, I was blessed with some fantastic conversations today And continue to be amazed by how God is using this experience for His glory! Meeting with oncology Thursday morning for next steps. God bless and good night!

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Tonya Dearman Breen
86 months ago

hello friends, just a quick update for anyone who is not part of the other community website - tonya is recovering from her brain biopsy and did just fine this morning! YOUR PRAYERS HAVE DEFINITELY BEEN HEARD! Thank you so much as well for all the kind comments, suggestions, scripture, and well wishes posted here! - Kevin

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Tonya Dearman Breen
86 months ago

Christianna, Thank you for your kind comment.. when we saw the neurosurgeon yesterday and tried to get specific costs of care to communicate to everyone, they had the same sentiment as Kate! missed work, childcare and medical bills add up quick, and i promise every penny that you and the other incredibly generous 439 donors so far are nothing less than a staggering blessing from God to help us manage all of this. Thank you from the bottom of our hearts, and may God bless you and your family as well! - Kevin

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Alexis
86 months ago

I pray that you raise enough money that your husband can be the caregiver of your children! :) :)

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Christianna Weisert
86 months ago

Sorry for the double up - if there's a moderator on here, please delete one of those posts.

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Christianna Weisert
86 months ago

Tonya and the rest of the Breens - please do not for a second think that you have to come up with a way to "prove" how the money is being spent. I work as a nanny for an anesthesiologist, so I know that unexpected costs come up both on the childcare and on the medical side of the equation. Take the money with a clear conscience, please. Even if you don't need to use every penny on illness related costs (and nothing would make me happier than to hear that you don't have to!), it is still yours and I have faith that you will do what is right with it. Some people will always say hateful and doubting things and that is their issue to deal with when they face judgement day. God bless you and your family - praying for you all!

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Anja Templin
80 months ago

Alle Gute für Dich

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82 months ago
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83 months ago
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Kara Gelnett
83 months ago

Praying for you and your family

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Amy Griffin
83 months ago

Bless you. Peace and light flows through your words.

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Alli
83 months ago

You and your family are in my prayers Tonya. You show incredible strength!

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Kristie
83 months ago

I'm praying my hardest for you and your family right now, my very hardest.

Megan Nicole Parker
21 months ago

Let me start off by saying I am beyond sorry for all of this you and your beautiful family are going through! I truly wish I had the finacial stability to be able to donate to you and your family in this dark time in your lives, but sadly I do not! :( I can offer prayer! I can and will pray for you and for your family, for whatever you need.... God will know exactly what I'm praying for and where to place his healing hands! I wish I could offer both prayer and a donation but I can't 41st this time. I will personally pray for you and your family for ALL your needs and I will place you on the prayer request in my woman's bible study class. I can not imagine all that your going through so you won't hear me say "I understand" in the least about what your going through BUT I will say that anything is possible through Christ and he doesn't out you through any situation that he can't bring you out of.... But I'm sure you know all of this already! :) I hope everything works out for you and your family! And yes, you do have an awesome husband! May God be with you all! God bless you! I'm praying for you!

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76 months ago

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theorist
83 months ago

God bless, heal, keep you and yours. Amen.

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Lisa Kulig
85 months ago

Also - I tried to donate and it went to an error screen. I know you need to know that :( In addition, I have many friends in the AA community who will be more than happy to assist in your well being. You WILL make it through.

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Lisa Kulig
85 months ago

Hello, Tonya. I cannot imagine your frustration, grief, etc. However. I do want to say that in the face of adversity you are a true testament to the human spirit. I hope and pray that your story gets more attention. I've made that my personal goal (I'm a stay at home Mom, so I'm kinda bored -- gotta do SOMETHING) ... anyway. You are in my thoughts, prayers and I hope to God that you make it through this.

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Katie
85 months ago

I just read your latest update, and I'm crying right now. I know I don't know you (heard your story from Healthy Tipping Point), but I think about you often. Your positivity and faith are staggering to me. Please don't be harsh on yourself for feeling angry, frightened, sad, anything. If I could I would give you the biggest hug right now.

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Wes Wheeler
86 months ago

Tonya, I have just recently joined the Bankers family, so I don't know Kevin personally but I certainly understand a small part of what he is feeling. My father after working 42 years retired last June, and then was diagnosed stage 4 lung cancer that had also spread to his brain. Through intense chemo, radiation, and prayers from anyone and everyone we could get to remember him his brain tumor is so small its almost undetectable and now we are focusing on his lungs. I am not a very religious person, however when the Oncologist told him he had about 3 months( You don't have an expiration date!!!). We all thought the worst, he is still fighting hard as I am sure you will also. My prayers will be with you and and your family. And when I am in the position to donate I can not think of a better cause.

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Tonya Dearman Breen
86 months ago

Come out and join us for fun, fellowship, friendship, refreshments, hope, positivity and love whild I donate my haire to Locks for Love, shave my head (my radiologist already said no-no to the lead in the ink of a tattoo because of all the MRI's I'll have to get -poo) and get a Big, Beautiful Henna Tattoo on my head! I've realized through this experience that the one thing that I kept hearing from women with post-partum, and st...ruggling, stay-at-home moms, and men and women with drug and alcohol problems, and those who had sexually abused or divorced, or abnadoned or raped or on, and on, and on, was "I just couldn't tell any one" or "I just didn't have anyone to talk to" or "I just figured this didn't happen to other people." God has revealed to me that shaving my head and getting the Henna has nothing to do with me at all. He has shown me that this disease of not talking to eash other is what is really eating us alive! God has yet to reveal to me all my spiritual gifts y

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Kenia Sawyer
86 months ago

Blessings Tonya, A friend shared with me your story and I knew immediatly without hesitation that I wanted to help. I am also 32, married, mother of 4 little ones (3 girs and a boy), but most of all I am a child of the Most High God Jehova-Rapha ("The Lord That Healeth Thee"). After reading your first posting I was so taken by the precious spirit of peace and strenght the Lord Jesus Christ has bestowed upon you. Know that you and your precious family are in my prayers. I live in Matthews and if you need anything, groceries to be picked up, laundry done, or anything that i may be able to assist, it would be my family's blessings to serve a lovely and courageus child of God. my email is matthews937@hotmail.com or chrisandkenia@yahoo.com In Jesus name, Kenia

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adriana hannahs
86 months ago

Hi Tonya, I just read your posting and I'm glad to know you can get treatment. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. God Bless you, with love, Adriana Hannahs

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Tonya Dearman Breen
86 months ago

Elisabeth who posted first thing this morning, I have spent over an hour trying to navigate this site to get your email address but I cannot figure it out! Please email me your phone number ASAP at tonya.breen@gmail.com! I would love to have a phone conversation with you. Your reply to my post just made my week and there is nothing I would rather do IN THIS WORLD today than speak to you in person!

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Tonya Dearman Breen
86 months ago

Elisabeth who posted first thing this morning, I have spent over an hour trying to navigate this site to get your email address but I cannot figure it out! Please email me your phone number ASAP at tonya.breen@gmail.com! I would love to have a phone conversation with you. Your reply to my post just made my week and there is nothing I would rather do IN THIS WORLD today than speak to you in person!

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Elisabeth
86 months ago

I haven't prayed in a long time, but I felt so compelled to pray for you. So thank you for nudging me back to the faith that I thought I had left behind forever. I will keep praying.

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Alexis
86 months ago

You are strengthening my relationship in Christ, Tonya, by your strength. Thank you.

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Tonya Dearman Breen
86 months ago

Up at a friend's lake house now trying hard to rest. Still not doing great at it. Had a crazy scary with Ambien last night(I don't remember any of it but apparently i went to take a bath and passed out on the bed with the tub water running. My sister found me very groggy, they tried to get me to eat and even debated calling the ambulance and my grandmother slept with me all night-needless to say I will never be taking that again!) and have been forgetting things and seeing spots this evening so I am on permanent sofa detail for the rest of the night. Still, I was blessed with some fantastic conversations today And continue to be amazed by how God is using this experience for His glory! Meeting with oncology Thursday morning for next steps. God bless and good night!

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Tonya Dearman Breen
86 months ago

hello friends, just a quick update for anyone who is not part of the other community website - tonya is recovering from her brain biopsy and did just fine this morning! YOUR PRAYERS HAVE DEFINITELY BEEN HEARD! Thank you so much as well for all the kind comments, suggestions, scripture, and well wishes posted here! - Kevin

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Tonya Dearman Breen
86 months ago

Christianna, Thank you for your kind comment.. when we saw the neurosurgeon yesterday and tried to get specific costs of care to communicate to everyone, they had the same sentiment as Kate! missed work, childcare and medical bills add up quick, and i promise every penny that you and the other incredibly generous 439 donors so far are nothing less than a staggering blessing from God to help us manage all of this. Thank you from the bottom of our hearts, and may God bless you and your family as well! - Kevin

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Alexis
86 months ago

I pray that you raise enough money that your husband can be the caregiver of your children! :) :)

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Christianna Weisert
86 months ago

Sorry for the double up - if there's a moderator on here, please delete one of those posts.

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Christianna Weisert
86 months ago

Tonya and the rest of the Breens - please do not for a second think that you have to come up with a way to "prove" how the money is being spent. I work as a nanny for an anesthesiologist, so I know that unexpected costs come up both on the childcare and on the medical side of the equation. Take the money with a clear conscience, please. Even if you don't need to use every penny on illness related costs (and nothing would make me happier than to hear that you don't have to!), it is still yours and I have faith that you will do what is right with it. Some people will always say hateful and doubting things and that is their issue to deal with when they face judgement day. God bless you and your family - praying for you all!

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