Donate to the Tillinghast Fund
Whether through prayer, yummy lasagnas, thoughtful cards, a funny text message, a tight hug or inappropriate laughter induced by one of their not-so-appropriate friends. Thank you.
Jon & Kristen are overwhelmed by, and SO grateful for your friendship and concern as Krissy continues her cancer treatments. Let's just say it: We hate that word but we love our Tillinghasts!
This fund has been set up in an effort to help cover medical costs. We'd like to take some worry off their plate and allow a little more time and freedom to hang with their adorable pack of kiddos. And speaking of adorable offspring, we kindly request to respect their privacy and childhood by reserving questions or general chatter for the appropriate time, place, and ears.
Thank you, thank you for the tremendous love and support each of your have provided to this beloved family. Krissy's passing on Tuesday has left us all heavy-hearted.
Here is the link to her service. Please continue to hold them all tight in prayer.
And here's something I wrote the other day as I remembered my dear friend:
On Mother's Day, my 13-year-old son Kyle gave me a bracelet. Each bead, starting with the largest, clearest one, tells the story of the Lord's Prayer. Kyle beamed as I slipped it onto my wrist and gave him a great big kiss.
There it stayed on my great big, fat wrist for a total of two hours before the wire snapped and beads tumbled onto my lap. I collected them and put them in my drink holder in my car and there they stayed for days, maybe a week, until Krissy spied them one morning on our way to breakfast.
Its not that I caste them away or they longer meant something to me. I'm just lazy. Uncrafty. Convinced that it was gone, unsaveable.
She didn't say anything as she picked up each bead and put them in her bag, just smiled. Honestly, I just thought she was cleaning up my car.
Two days later as I was headed to Kids Zone during the last song of main service, she spotted me and placed a small velvet bag into my hand. The bracelet was restored, in perfect order.
I held onto that bracelet all night last night - no longer willing to risk it being broken again by my big fat wrist. I was holding onto my friend and holding onto hope in life after death.
This bracelet is love in the best and most beautiful form. Stitched back to life, bead by bead, by a woman dying of cancer but bursting with faith. By a woman who loved every person around her, deeply, who picked up the broken pieces she knew she was going to leave behind and put them back together, whispering (and sometimes loudly) that He will make all things good.
We all are shattered right now. My heart, like those beads, feels like its in a billion pieces but I'm holding onto this bracelet, His promise to restore us all and I'm picturing Him when he laid His heavenly eyes on our dear friend.
"One of my favorites," he'd say.
She will always be one of mine.
With much love,
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Most of you may think these tasks or contributions seem small but please know this to your core: It has lightened their load tremendously, filled the bellies of their growing kiddos and I like to think every time they open their door to find another generously purchased bag of groceries or are able to pay a medical expense, a little bit of the big love we all have for them rushes inside that house too.
And, ah, that home. It’s full of life and dogs and laughter (yes laughter) and Legos, lots and lots of Legos. It is also where Krissy is now under the loving care of hospice. Treatments have ended - no more long days in Boston - she’s much happier to get to spend these long summer days with her family.
This GoFundMe campaign continues with more urgency now. I have left the goal as is because to change it seems unnecessary. Let’s just do what we can. Jon is taking care of his pretty wife with such love but it also means that he’s not working. If anyone asks how they can help, please point them towards this site: GoFundMe.com/Tillinghast account. That is their biggest need right now.
Jon and Krissy have bucked the whole social media trend, so please honor that and refrain from sharing any intimate details online. We trust your discretion remembering what you share with your kids or online could make it to their children. Their ultimate wish is that their children can enjoy being kids as best they can this summer.
With thanks and love,
Heather (their friend from New England Chapel)
To the beautiful village that has quietly risen up around us…thank you. We are simply overwhelmed by your kindness.
Time is such a valuable commodity these days and your generosity has given us more time together. Jon takes three Mondays off each month to bring me to Dana Farber. Your sensitivity and care allow him to keep that appointment each week. Thank you.
I wish there were a better written expression of gratitude than “thank you” but we mean it from the bottom of our hearts. We hope each of you experience the kind of care you’ve given us when you need it. You’ve made a lasting impact on each member of our family, we look forward to passing your love along.
Jon, Krissy, Lyla, Silas & Eli
As per GoFundMe guidelines, I must share my intent to withdraw & transfer funds to the Tillinghasts via a charitable bank account, set up by me and accessible to them, at TD Bank.
In the meantime, please continue to share this link with those you think may like to be a part of this tremendous effort.
On behalf of the Tillinghasts, thanks for the kind messages and prayers. It is lifting them up!