Support for Natalie & Brian
Grieving after the loss of a loved one is a heavy weight to bear, let alone worrying about all the costs and logistics involved in arranging a funeral or memorial service. It is important that Natalie and Brian take some time now and not be worrying about bills or not being at work. There is nothing we can do to take away their pain but we can ease some of their worries with some financial support.
If you are on this page then you probably know Natalie or Brian and know that help isn't something they request, they are such strong people but they also know that we, their friends and families want to help them in ways that we can.
As of right now the hospital deductible is approximately $3,000 and an unknown costs for funeral expenses at this time. Therefore a goal of $5,000 to start, which can be altered if needed.
Please see the following from Brian and Natalie:
The past 11 days have been the worst of our lives. It still seems surreal, like a bad dream that we’re still waiting to wake up from. Nothing can take away the pain of never getting to know our daughter Eleanor. Never even getting to hear her take her first breath and hear her cry for the first time. The weight of all of life’s moments we will never have with her is crushing. Time heals all things and in some ways things have gotten easier. However, as reality settles in some things have also become more difficult.
If any good can be drawn from all of the sadness, it has been the overwhelming response from family, friends, co-workers, acquaintances, and people we have never even had the pleasure of knowing. The countless number of messages of comfort and support alone are touching and consoling. What we still can’t wrap our head around is the immense generosity of so many that has left us just speechless. We don’t like asking for help because we don’t like to feel like a bother. We are so overwhelmed by your response that we are still at a loss for words more than a week later. “Grateful”, “appreciative”, and “indebted” barely even scratch the surface in trying to describe it. There are not enough minutes in the day to thank even one of you adequately. We don’t know what we did to deserve it, and it’s a question we’ll be asking ourselves for a long time to come. There are so many people that have helped us through this that we have never even met and so many more Anonymous supporters that we will never be able to thank. Thank you all, every last one of you, so much for all of the love and support. We truly cannot thank you enough. Your kindness cannot be measured and your generosity will never be forgotten. With all of the negativity and finger pointing and pessimism in the world, I am glad our baby Eleanor could be an example of the good that humanity is capable of. Natalie and I cannot thank you enough. THANK YOU, each and every last one of you.
There are no words to express the gratitude that Natalie and Brian and their families feel for the thoughts and prayers and generosity of so many at this most difficult time. A most unexpected outpouring that will never be forgotten. Dawn Visage (Natalie's mom)
Our son was stillborn on March 30, 2012. There is nothing anyone can say to ease the pain, but I can tell you now 3 years later that it does get better. It can be taxing on a marriage to suffer the loss of a child and I recommend counseling. There's lots of free options out there. It saved our marriage. One year later on March 9, 2013 we gave birth to our 2nd son. He was healthy and the rainbow baby we so desperately needed. I pray that more than money you find peace, a stronger bond with each other than before and that one day in your future you too are blessed with a rainbow baby of your own.
Natalie, Do know I prayed for you and you are deep in my thoughts.. I can't help but cry seeing and reading your story. I've never allowed my kids to cry it out but I do have my fair share of frustrations and will always remember you and your precious angel when it happens again.. to always remember the pain you're enduring and how fortunate and grateful I must remind myself to be. I prey the lord blesses you with another blessing and let her be as beautiful as your angel.. bless you
My son was born sleeping on March 11, 2015 so I unfortunately know what they are going through. The days will get better but there are still days that are unbearable. I cried the entire time reading this story remembering how I felt. I was at my 38 week checkup when we found out there was no heartbeat. Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep does a walk every year. It will be October 3 in Colorado or the virtual walk on October 24. It might be too early for them but they should look into this for next year. (https://www.nowilaymedowntosleep.org/remembrancewalk/) We were not lucky enough to have them come take pictures of our son (too many other precious babies that day) but their organization is wonderful. They have many resources on their websites for families around the country. Please have them look into them when they are ready. There are also tips for what friends and family can do to help support them. Friends and family have been what helped us get through this unbearable time in our lives. Most importantly say her daughter's name to her. Make her know that Eleanor was loved by everyone and that she will never be forgotten!
There are not any words I could possibly say to take the pain away because I could not even begin to understand what you are feeling. All I know by your story is that you are such a strong woman because honestly I just don't believe I would've had the strength and courage to keep going. My condolences to you and your family and may your sweet angel rest in peace. God bless you.
Oh, Natalie!!! I am so heart broken for you. I can't hold back the tears as read your story. Eleanor was absolutely beautiful! Please know that we are praying for you all. I am so sorry for your loss.
Im so sorry for your loss. I had a very similiar experience 5 days before xmas. Its been less than a year but i will say it does get a little easier with time. I hope you have other children, i do and its them and my husband that got me through. I am currently 5 months pregnant with are rainbow baby. I will say its a terrifing journey after personally facing worst case senario but i have faith everything will be ok this time. Take your time grieving and please know your not alone.
Thank you for sharing your story- this was my story almost to the word. No heart beat the day before due date. Morgan Garbrielle would have been 16 years.... Our daughters live on in our hearts and our families love.... As a photographer it was hard to take photos... I took one... I have good days and bad... I will keep you in my prayers - all those of us who have felt this pain- in my prayers
Tears for Eleanor this morning from michigan. ♡ I hope your beautiful family finds peace. Beautiful bebe angel♡♡♡
Thank you for sharing. Really made me love and appreciate my 8 month old ♥ God has a plan for everyone. Keep your heads high and I pray you will be blessed with a beautiful rainbow baby someday.
As a mom of an angel baby over 13 years ago I am so sorry for your loss. Praying for strength that will carry you through this.... One day at a time ❤️
Oh how my heart, no my soul weeps for you. You beautiful Eleanor ♡ my my girls keep her company up above . I wish I could say it will be alright and you will move past your loss, but it stays beside you. I pray though that you find the love, strength and serenity in those that love you most and know trust in God, let him be the beacon in the dark and may you feel the peace that I promise one day will come ♡♡
Natalie and Brian- I'm so sorry for the loss of your precious baby girl. I found this post on one of my friend's Facebook page and it just broke my heart. I've been thinking about you since I read your article last night and woke up this morning with you still on my mind. Know that I'm praying for comfort and God's precious peace through all of this. Thank you for sharing your story so that others can pray for you and bless you through this. Psalm 116:15, Precious in the eyes of the Lord is the death of his saints.
Natalie n brian, I m so sorry for ur loss. My son died 3 months old n time does help but never let's me forget his birthday, death anniversary even though it happened in 1972. I pray for I everyday as I get on my knees before the Lord. I pray strength n healing for u even though it is too soon for that. I have never met I but someone sent ur story to me on fb n I was at work n sobbed like a baby. Love to u all n can't express the hurt I feel for u. Thank u for sharing. Fran welch
I am truly sorry for your lost. I do exactly how you are feeling I lost my triplets 10 years ago. They past away 4 days after they were born. For me it was really hard because I could hear their little heartbeats in my room for 6 months almost 7 months. Then all of the sudden they are gone. The pain never goes away. It just doesn't hurt as much as it did on the beginning. They are always on my mind. I pray for you guys the strength to get through this together. P
I will share with all my friends and family in Michigan. We may not know you but we are all in this together. ♥
I dont know but i work in a birth center and see this kind of loss often . It breaks my heart every time. So very sad for your loss. Praying for comfort until you see her again. Hugs to everyone.
I am sorry for your loss!!!!! She will surely be miss and is in heaven looking down on you as her mom and dad !!!!! I cant imagine what you are going through!!!!! Again i am sorry