Save my home
I've done the best I could... I did what I thought was right. I spent most of this century caring for my mother who suffered from Alzheimer's and cancer. Her Hospice nurse said in 35 years experience she had never seen a family caregiver do so much as I did for my mother, but how could I do less? Her death, a few years ago, still weighs on me every day, I still feel I didn't do enough.
I tried to settle her estate fairly with my brother, who lived far away and contributed almost nothing to her care or comfort in her final years. However, he was not satisfied and decided to go to court. He lost, he still refused to cooperate and then HE died.
In the interim the stress took its toll on ME and I had to have coronary bypass surgery.
I'm still not fully recovered but now I'm at odds with my brother's heirs and they are attempting to not quite swindle me but they are taking advantage of the fact that I am in debt as a result of the expenses of caring for my mother and trying to settle her affairs and then having major surgery.
After the surgery I was unable to keep up with the bills and needed to take out a small loan, assuming I would be able to get the estate settled and pay it back relatively quickly.
All the legal problems caused by my brother and now his heirs have made the bank impatient and they are planning to sell my half of the house on the courthouse steps on Tuesday, Oct. 9th to settle the debt.
My brother's heirs are taking advantage of this situation and instead of paying me back for half of the expenses, which I am due, so I could prevent the bank from taking the house, they are refusing to cooperate and will probably use the foreclosure sale to take my half of the house for themselves since they have the income from my brother's estate at their disposal and will likely bid at the auction and take my half of my mother's estate for a fraction of its value and then sell it themselves.
Were it not for my direct actions of caring for my mother in her home and helping my brother make HIS house payments several times there would have been no estate from either my mother or brother and this is the thanks I get.
So, to prevent this foreclosure which would leave me homeless AND penniless I am forced to ask the world for help.
I have been trying to negotiate a settlement for weeks but to no avail. I need to give the bank $11,800 on Tuesday morning to clear the loan. I know it is an almost impossible request but I'm left with no other options.
If you could find it in your hearts to help prevent this harshest of injustices and help me get out from between this "rock and a hard place" I would be eternally in YOUR debt.
There have been several developments since my last Update but I'll save that for the Year-end Report. For now, I'd just like to share with you some memories of past Christmases in this house.
My mother very much enjoyed when I decorated the house for Christmas, starting when I was just a child, helping my father string a few lights in the bushes of the house we lived in with my Grandmother oh, those many decades ago. When my father died the outside lights became my project alone. I wonder, now, looking back, how I managed to get lights to the tops of the trees and roof of the huge, old post-Victorian house we lived in next without falling to my death.
While I was in Japan my mother moved out of that grand old house and took up residence in the house I now care for. I've included a photo from the last time we won the city lighting contest. I'm not sure if she was more pleased by the lights or the fact that the winner got their electric bill paid by the city.
She loved decorating for Christmas and collected Christmas village buildings. As one of her Christmas gifts I got her a new one every year. I regret that I did not get a picture of the collection I set up in her bedroom for her last Christmas. It covered a large table and made her very happy to have it as her "nightlights". There is a photo of the collection from the year Nemo joined our family, though.
And, of course, a photo of Nemo in front of the tree.
A lot of memories are attached to a home, some happy, some sad. At this time of year we look back and in so doing, are reminded of family and friends. I wish to thank, yet again, all my friends, old and new and everyone who came to my aid when my need was great.
I would not be here were it not for all of YOU !
My very best to you all in the coming year!
I have been looking forward to an uplifting and positive Update on this day of Thanksgiving, hoping to express my gratitude and great good fortune, and, my recent change of luck for the better, but Mr. Murphy has had other ideas.
Despite good news from my attorney regarding the upcoming legal proceedings and a good month teaching (so I could pay the insurance on the house and the car I was so lucky to receive last summer and replenish my larder in advance of the holidays) my good fortune was short lived.
I noticed that Nemo, my mother's and now MY faithful companion seemed to be having some difficulties. I took him to the Vet. yesterday and confirmed that he's lost the sight in one eye and has a cataract in the other. We've been referred to a specialist but at present, I probably won't be able to do much as treatment could run from several hundred to several thousand dollars. We'll see what they say and do what we can.
As if that weren't enough to dampen my holiday spirit, last night, as I was preparing for today's culinary activities I noticed an unusual chill in the normally chilly air. A quick check revealed that the furnace was not working. Further investigation led me to the conclusion that I need a new "ignitor", a repair I prefer to have done by a licensed professional.
Fortunately, (thank you, Climate Change) it was 60 and sunny today so I managed some solar gain and I've had a pork butt slow-roasting all day so the house is bearably warm and the air is filled with the fragrance of roasting pork and winter vegetables. We won't let bad news spoil the feasting! (we're dining late to accommodate a friend who had to work today)
Speaking of Climate Change, after I got my butt rubbed and roasting I went out and mowed the lawn, yes, mowed the lawn on Thanksgiving Day. I'm still doing my best to keep the yard and gardens up to my mother's standards. Will we be mowing for Christmas next year?
So, despite the setbacks of the last 24 hours I WILL celebrate my good fortune and give thanks for the many friends who came to my aid in my time of need and express my gratitude in advance to those who are still planning to help as I continue my struggle.
Yet, even as I continue my struggle, others have been struggling even longer. What a tragically ironic coincidence that I came upon the article below on this, of all days.
Let us give thanks for what we have and give support to those still in need...
Once again, THANK YOU, to everyone who helped and I hope is continuing to help by passing on the link so that I can fund my legal battle.
If anyone would like more information about how this problem escalated and was finally defused, send me a private message. I've been advised not to "go public" and I'm taking that advice under advisement as I'm still inclined to make the whole ordeal open so it doesn't happen to anyone else.
The next step is getting my attorney paid and back to work overcoming the problems created by my brother's heirs. It will likely take months unless they decide to be more cooperative.
I'll be popping back here with Updates as the events unfold so stay tuned...
Your continued donations will help defray the thousands of dollars in legal fees already owed and yet to come as I continue my legal battles with my family.
Once, again, my sincere thanks to everyone who helped avert this crisis!