Minda's Healing Journey
After almost six weeks of struggling with a misdiagnosed heart condition, Minda was admitted into the Emergency Department here at KGH. There she underwent countless tests, scans, biopsies and bone marrow extractions durning her eight day stay in the hospital. Although the family is still waiting for all of the final results, Minda has been given a diagnosis of Hodgkin's Lymphoma . Both her family Doctor and her Oncologists agreed time is of the essence. Regardless of the stage of her cancer or the rate of growth, the time to begin is now. Minda's treatment will be given every two weeks at the cancer agency, for a minimum of six months of aggressive chemotherapy. The details and specifics will follow as results arrive and more tests in Vancouver develop.
We are trying to keep Minda's husband, Tim, at home for the duration of her treatment. As many of you know Tim works in Africa and is away for over 32 days at a time. Their family needs him home. They need him to be here for Minda on those unbelievably low days, and they need him to be here on those unbelievably awesome days. The family needs Tim to be at home for their four children, to comfort and to help guide them through this uncertain time in all of their lives.
Most of you will recognize Minda from our community, she loves life to the fullest! She's the familiar face at your local coffee shop who knows each and everyone of you because she wants to not because she has to. Minda is that endless smile that radiates her love of life onto others. She is your neighbour, she was your best friend in kindergarten, your fellow yogi in the hot room, your family. To a lot of people Minda means many things, and each of you hold a special place in your heart for her; as does she. But to her family she is their everything.
Minda is doing what she can, the way she knows best. Daily yoga, meditation and surrounding herself with powerful good energy and love! The Lovelady family will be fighting their moms fight right along side her. We are all hoping this beautiful city of Kelowna where she was born and raised will support her through this life changing event.
It is with much love and admiration for this beautiful woman that we are taking the steps necessary to help keep her family of six together at home to heal. The Loveladys truly believe there will be a positive outcome and are asking for all positive thoughts and love to be sent their way as well.
With much love and a humble heart they begin their journey today as a family.
"Be here now... This is the only place you need to be... And from this place, all things are possible..."
Journey to the heart.
So here I am. I have done three rounds of chemotherapy now. I go to the appointments, the treatments, the information sessions, yet it doesn't seem real somehow. Some days it feels as though cancer is not really happening to me and my family, yet here I am and this is us. We are doing this, so we move forward each and everyday.
As a whole we are keeping positive, finding the happiness in the small things, enjoying our time together, because we seem to have more time for each other. That's just one of the silver linings that we have found along the way. We give more of ourselves to each other, we take time to listen, to slow down, to just be. We have allowed ourselves to find each other again. I had wanted 2016 to be about personal growth and our family. It is one of the main reasons we decided to sell our coffee shop, to bring our family closer together. And that is exactly what is happening now, we are finding the joy and love that we might have taken for granted. Everything has shifted now, we see life differently. It's funny how one event can put everything into focus and you know exactly what to do.
A friend of mine, Melissa, spent the day with Chloe and I to captured these moments. I am so grateful for her! Some of the images are hard for me to see, because it reminds me how this is not only happening to me but my entire family. Other photos make me smile, as we spent the day laughing and enjoying each others company. Some of the images remind me of how strong my family is and what we are able to accomplish together, and it makes me so proud. I am grateful that I will have all of these photos and memories. I know there will be a point when I will look back on our families journey and acknowledge how far we've come!
We have decided to laugh, to love and to live our lives to the fullest everyday!
With much love
Here's a link to a slideshow Melissa made for everyone to see some of the photos taken during my third round of chemotherapy
I have yet to find any words that could even begin to express what I'm feeling in my heart. It is one thing to know that you have the love and support of your family and close friends beside you every step of the way. But when you see the love flowing in from a larger community, I feel so incredibly humbled and grateful. I see names I haven't thought of in years, who bring a smile to my face. I see names that I know from our daily visits at the coffee shop, and their usual drink comes to mind instantly. I can't help it, it's what I do! I see names of our staff both past and present as well as their families and it makes me proud. I read names that I associate with my children, as their friends are donating not just for me but for my children. It is these acts of love that move me the most. I read names of people I have never had the chance to meet yet. But they are all there for me. It is truly an act of love that brings us all together.
Know that I am reading these posts with a smile and many tears. My heart is full and I am most grateful for each and everyone who takes time out of their day to support and walk with me down my new temporary path. My path to healing has begun and everyday I intend to remember who I truly am in essence and in my being. I will not let my diagnosis define who I am in this moment.
Your generosity is allowing Tim to remain at home to heal along side of us to keep our family together. Due to the misdiagnose, and the six weeks of lost income, every single donation that is received will keep Tim at home for another day and will be kept within our family for our family. The cost of all my medications will also paid for by our communities generosity as we do not have extended medical benefits. Funds received will also help cover the costs of upcoming medical trips to Vancouver, as well as to cover flight expenses for our daughter Chloe as she has recently moved to Calgary.
I can think of nothing more important to me right now then having my entire family home. This is how my healing will begin. Helping to maintain a sense of calm and ease of transition as we venture forward. It is with deep love and much gratitude to each and everyone of you that I say thank you.
Sending much love,
I wanted to share my relationship with Minda with you. She and her family were my neighbours for several happy and exciting years. I recently moved and typically after you move you lose contact. Not the case. I call us an unlikely pair, but it works.
Tim and Minda are very proud people and it took me a while to talk them into sharing their situation with all of you. This happened so fast the family is still in a state of shock. Many of you are probably wondering " why doesn't Tim go back to work ???? "The kids are teenagers.....surely they can manage ???"What people don't know is that Chloe recently move to Calgary before this diagnosis (Chloe is the oldest). When Tim was gone to work before, she helped Minda . There are extenuating circumstances in regards to Minda's condition and TIM NEEDS TO BE HERE. When Minda is ready she will share this with you . This family is close to my heart - good, hard working people in an unlucky circumstance - it could be any one of us .
Minda, You, your family, and your little shop have been a BIG part of our story. You have been a ray of sunshine in our pre-coffee-it's-too-early-to-function hours. Your endless smiles started us off on the right foot in the mornings and gave us a boost in the afternoons. Sending our thoughts, energy and love your way! -John, Jenna & Aurora