Veteran continues into dementia

I’m the 7th son of seven sons.  Three of us remain, #4 John, #5 Cecil  & me, #7 Tom, all of whom are retired Navy.  The purpose of this GoFundMe is to create funds to help Cecil continue to live in a memory care facility.
L-R John, Cecil, Tom, 2016

Cecil graduated high school in 1957 and enlisted in the Navy that fall.  He served for twenty years, retiring as an AT1, First Class Petty Officer (E-6).  Following his Navy career he held various jobs in various states.

About 20 years ago Cecil returned to Oahu, all six of my brothers' birthplace, where he had always wanted to live out his life.  He was very active in the Fleet Reserve Association, Veterans of Foreign Wars, Disabled American Veterans, American Legion, and his favorite, Sons & Daughters of Pearl Harbor Survivors Association.  He served in several officer positions of these organizations, and also volunteered as a docent at Punch Bowl National Cemetery and the USS Arizona Memorial.

Sons & Daughters of Pearl Harbor Survivors Association

Four and a half years ago, while on a visit to Oahu, my wife and I noticed signs of early onset of dementia.  It took me three years to convince Cecil to move to an assisted living facility in Reno, NV, to be nearer to us (Truckee, CA).  He was doing well for a year and a half until one night at the end of February, 2018, when he was found outside without adequate clothing for the 20° temperature that night.

The assisted living facility could not allow him to stay there any longer due to the risk of his being a wanderer, so we moved him to a memory care facility in Sparks, NV, on March 2, 2018.  This move more than doubled his costs for living, far exceeding his income.  He is in the gap of earning too much to receive assistance and too little to live in memory care for an extended period.

Having taken responsibility for his finances about three years ago I have been able to save some money for his long-term care.  His Navy retired pay, VA disability pay, and Social Security provide a monthly gross income of $2587, netting $2517.

His memory care shared room costs $5150 per month, and his VA medications and other minor expenses run at least $50 per month, with his total cost about $5200, which leaves a shortfall of $2683.

My goal is to raise at least $1000 per month to offset his shortfall, enabling me to continue his memory care with about $1683 per month of his money that I have been able to save for him.

There is no timeline determining how long a person lives after entering memory care, therefore I don’t know how long his income and savings plus your kind donations will carry him.

When it comes time for Cecil to pass, it is my intent to donate any remaining GoFundMe money to the Veterans Guest House in Reno, NV.

My brother, John, and I shall appreciate whatever help folks may offer to assist Cecil’s situation.  Please feel free to share my link to your Facebook Timeline.  If you don’t have funds to donate, please share in case someone you know might be able to.

Thank you for your support.

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Tom Meadows
Truckee, CA

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