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Holding My Sister’s Hand...
By
Jacqueline Fields
October 1, 2020
Death is never easy. The thought of death deeply affects the minds of all people. There are two facts about death that we know. First, the fact that we know death is inevitable, all living things will die. The second fact is that death can not be planned, for life does the planning for us. So, we diet this to fit into that. Work-out for hours until we have sweat all the water out of our bodies, and or, we spend our money foolishly in hopes of not dying before we actually “achieve it”. We expect to leave this life quietly and painlessly in the serene of our sleep, or maybe simply from old age. But what do we say when death appears suddenly, and or tragically? We do not say, “Well they lived a good life”, or “Glad he died in his sleep”. I’ve come to the conclusion, there is nothing anyone can say to take away the hurt or pain a loved one feels once death comes near.
We have all experienced this pain at some point in our lives. We have all lost a father, son, husband, best-friend, and a brother.
Saturday, September the 26th of 2020 will be the day my family’s life unexpectedly changed. My sister, April Whiting had to say goodbye to her best friend. Her husband of 10 years and a devoted father to their 4 children. A day forever scared upon the hearts of all who loved him.
But I’m going to share a short story of a strong woman – April Whiting. My sister, who lifts me up when my wings forget how to fly.
“Having a sister is like having a best friend you can’t get rid of. You know whatever you do, they’ll still be there”.
April is the second oldest of 4. Growing up in a military home, we moved quite often. We’d make friends to have to make new ones within at least 3 years. Moving around was never hard for any of us because we had each other. We weren’t alone. We relied on knowing each of us felt what one another was feeling. I’m known as the risk taker, where April is “I’d stay within my parameters, thank you”. If she feels somethings not right, she’s definitely not doing it! Two girls with two different personalities grew into “Sister ship” after our daughters were born. My sister named her 1st daughter Aliya and I named my daughter Alyssa. Our daughter are 5 months apart. My poor mother had both her daughters pregnant at the same time! It was from that moment we became inseparable.
April married Calvin on July 17th, 2010. I experienced many emotions that day. I was happy, sad, angry and jealous. I knew my sister gained a best friend and, on that day, until there’d be memories, they’d create that wouldn’t involve me. Those emotions were short lived when Calvin taught my sister how to be strong when in pain, love when you want to hate, and work for anything your heart’s desire.
I try not to reminisce on the days leading up to “The day”. I planned the Celebration Dinner of my 36th birthday on September the 25th for my family. So, we can laugh and tell Calvin to share stories of me in my younger days. He was a phenomenal jokester and could tell a story that made you feel as if you were right there!
God gained an angel and left another behind. Life has a way of waking you up. Sometimes it involves pain and your left with a broken heart. So, my dear sister April. I’m going to hold your hand and walk side by side in this life until the next, side by side or miles part, we are sisters connected at the heart!
- “Love you to the moon and back, one thousand times around”.
-Jac
I am asking humbly for any amount of donation to help reach my goal of $10,000. My hope is to be able to pay my sister’s home mortgage for 6 months, which will make my goal a reality.
Please send what is laid upon yourself to give. No amount is too small, for every amount is one step from achieving!
By
Jacqueline Fields
October 1, 2020
Death is never easy. The thought of death deeply affects the minds of all people. There are two facts about death that we know. First, the fact that we know death is inevitable, all living things will die. The second fact is that death can not be planned, for life does the planning for us. So, we diet this to fit into that. Work-out for hours until we have sweat all the water out of our bodies, and or, we spend our money foolishly in hopes of not dying before we actually “achieve it”. We expect to leave this life quietly and painlessly in the serene of our sleep, or maybe simply from old age. But what do we say when death appears suddenly, and or tragically? We do not say, “Well they lived a good life”, or “Glad he died in his sleep”. I’ve come to the conclusion, there is nothing anyone can say to take away the hurt or pain a loved one feels once death comes near.
We have all experienced this pain at some point in our lives. We have all lost a father, son, husband, best-friend, and a brother.
Saturday, September the 26th of 2020 will be the day my family’s life unexpectedly changed. My sister, April Whiting had to say goodbye to her best friend. Her husband of 10 years and a devoted father to their 4 children. A day forever scared upon the hearts of all who loved him.
But I’m going to share a short story of a strong woman – April Whiting. My sister, who lifts me up when my wings forget how to fly.
“Having a sister is like having a best friend you can’t get rid of. You know whatever you do, they’ll still be there”.
April is the second oldest of 4. Growing up in a military home, we moved quite often. We’d make friends to have to make new ones within at least 3 years. Moving around was never hard for any of us because we had each other. We weren’t alone. We relied on knowing each of us felt what one another was feeling. I’m known as the risk taker, where April is “I’d stay within my parameters, thank you”. If she feels somethings not right, she’s definitely not doing it! Two girls with two different personalities grew into “Sister ship” after our daughters were born. My sister named her 1st daughter Aliya and I named my daughter Alyssa. Our daughter are 5 months apart. My poor mother had both her daughters pregnant at the same time! It was from that moment we became inseparable.
April married Calvin on July 17th, 2010. I experienced many emotions that day. I was happy, sad, angry and jealous. I knew my sister gained a best friend and, on that day, until there’d be memories, they’d create that wouldn’t involve me. Those emotions were short lived when Calvin taught my sister how to be strong when in pain, love when you want to hate, and work for anything your heart’s desire.
I try not to reminisce on the days leading up to “The day”. I planned the Celebration Dinner of my 36th birthday on September the 25th for my family. So, we can laugh and tell Calvin to share stories of me in my younger days. He was a phenomenal jokester and could tell a story that made you feel as if you were right there!
God gained an angel and left another behind. Life has a way of waking you up. Sometimes it involves pain and your left with a broken heart. So, my dear sister April. I’m going to hold your hand and walk side by side in this life until the next, side by side or miles part, we are sisters connected at the heart!
- “Love you to the moon and back, one thousand times around”.
-Jac
I am asking humbly for any amount of donation to help reach my goal of $10,000. My hope is to be able to pay my sister’s home mortgage for 6 months, which will make my goal a reality.
Please send what is laid upon yourself to give. No amount is too small, for every amount is one step from achieving!
Organizer and beneficiary
Jacqueline Fields
Organizer
Stafford, VA
April Whiting
Beneficiary