Help Melissa Fabello Start Over

Melissa Fabello, PhD, is moving across the country after a major breakup and financial crisis. After 15 years of offering free and low-cost relationship education, community support, and political care work, she’s asking for help. Your donation supports her relocation, safety, and ability to rebuild.

This is mutual aid.

Let’s show up like she always has.

Who You’re Helping

Melissa Fabello, PhD (@fyeahmfabello), has spent over 15 years offering radical, politicized education about relationships, trauma, and justice. She’s a queer femme educator, writer, and coach whose work has supported thousands of people during breakups, breakdowns, and breakthroughs.

If you’ve ever followed her, read one of her essays, watched a Q&A unfold in her stories, or learned something from a TikTok or Instagram post, you’ve been part of her community.

Melissa gives generously:

And like so many care workers, she’s often done this unpaid or underpaid.

Why She Needs Help

After moving across the country to support a partner and his children, Melissa was left to face the brutal cost of living in Los Angeles alone. The rent, the debt, the loneliness, and the lack of support took a toll.

So she’s moving home to Boston, near her parents to rebuild.

This is a full cross-country move involving:

She’s doing this out of resistance.

She’s choosing survival over suffering.

Why I (Veronica) Am Helping

Melissa has been my coach for over ten years. I started following her when I was 19—confused about love, identity, and politics. Through her posts, her writing, and eventually our coaching relationship, Melissa helped me come out, start a business, embrace my queerness, and become the polyamorous, queer political organizing witch I am today.

I haven’t always been able to pay her.

She never stopped showing up.

That’s what care looks like.

That’s what community means.

Where the Money Goes

Base Goal: $13,500 — Move & Transition Costs

Emergency cushion & flexibility: remainder

Stretch Goal: $20,000 — Stability & Recovery

If we exceed the base goal, every dollar helps Melissa land with more security.

✊ Mutual Aid…Not Charity

Melissa has helped raise thousands of dollars for others by sharing campaigns, using her platform for advocacy, and showing up again and again. She’s modeled how to care for strangers as kin.

Now, we get to return that care.

Give if you can.

Share if you can’t.

Let’s get Melissa home.

No raffles, sweepstakes, giveaways, or returns on investment are offered in exchange for any donations made to this GoFundMe.