Overcoming Hardship: A Mother's Plea

In June of 2023, my now ex and I purchased our first home together. This was a time to celebrate a big life achievement and enjoy being new home owners. Unfortunately, it was not.

Within the first week of living in our new house everything changed. My partner who I purchased this house with changed dramatically. We lived in this house with our two children.

Some history of our relationship:

Both of our children have special medical needs. My son is completely blind, he was born with a rare condition that caused him not to develop eye balls. His daughter has suffered cancer as a toddler, and as a result had ostomy bags. (for both her bladder and colon) Being single parents of special children brought us together. In the beginning he was a doting father. All seemed normal. Until we moved into the house.

He began spending less and less time at the house. My son and I were often left alone. He would claim that he was busy with things like work meetings (late into the night) being told he was waiting to pick up his daughter, doing things for his parents etc. At first I thought nothing of it. Then when he would be home his phone was continuously going off. Texts. He would say from his "friends and

"coworkers".

Many nights he wouldn't come home until well after midnight or not at all claiming he was staying at his parents house. When I went to him with my concerns and about how he was making me feel. I was dismissed and told that he didn't want to be bothered with my feelings and that I needed to

"tuck it all away" and accept it, that a woman should be seen and not heard. I was to work, cook, clean and maintain the house. He then became very cold, secretive and detached.

After 4 months of this mental abuse and abandonment, I made the decision to move myself and my son out of the house due to the toxic environment. In October of 2023 l left. He was unbothered and didn't seem to mind. I contacted him and informed him that as of November 2023, I would no longer be responsible for the mortgage payments. He accepted this and told me he would refinance the house in his name alone.

In the end of January 2024, I received a call from my friend, (Mother of his daughter.) She informed me that her daughter had confessed to being molested by her father. After filing the police report an investigation was done and he was arrested and sent to jail. After he was released, he was to be on probation conditional to his release. At this time I had a breakdown and lost my job at Fantastic Sams. While I have accepted another stylist position, I am no longer making the money I was when the house was bought. My income has been cut in half. My mother has taken me and my son in. She helps me support my child.

Over time more information emerged that he had been contacting and seeing minors for months.

Even money was sent to convince young girls to "run away and be with him at his house." Because of this he was arrested again and this time his internet and storage devices were court ordered to be monitored.

When evidence was found on his cell phone, the house was searched. Police found storage devices in a safe inside the house. Those were investigated and found to have over 2,000 files pertaining to CSAM. (Child sexual abuse materials) By this time, he was arrested again and his bail was set to a million dollars. Since September of 2024, he has been in jail. The state is charging him with not only his daughter's case, but 6 felony counts of having "CSAM".

The state of Minnesota is actively seeking an aggressive sentencing for his crimes. He will be charged and sentenced to substantial prison time.

When this knowledge became public I was contacted by people from his teenage years that told me he had a case of similar nature as a teen. Now because he was charged as a minor it never became public record. Had this knowledge been available to me, I would have NEVER been involved with him. The house would have never been purchased.

Since he has been in jail, he left care of the property and payments to his parents. When I reached out to ask them what the plan was, they claimed they were "waiting" to see what happened with him. At this time they stopped making the mortgage payments and never reached out to me. Eventually when I got a letter from the mortgage company, telling me that a power of attorney was granted, I reached out to his mother. I asked her to just be civil with me and work with me so we could move on from all of this.

I have put everything I have into putting this house on the market. He signed a quit claim deed so I could assume control of the property soley.

I received an incredible offer for my house. The only thing that is holding me back from closing this extremely dark chapter of my life, is a HOA balance that I can not afford to pay off. While I do work, it is not enough in this economy. I’ve tried to make payment arrangements but the amount I can afford is insufficient.

God has seen me this far and I’m praying to see this through to the end. Anything helps.❤️

Freedom from the dark cloud this has brought on mine and my sons life is what I seek.