Our Journey to Baby W
Hello friends and family!
Steph and I have two amazing children, as you all know, and we
love them very much. We are really
loving watching them grow and enjoy being a positive influence in their lives
as they mature and discover who they are as young people. Being a parent is a blessing and we try not
to take any day with them for granted.
With that being said, we'd like to add more to our family. After 5 years of marriage, we're even more in
love with each other, conquering challenges and obstacles that many young
couples face, particularly conceiving: or not.
This is a look into our journey to do that, and where you, our closest
friends and family can be a part of it with us.
OUR STORY:
Some of you may know more about our story and
struggles than others, so we will do a recap on what we have been going through
for the past 6 1/2-7 years. We started
out with the "well if it happens it happens" phase. We didn't want a huge gap in between our kids
so we thought "let's get started early!", so we did that phase for a few years.
After no luck, we decided to do some
testing and found out that we would most likely need IVF (for more information on IVF click here)
to have a baby of our own. At that time
we weren't ready to invest the resources and energy it would take for us to get
pregnant with IVF, we just wanted to know what we were up against, but we never
gave up hope trying to conceive naturally. After many more months of trying we finally decided
to do a surgical procedure that could help with the problem. About a year and a half after the procedure we
got pregnant! Although we didn't know it at the time, and miscarried. That replanted some faith that it could happen
for us!
It's been a year and a half since that time and nothing further
has happened. The let down every month
is very frustrating, to say the least, SOO: in November we decided that we need
to step this up and try to seriously have a baby. We decided that if by January we still weren't
pregnant, that we would call the fertility doctor and make a plan. While our plan is a great plan, it's a very
costly one. Unfortunately our insurance
does not cover anything. Everything that we need to do has to come out of our
pocket. Another huge reason we have
continued to put this off is that it seems there's always something that comes
up and pushes this hope back another year or two. It is very humbling to seek out this help,
both from a specialist and from you, our friends and family.
OUR NEED:
Over the last year we have experienced some
hardships and struggles that have made us want this even more. We realize that life is very short and
unpredictable and we just don't want to wait any longer! To cut to the chase, at the
office that we have found and gotten to know, it is roughly $15,000 for IVF. $12,000 goes toward the procedure, medications
and tests, and $3,000 goes toward preserving eggs not transferred (to use later
for more babies!) ALL of the $12,000 must be paid at the time we start the IVF
medication process. We understand that this may seem like a huge and
overwhelming number, and that we must be absolutely looney to ask for help with
this. However we feel that we surround
ourselves with people who love and care about us and would do anything they
could to help us. With your help we know
we can make this happen! We're not only
asking for a monetary donation, we are asking for prayers and support as we
head into this extremely exciting, extremely terrifying adventure.
OUR PLAN:
The first 3-6 months involve testing and birth control to regulate ovulation to best pinpoint an egg retrieval date. We are starting this process now!! We have a tentative IVF medication start month of September 2014, when the $12,000 is due. This may seem like an aggressive schedule to many of you, but remember, we've been trying for seven years, we're not getting younger, and (Steph writing) "my body has a time limit!" :)
Thank you so much for taking the time to read this
and learn a little bit about our family.
Please feel free to ask us questions if you have them! We want to be open with our progress and involve
you as much as you want to be!
Steph and Adam
P.S. from Adam: I have learned so much since coming
into Ben and Becka's lives. About
family, about love, about trust, and about consistency. Being their everyday dad is something I'm
very proud of. I've had the fortune to
experience so many of their firsts and yet there are many memories of them that
I don't get to share with Steph. I'd
like the opportunity to experience everything, from the beginning, the very
beginning.