Humbled & disgraced. Help 83 yr old Veteran Jack.

John (Jack) and Barbara (Bonnie) St.Genis were together 34 years. They sold their home in September 2021 and moved to an apartment near Tracy, Bonnie's daughter and Jack walked down the aisle at her wedding and considered his own as well. Her 3 children have known their Grampy since birth. The proceeds from the home they sold were to help care for Jack and Bonnie in their latter years. Tracy committed to overseeing their care, initially offering to have them move into her home. I campaigned against that idea in the best interests of Tracy and the children. It would have not been an ideal environment for my parents either.

Bonnie immediately put my Father in hospice care without any specific diagnosis of his imminent demise. Jack has Parkinson's disease, dementia and A-Fib. She used hospice as reasoning for him not to see Doctors. "I can't lose hospice" she would tell me. She used hospice as a means to have him overmedicated to the point where he became delusional and harmful to himself and potentially others. This abuse was particularly true after Bonnie returned from a frightening, unexpected near-death experience in the spring of 2022. Jack fell 7 times in one week, 4 times in one day. On that August day after the 3rd fall I declared "enough" and came to their apartment. My Father fell out of bed again within 2 hours of my arrival.

I followed the ambulance and admitted him to Emory John's Creek Hospital while Bonnie stayed home and slept. She joined me again at the hospital on my 3rd visit the following afternoon.

Jack was in the hospital for nearly 3 weeks when he was transferred to a skilled living facility in Dunwoody. When he entered the hospital he could barely speak audible, coherent sentences and was totally disoriented. His condition continually improved over the months that have followed. Then, Dad collapsed at the nursing home with an anxiety attack on October 7. Bonnie called and left a message for the name of the social worker at the VA so she could place him into another nursing home, but would not tell me what happened or at what hospital he had been admitted. My Father found me 3 days later. Emory St. Joesph performed physical and cognitive tests and determined he need not need to be placed back in LTC at this time. Bonnie bailed on my Father and I was given less than 24 hours to figure out what to do. 

Instead of gratitude, Bonnie played the victim. She had promised to care for my Father just as she had her own for at least the last 20 years. Tracy was to fill any void. After spending 3 years recruiting my husband and I to move to Georgia from California, once Bonnie, Tracy and her son William T. Elliott had the opportunity, they kicked my Father to my curb. It took us a week just to get his clothing, which was left in plastic bags in a parking lot.

We still can't get documents like my Father's last will or their divorce decree, let alone anything related to the purchase or sale of their home. We never got to walk through the home or more importantly their storage. We have been told what we are and are not getting. They won't even return the remote to my Father's television.

We tried to avoid the courts, but Bonnie filed a Temporary Protective Order. She has made 2 failed attempts at getting a gag order. This is a means to keep me from further engagement, to stop me from trying to make my Father whole and bring some reasonable closure. This misuse of the courts comes with no significant consequences to her and cost us over $6000. Her son is an attorney and his long time friend represented her. There is no filing fee for a TPO. I have not seen her since October 21. She is hardly being stalked or in physical danger. She is continuing to have an emotional, financial and physical impact on not only my Father, but my husband and myself. I recently found out I have cardiomyopathy. I am very scared. 

LEGAL EXPENSES ARE ALREADY OVER $6000! My Father is AGAIN FINANCIALLY WIPED OUT and now has another loan from us. We are having trouble financially sustaining my Father being here let alone what should be unnecessary legal expenses. WE NEED YOUR HELP! It is painful to tell my Father he has wait to get a broken tooth fixed or even a haircut because there just isn’t any money. If it weren’t for the

persistent vicious attacks by someone I have loved, supported (financially and otherwise) and had so many fond memories with Bonnie and the rest of what has been my family my entire adult life. I was 20 or 21 when they met. That healing will take time and therapy (in process) to work through. Jack's time and abilities are far more limited. He would have $4000 to $5000 in the bank going into February. Instead, bills are piling (many from before he came here), we are delaying or denying him dental work and other simple items, like clothing, he wants and needs.

Thank you in advance for your support.