At the beginning of June my father, Carl Scott Baker, was diagnosed with end stage liver failure, advanced stage 4 decompensated cirrhosis of the liver, heptic encepholaphy, alcoholic encepholaphy, alcoholic hepatitis and alcoholic dementia. He was deaf and living in Tennessee with no one to take care of him. I became my dad's POA and brought my father to my home in Albuquerque and placed him on hospice at the beginning of July, to take care of him. I was his caregiver for 5 weeks prior to his death. I did everything physically and mentally I possibly could to care for my dad during this time. I put every bit of my heart and soul into his care, to the point that I was neglecting my own health.
During his 5 weeks with me, I have never seen someone suffer so much both physically and emotionally. On Monday 8/14 my dad decided he could not take living like this anymore and ask the doctor and I to stop his treatment. Even though it broke my heart, we honored his wishes. Per my dad's wishes, we placed him on hospice comfort care on Monday 8/14 so he was sedated enough that his body could died painlessly and anxiety free. We performed this in my home as he asked me to let him pass there. He passed peacefully at my house on Wednesday 8/16 @ 6:20pm. During his transition from this world to the next, 3 of his 4 children stayed by his day and night to watch over him, keep him comfortable and to make sure he was not alone.
During the last 2 month our family has spent close to $10,000 caring for my father- doing everything in our power to keep him alive, happy, comfortable, and as healthy as possible. We are now officially broke and still have funeral expenses and loose ends to tie up. We haven't even been able to get his stuff from his home in Tennessee and are even still paying the rent there. Every one has told me if we need anything to let them know.
What we need most right now is money to finalize his affairs and just someone to talk to for support now and again. Anything you can do to help will be going to a good cause and will help relieve my family of the small financial burden we still need to overcome. Every little bit helps. Thank you for your help qnd support!
- Peter Espinosa
- Colbi Cannon
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