Custody battle (Ron died 5/1/17)
Alice, I don't know you, but obviously you don't know Shirley Farmer to say such a horrible thing. Shirley is a beautiful person inside and out and your remark is mean and hurtful and the farthest words ever from the truth. You need to retract that statement or know this karma will prevail.....
its a shame someone who obviously doesnt know Shirley would make such a comment. Every one who knows her, knows she is an honest, charitable,caring, loving woman! i absolutely vouch for her character! And this Man has had a rough patch and so has his daughter, and to harm their cause when they are in need is a very horrible thing to do..
Hi Diane Loika, I will answer all of your questions and reply to all of your statements. First of all, it is very costly to treated for cancer out of the area, plus to be using experimental chemo that your insurance does not cover the costs. Thank GOD for Sloan Kettering Memorial Hospital and their ENTIRE devoted staff.. that helped us be able to afford it to his end. We were not worried about his final expenses at the time.. just worried about keeping him alive long enough to possibly beat this.. and he gave it his all... 19 more months then our local doctors and hospitals gave him :) Now about his final wishes, he did not want a funeral, nor a service nor an obituary in the paper. He had his reasons re the obituary and who are we to go against his wishes and requests in his will. Now re: his possessions... non of that can be handled or sold...when you have a SPECIAL NEEDS CHILD... every thing is to be safeguarded and put into a SMALL trust for this child for her future needs... not for a court hearing or trial or for anyone else to have access too! (Even if it's for her best interest or safety since the child is a minor) Plus the cost of cleaning out the estate would eat up a lot of the profits on any small assets she may be able to salvage and put into a trust. ( as per supreme court these rules are open to the public) Unfortunately, a lot of people don't realize an estate takes time and steps to handle... and unfortunately when it's this small... its not a main concern. Now, as everyone knows, the only parent the child has had in her life in the recent 5 years has been the one with 100 percent custody... her DAD... it's not our business or concern to why another parent chooses to not be part of a child's life or lack of wanting to be involved with their child.. usually it's for the child's best interest. She was placed back with the other party and it took only 23 days for the reasonings WHY Ron had the 100 percent... when cps placed her back with me in a safe house. Now, to straighten out the situation with the one time I couldn't take anymore... it happens to us all.. If we don't admit it.. then we have an issue. I being a tax preparer with well over 500 clients, and It was at the ending stage of tax season, I just got back from our usual trips to the hospital with her dad, staying up to 2:30 am and back up at 7am... 7 days a week.. also taking care of Ron and Danielle.. that she crossed the line ( and I knew I couldn't take anymore.. you can only spread yourself so thin...)..I had to have a rest a respite vacation.. and set my priorities in an order and number one was with him surviving... so he could remain her DADDY... so she went to nice kind, religious, older couple's home, which CPS more than approved, for me to have a breather and direct my attention to getting her dad back to NYC for a life saving possibility. And for me to build up my own health to be able to carry on this extra burden. Until you walk a day in someone elses shoes you would never understand. Running a business out of your home where you have to make 12 months of income in only 12 weeks, taking care of your own family with a disabled husband due to his cancer treatments, and then try to save another party from his cancer and also raise his Special Needs Child as your own.. and their pets, bringing in their wood daily for heat, writing essays for help with his treatments, keeping scheduled appointments for them.. and also remember caring for TWO homes, his as well as ours while he was trying to survive.. it tires you out .... But now we are moving forward... one step at a time.. first priority is her safety and well being with nurturing and love...which is number one in his will...second is finishing with his final wishes in his will to get rid of his belongings. I hope this answered all your questions and statements... and hope you find it in your heart to help keep her safe...Thank you ,
Unbelievable , shame on this lady for not doing her due diligence on the beautiful , kind , giving person that she is Shirley Farmer . I too will vouch for her character . Shirley has helped me and my children before my husband passed of cancer and still yet . Thank you Shirley for all you do . You are one of my Hero's . Much love to you and your family .
WOW.. Allice Henshaw, May the Lord Have Mercy on You and Sue BOTH. We would all praise the Lord if this diagnosis wasn't true.. but unfortunately it is.... We will pray that this doesn't happen to either one of you in the future, but unfortunately it could. I pray that you are given forgiveness from all the kind loving people that know the truth and are willing to help this family in their time of need. Unfortunately I can and will not, at this time, forgive such a rude, inconsiderate lying statement, but may God take Mercy on you two.