Help for Health and Home
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My name is Shondra, I am a 33 year old mother of two amazing kids (age 1 and almost 3) and wife to a hard working wonderful man.
After sitting in the emergency room of the hospital for the fifth time in the last two months, talking to the twentieth or more doctor, learning nothing new.... having yet another grand mal seizure, but this time apparently not breathing for a bunch of it....I have realized that things need to change. Our home life is tipping over in too many ways and I cant fix it myself no matter how hard I want to.
This year has been a year of some of the biggest blessings in my life, including getting married to the most wonderful man and having my beautiful baby girl.
This year has also been a huge struggle for our family. My husband had had to take time off work when I had debilitating postpartum. I had just been beginning to believe things were on the mend for our lives when my post partum started getting better, and to invest in our future my hubby went back to school for a couple months so he would end up returning to work at a higher pay grade. We were one week from him going back to work a couple of months ago, when suddenly I started to get dizzy, blurry and double vision and strange feelings for a few days ...this sent me to the doctors, who then sent me to the ER. I tried not to think much of it until a few days later I lost complete control of my body. My muscles locked in some places, were spasming and flailing in others, I saw strange lights, I tried to talk but only weird sounds came out, my eyes rolled into the back of my head at some points and I went from conscious to not and back again...it was a nightmare that lasted over 6 hours in the hospital, seizure after seizure. For days I looked like a parody of Jim Carrey with my body contorting and twitching, sometimes able to walk and sometimes not. We still dont even know whats causing this, and specialist appointments arent even until August... In the last two months Ive had five or more random seizure attacks like that, most left me out of control of my body and speech, some of the functions of my brain altered. Dave couldnt go back to work because i couldnt even be left alone, let alone left to care for the kids. Our financial strain was already hurting, but with this it getting to be a bit much. Then, we got even worse news. Our house, our home, is literally falling down.
We knew we had repairs needed to the basement, but the damage is more than we bargained for. Cracks in the foundation, huge shifts and damage not covered by our insurance...and now our insurance company is saying they will not insure our home if we dont get it fixed before September
. Our debt load is making it impossible to find the downpayment for the extensive repairs that are needed, and Dave keeps needing to take time off work to help me with my health issues. If we sold the house we not only lose our home but would be in more debt because of how damaged it is, we could go bankrupt, but again lose our home, or i could do what i am doing now and swallow my pride, and ask for help.
We need $15,000 for the 25% downpayment to start repairs (yes thats not the full cost just the downpayment). We need this as SOON AS POSSIBLE so we can have our repairs done before the insurance is cancelled....and with it our mortgage (which btw would lose us our house). We can go into debt for the rest if needed, but $15,000 will just allow us to keep this house! If we gather more, yay less debt, but really i WILL DANCE and even tape the cheesy dance for you all to see if we can get a downpayment! The repairs include digging so the basement is below the frost line (so the ground moving and frost doesnt crack the foundation again), it includes foundation repairs where possible, but mostly the whole foundation needs to be replaced, and the costs also include waterproofing the basement. We arent even trying to finish the basement, just make the house safe and livable and keep it from breaking again. If i can get $1 from 15,000 people, or more $ from fewer people... We can keep our home, and maybe I can focus once again on healing without stressing over where we will live. Asking is hard, im a stubborn fool who didnt even panhandle as a homeless youth... But God and the universe are making this lesson clear to me that i need the help of others, that i can trust in the kindness of strangers (and friends) and i KNOW its worth trying for the sake of my family! My love for them and the value of their future is worth more than any pride or fear of asking.
Thank you all so much for any help you give. Even if you have no money to spare, please spread my story and link to others, who knows who will see this and offer help in a way I never dreamed of. Maybe someone will magically know what the heck is wrong with me and I can be cured and work again ;)
After sitting in the emergency room of the hospital for the fifth time in the last two months, talking to the twentieth or more doctor, learning nothing new.... having yet another grand mal seizure, but this time apparently not breathing for a bunch of it....I have realized that things need to change. Our home life is tipping over in too many ways and I cant fix it myself no matter how hard I want to.
This year has been a year of some of the biggest blessings in my life, including getting married to the most wonderful man and having my beautiful baby girl.
This year has also been a huge struggle for our family. My husband had had to take time off work when I had debilitating postpartum. I had just been beginning to believe things were on the mend for our lives when my post partum started getting better, and to invest in our future my hubby went back to school for a couple months so he would end up returning to work at a higher pay grade. We were one week from him going back to work a couple of months ago, when suddenly I started to get dizzy, blurry and double vision and strange feelings for a few days ...this sent me to the doctors, who then sent me to the ER. I tried not to think much of it until a few days later I lost complete control of my body. My muscles locked in some places, were spasming and flailing in others, I saw strange lights, I tried to talk but only weird sounds came out, my eyes rolled into the back of my head at some points and I went from conscious to not and back again...it was a nightmare that lasted over 6 hours in the hospital, seizure after seizure. For days I looked like a parody of Jim Carrey with my body contorting and twitching, sometimes able to walk and sometimes not. We still dont even know whats causing this, and specialist appointments arent even until August... In the last two months Ive had five or more random seizure attacks like that, most left me out of control of my body and speech, some of the functions of my brain altered. Dave couldnt go back to work because i couldnt even be left alone, let alone left to care for the kids. Our financial strain was already hurting, but with this it getting to be a bit much. Then, we got even worse news. Our house, our home, is literally falling down.
We knew we had repairs needed to the basement, but the damage is more than we bargained for. Cracks in the foundation, huge shifts and damage not covered by our insurance...and now our insurance company is saying they will not insure our home if we dont get it fixed before September
. Our debt load is making it impossible to find the downpayment for the extensive repairs that are needed, and Dave keeps needing to take time off work to help me with my health issues. If we sold the house we not only lose our home but would be in more debt because of how damaged it is, we could go bankrupt, but again lose our home, or i could do what i am doing now and swallow my pride, and ask for help.
We need $15,000 for the 25% downpayment to start repairs (yes thats not the full cost just the downpayment). We need this as SOON AS POSSIBLE so we can have our repairs done before the insurance is cancelled....and with it our mortgage (which btw would lose us our house). We can go into debt for the rest if needed, but $15,000 will just allow us to keep this house! If we gather more, yay less debt, but really i WILL DANCE and even tape the cheesy dance for you all to see if we can get a downpayment! The repairs include digging so the basement is below the frost line (so the ground moving and frost doesnt crack the foundation again), it includes foundation repairs where possible, but mostly the whole foundation needs to be replaced, and the costs also include waterproofing the basement. We arent even trying to finish the basement, just make the house safe and livable and keep it from breaking again. If i can get $1 from 15,000 people, or more $ from fewer people... We can keep our home, and maybe I can focus once again on healing without stressing over where we will live. Asking is hard, im a stubborn fool who didnt even panhandle as a homeless youth... But God and the universe are making this lesson clear to me that i need the help of others, that i can trust in the kindness of strangers (and friends) and i KNOW its worth trying for the sake of my family! My love for them and the value of their future is worth more than any pride or fear of asking.
Thank you all so much for any help you give. Even if you have no money to spare, please spread my story and link to others, who knows who will see this and offer help in a way I never dreamed of. Maybe someone will magically know what the heck is wrong with me and I can be cured and work again ;)
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Shondra Holden
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Hamilton, ON
