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Much like Johnny Depp, my abusive ex-girlfriend has involved me in a targeted public campaign of abuse and slander. And, much like Johnny Depp, the reality is not what the abuser publicly claims. Unlike Johnny Depp, however, I am a disabled man of modest means and getting proper legal protections from the continued attacks of an abuser isn't cheap.
Abusers are able to make accusations without consequence, while their victims are expected to suffer in silence, particularly victims of narcissistic abuse. Our culture tends to give women the benefit of the doubt, and in the majority of cases this is a good very good thing. However, this time a narcissistic abuser snuck her way into the role of "victim" when she has no right being there. And, she is using this social status to continue to attempt to exert the control she enjoyed over me, two years after the formal dissolution of our relationship.
Over the past 10 months, I have been stalked, harassed, threatened, and in constant fear for my safety. I have had my friends tell me about the verbal attacks they have endured on her behalf, simply because they see through her lies and continue to support me. Finally, my ex managed to get a national nonprofit to investigate me based on her smear campaign. I shouldn't be harassed by a nonprofit I am not affiliated with, and am not a member of, because of the lies of an abuser. To be clear, this is in no way an investigation that is, somehow, of a judiciary nature. The consequence of a ruling against me by this nonprofit is removal from participation with the nonprofit, that I am, again, not affiliated with or a member of.
Well, no more. With the money raised in this fundraiser I will retain legal council and, hopefully find some peace through legal action regarding a relationship that ended over 2 years ago. This money is needed as soon a possible, as the statute of limitations for for some of this is a year, and this all began in November 2019, although the situation has continued over the last 10 months, with the latest police report being filed on September 18, 2020, so the November date may be largely arbitrary. Also, the sooner I can retain a lawyer, the sooner I will be safer from the people that have been looking to find and hurt me over the past year. I plan to use the money I get from this to retain a lawyer, as well as peruse other legal avenues that have been too expensive for me so far, in the hopes that I will finally have some peace. And, it will, hopefully, help ensure that if (when) these violent people looking for me on her behalf find me, they end up in jail, where they belong, even if I am forced to try to defend myself.
Beyond this fundraiser, I am already talking to the District Attorney about why the November 2019 harassment and the February 2020 stalking police reports against my ex and her agents were never investigated, and in particular, why even though things continue to escalate over the past year. I have filed multiple police reports and have a domestic violence restraining order against her pending, yet in the mean time, her abuse and harassment continues without recourse. I have been told to "carry a weapon" by police to defend myself. It is amazing how a cop would tell me, a disabled man, to be ready to defend myself, with a weapon, from violent individuals who are trying to find and hurt me, based on a different crime committed by my abuser, that they continue to neglect to pursue.
By donating, you will be helping to ensure that even though I am disabled and unable to participate in the capitalist system "normally", that I still can afford legal protections inside that system. Obviously, this knowledge would be very beneficial to my mental health and continued recovery from this abusive situation that I, physically, escaped over 2 years ago. Being able to move forward with my life, without the daily stress of these constant attacks would be a welcome change in my life. Knowing that people are no longer trying to find me, to hurt me, because I was able to "prove my side of the story" in court would be another welcome change to my current situation. Knowing that even if they do find me, that they will end up in jail where they belong would also be a very welcome change. Knowing that I have a court case (or two) that I won against her would be a great help in dissuading these violent people from using her slander as justification to hunt me down, and it would help with this investigation she has wrought against me by this nonprofit by showing that the judicial system is on my side. And finally, I am hopeful that, in seeing me stand up to my abuser, the community she has poised against me with her smear campaign will begin to think better than to try their abuse, violence, and stalking with new victims. Knowing a victim will stand up to their abuser in a community can be a powerful tool to discourage more abuse and domestic violence.
Thank you for your time.
Abusers are able to make accusations without consequence, while their victims are expected to suffer in silence, particularly victims of narcissistic abuse. Our culture tends to give women the benefit of the doubt, and in the majority of cases this is a good very good thing. However, this time a narcissistic abuser snuck her way into the role of "victim" when she has no right being there. And, she is using this social status to continue to attempt to exert the control she enjoyed over me, two years after the formal dissolution of our relationship.
Over the past 10 months, I have been stalked, harassed, threatened, and in constant fear for my safety. I have had my friends tell me about the verbal attacks they have endured on her behalf, simply because they see through her lies and continue to support me. Finally, my ex managed to get a national nonprofit to investigate me based on her smear campaign. I shouldn't be harassed by a nonprofit I am not affiliated with, and am not a member of, because of the lies of an abuser. To be clear, this is in no way an investigation that is, somehow, of a judiciary nature. The consequence of a ruling against me by this nonprofit is removal from participation with the nonprofit, that I am, again, not affiliated with or a member of.
Well, no more. With the money raised in this fundraiser I will retain legal council and, hopefully find some peace through legal action regarding a relationship that ended over 2 years ago. This money is needed as soon a possible, as the statute of limitations for for some of this is a year, and this all began in November 2019, although the situation has continued over the last 10 months, with the latest police report being filed on September 18, 2020, so the November date may be largely arbitrary. Also, the sooner I can retain a lawyer, the sooner I will be safer from the people that have been looking to find and hurt me over the past year. I plan to use the money I get from this to retain a lawyer, as well as peruse other legal avenues that have been too expensive for me so far, in the hopes that I will finally have some peace. And, it will, hopefully, help ensure that if (when) these violent people looking for me on her behalf find me, they end up in jail, where they belong, even if I am forced to try to defend myself.
Beyond this fundraiser, I am already talking to the District Attorney about why the November 2019 harassment and the February 2020 stalking police reports against my ex and her agents were never investigated, and in particular, why even though things continue to escalate over the past year. I have filed multiple police reports and have a domestic violence restraining order against her pending, yet in the mean time, her abuse and harassment continues without recourse. I have been told to "carry a weapon" by police to defend myself. It is amazing how a cop would tell me, a disabled man, to be ready to defend myself, with a weapon, from violent individuals who are trying to find and hurt me, based on a different crime committed by my abuser, that they continue to neglect to pursue.
By donating, you will be helping to ensure that even though I am disabled and unable to participate in the capitalist system "normally", that I still can afford legal protections inside that system. Obviously, this knowledge would be very beneficial to my mental health and continued recovery from this abusive situation that I, physically, escaped over 2 years ago. Being able to move forward with my life, without the daily stress of these constant attacks would be a welcome change in my life. Knowing that people are no longer trying to find me, to hurt me, because I was able to "prove my side of the story" in court would be another welcome change to my current situation. Knowing that even if they do find me, that they will end up in jail where they belong would also be a very welcome change. Knowing that I have a court case (or two) that I won against her would be a great help in dissuading these violent people from using her slander as justification to hunt me down, and it would help with this investigation she has wrought against me by this nonprofit by showing that the judicial system is on my side. And finally, I am hopeful that, in seeing me stand up to my abuser, the community she has poised against me with her smear campaign will begin to think better than to try their abuse, violence, and stalking with new victims. Knowing a victim will stand up to their abuser in a community can be a powerful tool to discourage more abuse and domestic violence.
Thank you for your time.
Organiser
Alex Bush
Organiser
San Diego, CA
