Hi family and friends! I know I really don’t open up a lot, but this situation is going to be a very long journey and I’m really struggling in handling it, so I need some help . As most of you know, my mom’s health hasn’t been in the greatest state for the past 20+years, but she’s been really, really sick the past couple years which causes her to be hospitalized about twice a month, for weeks at a time. It’s just all been really gone downhill so fast.
I truly don’t know how she’s made it through all the things life has thrown at her, and I feel so helpless to watch her when it’s this bad and her wanting all the pain to just go away. Since she’s been so sick she’s had to quit a job she really enjoyed, about a year-and-a-half ago, and she hasn’t had the same love of doing everyday things since. She is having a really big surgery sometime in November to remove her colon, which I’m hopeful will help her get some enjoyment back into her life since she won’t be in constant pain. She’s so sad that she hasn’t been able to make many memories in activities as my siblings and I, and now, my niece’s, have grown up, and her not having to worry about that anymore is all I’ve ever dreamt off.
Since my mom’s job loss she’s only been getting a very small disability check every month, but it’s no where near what she needs to live at the moment and after her surgery, when she’s going to endure an extensive recovery. I would be so grateful in any support you all could give!
The biggest burden on her is getting her house ready to sell before her surgery. She’s had so much help from some of the most loving and generous people in our worlds, but in order for the house to get fully ready we need more help. She feels so helpless when she gets anyone’s help because she can’t do anything strenuous to help out, but it really breaks my heart when I see her break down because of it.
I’ve recently moved out of town and feel such guilt every day for leaving her, but have come back every weekend since to see her. Things with my sister have also escalated and she was actually a help to my mom for a time, but now dealing with her my mom is so pained to see my sister bring so much pain on our family. I would love it if anyone could pop by for a visit or take her for a little walk - she really needs to build up some major strength before her surgery - and I think it would really boost her moral. She really needs all your love and support because she needs that to fight through this 12-hour surgery, that I’m determined will make her life a lot more peaceful.
She deserves all of this for hanging on for so long and showing us the true meaning of being a fighter ❤️
Thank you for any and all support and I want you to all know I’m writing this as I wait for her to pick ME up from the hospital for a change! After so many years of going through this we’ve had to find humour in all the sadness and struggle
Jess
