I lost my father, James Moix, on April 11th of this year. He was the best man I knew, and with the help of my mother, taught me and my sister everything we know today. We wouldn't be who we are today if it weren't for his guiding hand and our endless quest to always make him happy and proud. He was a kind and honest man. He was smart, incredibly funny, and immensely talented. He was my best friend and the hole that's left in my heart will never be filled again.
My father was also a very private man. He didn't let a lot of people know what was going on in his life, because he wanted to be who he was for himself. He didn't expect hand-outs and he was very prideful. He never asked for anything if he couldn't repay it in full. He was 52 years of age when he passed. Just a day after his birthday. He had been dealing with metastatic hepatocellular carcinoma for the last seven and a half months of his life. Even in his weakened state, he never asked for help or wanted to be a "burden" to others. He was the definition of "respectful." He didn't want people to feel sorry for him or to pity him. He just wanted to get healthy again and go back to being normal. He wanted to get back to seeing movies with me and creating art with my sister. However that didn't happen. The cancer had also spread to his kidney and the repeated uses of chemo and medications didn't help as he eventually lost his fight with the disease that also took his father and my maternal grandfather.
My father would have been very surprised by the turnout at the funeral. There were more people there than he would probably have wanted. But that just goes to show how many people were affected by his presence and how many people loved him throughout his lifetime and were thankful to have known him. If you know me, my sister, or his mother, you understand just how lucky we were to have spent time with him, and how being so close to him made our lives for the better and made us good people.
I'm starting this GoFundMe campaign because he had no plan for his death - which means there was no life insurance, no money hidden away in case of emergency - nothing to help us cover the funeral expenses among other costs that have now arisen.
My sister and I have been out of work for nearly a month as we pack up his and my belongings to prepare for a move to live with my mother. For more than seven months, my father had no source of income, except for drawing some social security, and that left me and his mother paying the bills for the house and everything else while he was sick. I already had my own bills to worry about with my car payments and credit card payments on top of still paying my half of the rent on our house. After he got sick, things got even tighter around here and we were thankful that his mother could help with her money. But at this point, she exhausted her entire savings account into making things work for the three of us and I am not being paid currently.
It hurts my pride to ask for help, and my father wouldn't have been the type to ask for it either, but we are in dire straits to make ends meet, so we can pay our bills for the month, cover the funeral costs, and pay for the move up to my mom's.
I'm asking for $10,000, fully aware that we might not make any of that or that we might, miraculously, make more than that. The remaining funeral expenses are nearly $9,000 itself. The bills (car insurance, phone bill, utilities, ConwayCorp, etc) are surely $1,000, if not more. Then we have to worry about moving on top of that and the expenses that come with that. Suffice it to say that it would take nearly a year of me saving every single penny from my job for us to be able to pay for everything that is at our feet right now, and that's just not something that's possible.
I realize there's always a skepticism when it comes to campaigns like this, but if you know me or my family than you know that we aren't those types of people. And if you are a complete stranger, thank you for being so generous. We appreciate every single dollar that comes in as it'll help us immensely in getting through this very, very rough time in our lives. I'll be in charge of everything and I will see fit that the money raised goes directly into covering the aforementioned expenses and not towards anything else. And if you can't help, I thank you for the time of your day in reading this and thinking about his family and friends. As I'm certain that I won't be able to pay everyone back for their contributions, we are very grateful and forever indebted to the help you will provide this family.
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