Be there for Adriane’s sons

On October 6th we lost our Beloved Adriane Powell Chisolm at the very young age of 55.

She was our sister, a wife, mother, daughter,
niece, cousin, an aunt and friend, and we all
who loved her so dearly.

Adriane was born prematurely and she was
not supposed to make it but she was always
such a fighter from the day she was born.  She had “scholiosis” a curvature of the spine and
she was a remarkable woman and a loving
wife and mother  who lived a normal life just
the way our mother wanted her too. She was
so beautiful and very smart too.  She met and married the love of her life Anthony and
together they had two handsome sons,
Darreyn and Wesley. 

Before passing Adriane had been in the
hospital in the ICU since September having
had a stroke and also coming down with
pneumonia, which took my dear sisters life. I
am so devastated to have lost my little sis.  
With COVID 19 we could not even visit her
for quite some time.  We have been on an
emotional roller coaster with her in the ICU
on life support with her body failing and then miraculously reviving and then failing again.

As hurt as I am over the loss of Adriane and as terribly hard as it is to see how hurt my
brother-in-law is, I am most saddened for her
sons, my nephews Darreyn 25 and Wesley
who just turned 22 on October 16th. They are just so young to lose their mother! I see them
trying to be strong and taking care of things
and not even asking for any help. I am so
proud of them for how they have already done so much to honor their mother.  I wish I could do more for them but I am so far away, with
them in Nevada and me in California. I also do not have the financial means to take care of all the needs that they are being faced with at his
extremely difficult time.  I so wish that I did.

Wesley had unfortunately lost his job some
months ago, so he was available and had
stepped up to the plate and had already been doing so much to help both parents and
handle their affairs as instructed by his father since he and Adriane were not able. You see,
their father, Adrianes’ husband Anthony was
also in the hospital at the same time she was. He has been battling complications of
diabetes with kidney problems, and
excruciating leg pain which makes him unable to walk. He was checked into the hospital
about a week or so after Adriane and had
been there ever since, so almost 2 months
until he was transferred to a rehabilitation
facility just yesterday.  

Because Anthony was in the hospital at the
same time as Adriane, he was allowed to visit her a couple of times.  During one of his visits
he called us on the phone and let us speak to
her.  She couldn’t speak back but she would
blink her eyes for yes or no to any question
and she even shed a tear of joy upon hearing
our nieces voice.  Again, I am also very hurt for
Anthony as he has just been advised  that if he leaves the rehabilitation facility to attend
Adrianes Memorial Service on Saturday he
will not be allowed to return due to COVID.
I did my best to comfort him knowing that this is killing him.  Anthony is was so proud of his sons, as we all are too, and I know that he
draws some comfort knowing that his boys will be there to celebrate Adriane’s life with us
all, though he cannot.  I know that Adriane
would also be so proud of them.

I was so proud of Darreyn for how through all his pain he stepped up to the plate and just
started handling things after loosing his
mother. He did not hesitate and just went
down and paid for Adriane’s final expenses. 
Finally, I asked him where he got the money
and he told me that it came from money that
he and his wife were saving to buy a car since
their car is not running well. Again, Darreyn is a very young man and this really touches my
heart. I would really like to see Darreyn
receive this money back.  He and his wife are
expecting their first child in January and he
will need a good working car to get around so he can take care of his family.

These guys have gone through so much at the worst time of their lives. The day that the
hospital had allowed visitors while Adriane
was still living we were there by the Grace of God and my son and I got to see Adriane with Wesley.  After seeing her Wesley just broke
down.  You see even though we had been
receiving good reports even just days prior to this we all could see that something was not
right. It was just devastating and
heartbreaking for us all to see my sister in this condition. So after that I had invited Wesley to come to California to visit us for his birthday,
so we could celebrate him, feeling that it
would be good for him to get away for a
couple of days for his birthday. Darreyn
decided that he should bring Wesley. So he
got an approval from his manager, rented a car and they came to California for a couple of
days.  I was so crushed to find out that when
they got back home Darreyn returned to work and he was fired on the spot. I know this
sounds unbelievable, it just made my jaw drop and I just can’t take anymore of them going
through all of this.  Darreyn was not given a
clear reason for this action, he is not
understanding how there was a problem when he had the okay to take this time off.

I almost know how Darreyn feels because
when my mother passed away I received very bad treatment my from my employer of many
years and my job was threatened.  Because
you see, employers with only a few employeescan treat you how ever they want to and do
whatever they want to you at a time like this! I can’t tell you how much it hurt but I was able
to get through it and stayed with this
employer as much as I wanted to leave, but I
stayed  because I was a single mom with a son who needed me to stay strong for both us.  I
can’t even imagine actually being fired at that
time and how devastatingly painful that would be.

I am reaching out to those of you who knew
and loved Adriane. Even if you did not
know her, I know that if you had you 
would have loved her too.  So I am reaching
out to you too.  Adriane touched the
lives of everyone who knew her, always 
volunteering and helping others in need in so
many ways.  She was naturally an amazing
cook and had also obtained her Food Service
and Management Degree in order to further
her education and also improve her cooking
skills. She would cook meals for the kids at the
Boys and Girls Club and they got to enjoy her good cooking. 

Anyone who is a mother knows that your
biggest fear is that your kids will not have
someone to look after them and love them when you are gone.  As they say, once a
mother always a mother.  This love does not
stop at a certain age of your child.  If we are
still here on this earth we always look out for
our children and we want to make sure that
they are okay.  Well, right now these guys kind of need others to step in.  Every little bit helps and no donation is too small.  So your support
whether big or small will be greatly
appreciated.

Darreyn and Wesley are amazing young men who have been hit with things to deal with
that even those of us who are much older
would have a tough time dealing with.  I
just don’t want them to lose their way or fall
into a trap that so many young men
like them do just because they don’t have
resources or the means to handle business as
they should. They need to have the money to
keep up on their insurance and registration so if they get pulled over by the police they have what they need, Darreyn  needs to purchase a new vehicle, he will need some things for the baby when the baby comes. I know this is
something his mom would have done if she
were still here. It would be great to reimburse
Darreyn for Adriane’s final expenses that he
has paid for, Darreyn and his wife Daphne
want to move into a larger apartment to make room for Wesley, and who knows maybe they can get an even bigger place and at some point
move their father in once he is released
from rehab.  They have told him that they
want to take care of him.  However he has
been considering leaving the state to go and
live with his sister who can help care for him
once he is released.  They both are actually
very devastated over this too.  Yet another
thing they are going through. It is just too
much.

I know that Darreyn and Wesley will not take
your love and kindness for granted.  They havealready shown me that they are responsible
and ready to get things in order.  I know
that they will be so uplifted knowing that
others care so much. I have no doubt that they will be responsible very responsible with
with all resources. Please help if you can and
let your family and friends know.

The Memorial for Adriane Chisolm Powell will take place this Saturday November 07, 2020.

We thank you in advance for your help and for being such a blessing to my nephews. We are
so grateful and God Bless You.