A Second Adoption

Timing is everything sometimes.  And the Scriptures themselves teach us that there is a time for everything.

On November 28, 2008 a boy was born in China and immediately faced the prospect of growing up as an orphan. Around seven weeks later, on January 20, 2009, another boy was born in the neighboring country of Kyrgyzstan and was likewise, through no fault of his own, sentenced to grow up as an orphan.

But Timing brought the 7 year old Kyrgyz boy into my life in the summer of 2016, and Timing brought the 8 year old Chinese boy into the loving arms of the Chapin family in the summer of 2017.

Timing then brought me and the Chapins together in the same small group at Gateway Community Church this past fall.

Next Timing changed my plans to stay in a cramped living situation for another year into a vision to move into a larger space.

And with that larger space, Timing also stirred within me the desire to adopt again. But Timing also brought the Chapins to the heart-wrenching decision of needing to find their new son a different home - a home that could give him a better chance to attach and thrive.

And it was ultimately Timing that connected the dots. I announced I was trying to adopt a child from an adoption agency that specializes in helping adoptive families facing the sad but sometimes true reality of a child who, for one reason or another, will most benefit from the care of a different family. The Chapins had already privately decided to use this same agency to find a home where their son could be taken further on his healing journey. But Timing had not seen any of us complete any paperwork yet.

So on Sunday, December 3rd our worlds converged when I decided to step out in faith and ask the Chapins if they had considered my home as a possible fit for their son. They had. And after taking the counsel of social workers, counselors, and a beloved pastor, a plan was formed to try to see if my son and their son had any hope of building a relationship with each other. From their very first meeting together under my roof, the answer was a resounding, “Yes!”

Now by sovereign providence two nations have come together under one roof to start becoming brothers. Two nations that are so far from here, and yet not so far from each other. And if ever there are two kids who can grow up to understand and support each other better than anyone else on this planet, it’s these two. Two kids who have already faced hard lives and difficult trauma in their short 9 years, and two kids who have unmatched potential and brightly shining lights despite their past circumstances.

So with all the doors opened, we are moving forward with the steps for me to adopt William as my son and Bektur’s brother. But each family has faced its own respective financial hardships in recent months, and while in the process of saving money, neither family was ready for this process to happen so soon. In addition, I face an upcoming, unexpected move (a long story due to some school issues, but thankfully just moving a couple of miles up the road), and William also faces some pending medical needs. It would be a tremendous blessing to have help with the adoption costs so that I can focus on supporting my two sons. And so with the Chapins’ permission I am presenting this GoFundMe to ask for your consideration in supporting my adoption of William. This is a private adoption from family to family and only requires one lawyer and a little bit of time. It is significantly cheaper than other routes we could have taken, and ultimately all parties involved believe that, while sad and traumatic that it has to be this way, God has uniquely equipped me for such a time as this to meet William where he’s at, connect with him, and guide him into his God-given identity.

The requested GoFundMe amount represents an approximate total for all legal costs associated with the adoption. Any funds given in excess of this amount will be applied towards William's medical needs.

Thank you for your consideration.

*** If you are wanting to support this but don't want a percentage of your money to go to GoFundMe, then please contact me through Facebook or by e-mail ( bryn [dot] j [dot] [email redacted]).