When you watch a good friend struggle and seek help through Social Services only to fall between the cracks? You send a plea out on Social Media
As I watch helplessly, my friend Lynn is going to be homeless any day now.
We are hoping to raise at the very least $9,000 to get her out of the shelters, or her car and into public housing. The waiting list is long, so any money raised will help her with food and basic living expenses as she learns the ropes of ‘homeless’
Lynn CAN do this. This is going to be a terrifying chapter of her life but with help she can begin again!
Please help if you can. Even the smallest donation will go a long way for my friend. She is in a very scary situation and I know she is strong enough to get thru it. And resourceful enough to find a way to a safer living situation alone.
Lynn is smart, educated, artistic, an author and runs her own online jewelry shop. She is married to a man she fell deeply in love with ten years ago and together they live New Orleans. She had a wonderful life. Until suddenly she didn't.
Here is her story:
After her first year of marriage, Lynn was struck with an undiagnosable autoimmune system illness that causes her to have unrelenting, excruciating pain throughout her entire musculoskeletal system. For their entire second year of their marriage, this illness shackled her to her bed, medications, and constant visits to hospitals, doctor after doctor. Because of this illness, their livelihood was left to entirely to her husband.
How did it get to this point? She believed, like many in this situation, that each of her attempts to clear their debt would work, and it would have, if not for her husband’s actions.
Lynn will work any job she can get, but her disabilities have made it difficult to secure a full time job. Lynn is resourceful and has spent endless hours the past year trying all manner of ways to find aid, assistance, and to support herself and her husband all the while losing it all time and time again by his alcoholic disasters. She believes that once a clear path, separated of her husband’s financial wrecking ball activities, she will be able to build her life again.
Her husband is a good man. His constant stress and worry took its toll on him. As much as he tried, his sobriety slipped and his alcoholism returned full force. Lynn has always stood by him through the dry and the wet spells. She understands that like her, he has a disease and as husband and wife they were meant to help each other. But now, his sober moments grew further and further apart until later she learned he had completely come undone. Her husband was once a very strong, intelligent, and hard working man.
As the alcoholism set in and unbeknownst to Lynn, her husband stopped paying the bills entirely. Like dominoes, the beginning of their devastating financial life began falling rapidly.
Her husband knew that stress exacerbated Lynn's pain and therefore decided to keep her entirely in the dark about the increasing financial difficulties. He was able to secured a five figure loan using their home as collateral without her knowledge. For several more years, he kept secret from her the numerous and substantial loans he received from his friends and family without repayment.
He changed employment twice with highly respected companies that sought him out. Although the base was lower than the former job, both bosses believed he would earn far more by merely working for those companies. His drinking became far worse and his depression deepened. The commissions he was earning were coming fewer and farther between. Recently, he received his last commission check in January and the meager salary cannot even cover their monthly expenses.
About five years ago, Lynn was finally receiving physical therapy and was no longer taking such high doses of pain medication, Lynn "woke up" into a devastating nightmare, one she and her husband have not been able to escape. Lynn applied for Disability and Social Security benefits and was denied both. Without taking into account the debt they were drowning in, these governmental resources only looked at her husband's reporting of a very high income on his tax returns. She was specifically denied Social Security because there were long periods of time when she worked freelance jobs and therefore her "points" did not reflect the time put into regular nine-to-five jobs. Clearly this couple was drowning. But they were like square pegs trying to fit into the round slots of governmental support.