Domestic Violence
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This is established for domestic violence legal defense to obtain immediate legal representation for domestic violence that I have hidden and covered up since 2017; to include my disabled adult son that has been subjected to severe undercover, controlling, physical, verbal, emotional, psychological and financial abuse.
My name is Monica Denise “Neecy” Earl Washington, and today I have made a final heart wrenching decision after going into deep and emotional crying and meditation to establish this go-fund me page and post my story openly; while being transparent in my life after the many stories I have read of domestic violence and the tragic outcome of domestic abuse as it sad to admit it is me requesting legal help for legal representation for myself and my disabled son who is 26 years old physically and 17 years old mentally with strong documented documentation of the diagnosis of ADHD, Bi-Polor, developmental delays with emotional disabilities.
As of February 4, 2020, I have taken my last degrading verbal and physical fist abuse upside my head and anywhere else upon my body that I can no longer hide or protect abuse as I am severely mentally, emotionally, physically and all completely worn down and torn apart.
I have covered up to not only keep the peace, but to avoid so many things of the abuse I have endured while protecting the abuser that has greatly broken me and my disabled son into shattered vulnerable pieces that has weaken me and my disabled son as newborn helpless babies, to keep a roof over my head to have the basic normal requirements of living while in silence of hidden abuse and very limited resources available to unto me.
I have no family in the (DMV), DC, Maryland, and Virginia area of this world as I am from the Kentucky/Tennessee area of the world and I have been directed under abuse to get out of my residence in the freezing temperatures with no where to go, and I truly cannot leave, with the abilities of securing myself and my disabled son; which currently has two state of Maryland case workers working hard with him on a weekly basis on a wait list to get the required housing and other services that he needs to function according to his disabilities at hand, which takes time.
My son and I have been degraded with awful word while our personal space being invaded , spit on while verbally being abused with strong profanity and degrading insults of calling my son a “faggot, retarded, a “D—-Ser” and much more while gaslighting and inviting/provoking us both to fight, greatly pushing us into violence, while ducking punches and trying to calmly get away from the verbal insults and sudden attacks.
I have been degraded with words of being called“ugly, why I wear this or that, I look like a man, I am useless to life, I have been compared to women who make six figures and why I cannot make this type of money, I should quit my job and go get this job to make this type of money” and so much more. Belaboring any errors with long monologues that states I am beneath the abuser, states that others he talk to thinks I am beneath him or crazy, blames me if any thing goes wrong and a lot I have no knowledge of or about.
Often, gifting me without knowledge or asking with material or money and later demanding that I owe back or states look at all I have done for you that leads to unpredictable anger, destroying my vital items, and actively turns people against me that I don’t know or even met that the abuser may only know.
Once my son and I ignore the verbal abuse, that is not good enough, as we will get hit on or have objects thrown at us without warning to provoke us that leads often to us being awaken out of our sleep, that leads to staged recordings while trying to protect ourselves.
As the police are called my son and I are often asked where are our recordings which we don’t have time to record when manipulated into attacks that we are not aware of as we have tried desperately to avoid the physical and aggressive attacks that have been gaslighted after hours of the abuser taunting and provoking us, through the set staging scenes to record my disabled son with emotional disabilities after severe taunting and provoking;
to include leaving to deescalate the unknown angry abuser down for hours at a time, as the abuser will sit on the anger and pick up and continue the same day or the next day or sit on the anger up until two to three weeks and restart without knowledge of why the abuser is angry until a door slams hard, or the sound of the abuser fist hitting something or hitting me and my son.
I am establishing this fund to get legal representation for an established court date at the end of the month to remain separated from the abuse, to remain in the home with all financial needs met as I am on the lower end of the income and never imagine or planned to be in this place in my life, with no ability to obtain funds that require notarized signatures of of both parties, leaving me financially distressed and very limited resources that has handicapped me.
Me and my disabled son have been subjected to where we came to the house of our residence and the main water valve was turned off, the main electric power switch was turned off and the breaker from the box was removed from the box, and a large dump was left in the toilet to fumigate the residence with a strong stitch of human bodily waste odor left in the toilet.
I got help to turn the water valve back on and was able to get the main utilities switch back on, but I was extremely at a lost with the breaker out the breaker box as with no breaker in the box to work the condenser unit, there will be no heat or air to flow and I had to learned at the last moment the importance of the breaker box and what it really does, and now I know!
I have asked for the courts protection and received the courts protections as I am asking to be in the residence until strong agreements and stipulations have been met for all involved can reach a final decision peacefully for safety as this is domestic violence and through the courts is the road I had to travel in a very sudden metamorphosis that seems to unreal to me at my 54th year of my life.
Now let me be clear, I did not make the down payment of the home purchased upon purchasing the home while married, no I have not made one mortgage payment and it is often thrown up in my face, as I am told how useless I am, yet and still I should not be hit on, degraded with such horrible verbal abuse when all was established before moving into marriage and before I left what was affordable for me and my disabled son and no matter that I make major contributions into the residence that has been thrown into my face as welfare contributions of what I do contribute.
There are no hidden agendas with me, I was living in nice rented condo in an upscale area and never had to worry about lights or water being turned off or evictions and I am deeply sadden to know I am here with someone I truly trusted and gave into love, now broken, distraught and frighten to death, with many sleepless nights.
I have placed all I have in this residence purchased and this is all I know, all the little monies I have has been invested in what I called my place of residence with no family near and it s difficult because I have an adult disabled son and I cannot just leave my disabled son alone or cast him to the streets with no where to go, as we wait on the state of Maryland involved and has been involved, but there is a process that we are following to include the emergency process that is a process, not to mention the entire transition of relocating from one state to another having to start all required disabilities once established that took a tremendous amount of time to restart. Frustrating!
Because my son has a disability of no fault of his,I have been told Under the abuse that my son is a retard because I have been called by the abuser that I am mentally challenged, stupid, and incompetent and retardation runs in me that has led to my son being retard.
Many that may read this and many know that my son was born through inappropriate medical conditions, where my son was born in my 32nd week of pregnancy and I was at work when my water broke at Baptist Hospital in Jacksonville, Florida, and it later discovered it was not my water that broke by the medical staff 3 days later, after being sent home with medical documentation as I went to use the bathroom and the placenta fell out, that led to my son being in my womb for 3 days without oxygen that led to any early birth, spitting out blood that was a grade 3 intervene hemorrhage of the brain, 100% oxygen and remaining on oxygen in the intensive care unit for nearly 3 months hooked to a breathing machine and died 3 times, before finally surviving.
This is greatly documented and lets be clear, any child born through any drugs or alcohol will be taken by the state, as my abuser has stated that this is the reason why my disabled son is retarded and that he is a disappointment of being born and an a great embarrassment.
Because my my faith and belief values and I raised and come from love from some of my family, the emotional and psychological abuse has stated things unto me that “I am of worthlessness, the degrading name calling, attacking my character and laughing at me and creating public embarrassment until I stopped going places under abuse, while yelling and belittling any accomplishments big or small I have made;
unilateral decision making after a decision financially has been made, that leaves me financially distressed on purpose, any attempts to break me down or to destroy me, while purposely making things difficult for me.
I have had past mistakes thrown in my face from a time I got arrested in January 1, of 2001, and the charge was “terroristic threat;” it is just that, for defending my disabled son from a man that attempted to lure my disabled son who was a small elementary child into God’s know what.
My intent was to attempt to have a conversation with the deranged man, which did not go good, which led to me being the aggressor for protecting my disabled son and arrested for 4 long days; as I later learned that the man was an unregistered sex offender, yet twisted in my face characterizing me as a violent individuals knowing the truth, yet denouncing me in a demeaning manner.
I don’t know any other way but to be transparent, in a situation that is deeply serious as the stats are real of the deaths due to domestic violence being real.
I am in a place all alone, with no solid support and due to the situation of my situation of being employed, a disabled son and many other issues that have me truly handicapped, I am very vulnerable at this current time which led to me establishing this go fund me page to get legal representation.
Let me be strongly clear again this is not to hurt or harm anyone, this is my real story of what is going on that I am desperately trying to reach out for help to stop, as I am seeking peace humbly.
I do not seek pity or sympathy as this is me putting my story out truthfully to the best of ability to get help as other may have pride that get in the way, or shame or choose to remain quiet while the fact remains domestic violence is hidden due to many being embarrassed or silence due to be frighten and later you learn of tragic news.
Lastly, I am very vulnerable due to a fall I had on January 13, 2020, on my job that I assumed was nothing, which later to find out through X-rays, I have a knee fracture that has kept me down from work and in a knee brace with excruciating pain as well as frighten of losing my independence and now to be going through the unspeakable of what I never thought would happen to me February 4, 2020.
Therefore, due to the situation of my son that walked into me being physically abused, I am establishing this page to:
1. Attain strong legal representation for myself and my disabled son.
2. To ensure we are represented legally in a professional manner from a reputable attorney that has experience in domestic violence.
Through the prayers I have submitted with the support of my ministry, I am in deep prayer for this entire sadden situation and through the toughest of a road that has handicapped me in my latter years has me broken in so many ways that has me extremely heartbroken at this point in my life as this is one of the hardest things I have ever had to do was be this transparent in such a way.
Any donations small or big to help me reach my goal will be deeply and greatly appreciated and thank you so very much.
I have to finalize this by February 20, 2020.
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/domestic-violence-statistics_n_5959776
https://wtop.com/maryland/2019/02/46-victims-of-domestic-violence-are-remembered/
My name is Monica Denise “Neecy” Earl Washington, and today I have made a final heart wrenching decision after going into deep and emotional crying and meditation to establish this go-fund me page and post my story openly; while being transparent in my life after the many stories I have read of domestic violence and the tragic outcome of domestic abuse as it sad to admit it is me requesting legal help for legal representation for myself and my disabled son who is 26 years old physically and 17 years old mentally with strong documented documentation of the diagnosis of ADHD, Bi-Polor, developmental delays with emotional disabilities.
As of February 4, 2020, I have taken my last degrading verbal and physical fist abuse upside my head and anywhere else upon my body that I can no longer hide or protect abuse as I am severely mentally, emotionally, physically and all completely worn down and torn apart.
I have covered up to not only keep the peace, but to avoid so many things of the abuse I have endured while protecting the abuser that has greatly broken me and my disabled son into shattered vulnerable pieces that has weaken me and my disabled son as newborn helpless babies, to keep a roof over my head to have the basic normal requirements of living while in silence of hidden abuse and very limited resources available to unto me.
I have no family in the (DMV), DC, Maryland, and Virginia area of this world as I am from the Kentucky/Tennessee area of the world and I have been directed under abuse to get out of my residence in the freezing temperatures with no where to go, and I truly cannot leave, with the abilities of securing myself and my disabled son; which currently has two state of Maryland case workers working hard with him on a weekly basis on a wait list to get the required housing and other services that he needs to function according to his disabilities at hand, which takes time.
My son and I have been degraded with awful word while our personal space being invaded , spit on while verbally being abused with strong profanity and degrading insults of calling my son a “faggot, retarded, a “D—-Ser” and much more while gaslighting and inviting/provoking us both to fight, greatly pushing us into violence, while ducking punches and trying to calmly get away from the verbal insults and sudden attacks.
I have been degraded with words of being called“ugly, why I wear this or that, I look like a man, I am useless to life, I have been compared to women who make six figures and why I cannot make this type of money, I should quit my job and go get this job to make this type of money” and so much more. Belaboring any errors with long monologues that states I am beneath the abuser, states that others he talk to thinks I am beneath him or crazy, blames me if any thing goes wrong and a lot I have no knowledge of or about.
Often, gifting me without knowledge or asking with material or money and later demanding that I owe back or states look at all I have done for you that leads to unpredictable anger, destroying my vital items, and actively turns people against me that I don’t know or even met that the abuser may only know.
Once my son and I ignore the verbal abuse, that is not good enough, as we will get hit on or have objects thrown at us without warning to provoke us that leads often to us being awaken out of our sleep, that leads to staged recordings while trying to protect ourselves.
As the police are called my son and I are often asked where are our recordings which we don’t have time to record when manipulated into attacks that we are not aware of as we have tried desperately to avoid the physical and aggressive attacks that have been gaslighted after hours of the abuser taunting and provoking us, through the set staging scenes to record my disabled son with emotional disabilities after severe taunting and provoking;
to include leaving to deescalate the unknown angry abuser down for hours at a time, as the abuser will sit on the anger and pick up and continue the same day or the next day or sit on the anger up until two to three weeks and restart without knowledge of why the abuser is angry until a door slams hard, or the sound of the abuser fist hitting something or hitting me and my son.
I am establishing this fund to get legal representation for an established court date at the end of the month to remain separated from the abuse, to remain in the home with all financial needs met as I am on the lower end of the income and never imagine or planned to be in this place in my life, with no ability to obtain funds that require notarized signatures of of both parties, leaving me financially distressed and very limited resources that has handicapped me.
Me and my disabled son have been subjected to where we came to the house of our residence and the main water valve was turned off, the main electric power switch was turned off and the breaker from the box was removed from the box, and a large dump was left in the toilet to fumigate the residence with a strong stitch of human bodily waste odor left in the toilet.
I got help to turn the water valve back on and was able to get the main utilities switch back on, but I was extremely at a lost with the breaker out the breaker box as with no breaker in the box to work the condenser unit, there will be no heat or air to flow and I had to learned at the last moment the importance of the breaker box and what it really does, and now I know!
I have asked for the courts protection and received the courts protections as I am asking to be in the residence until strong agreements and stipulations have been met for all involved can reach a final decision peacefully for safety as this is domestic violence and through the courts is the road I had to travel in a very sudden metamorphosis that seems to unreal to me at my 54th year of my life.
Now let me be clear, I did not make the down payment of the home purchased upon purchasing the home while married, no I have not made one mortgage payment and it is often thrown up in my face, as I am told how useless I am, yet and still I should not be hit on, degraded with such horrible verbal abuse when all was established before moving into marriage and before I left what was affordable for me and my disabled son and no matter that I make major contributions into the residence that has been thrown into my face as welfare contributions of what I do contribute.
There are no hidden agendas with me, I was living in nice rented condo in an upscale area and never had to worry about lights or water being turned off or evictions and I am deeply sadden to know I am here with someone I truly trusted and gave into love, now broken, distraught and frighten to death, with many sleepless nights.
I have placed all I have in this residence purchased and this is all I know, all the little monies I have has been invested in what I called my place of residence with no family near and it s difficult because I have an adult disabled son and I cannot just leave my disabled son alone or cast him to the streets with no where to go, as we wait on the state of Maryland involved and has been involved, but there is a process that we are following to include the emergency process that is a process, not to mention the entire transition of relocating from one state to another having to start all required disabilities once established that took a tremendous amount of time to restart. Frustrating!
Because my son has a disability of no fault of his,I have been told Under the abuse that my son is a retard because I have been called by the abuser that I am mentally challenged, stupid, and incompetent and retardation runs in me that has led to my son being retard.
Many that may read this and many know that my son was born through inappropriate medical conditions, where my son was born in my 32nd week of pregnancy and I was at work when my water broke at Baptist Hospital in Jacksonville, Florida, and it later discovered it was not my water that broke by the medical staff 3 days later, after being sent home with medical documentation as I went to use the bathroom and the placenta fell out, that led to my son being in my womb for 3 days without oxygen that led to any early birth, spitting out blood that was a grade 3 intervene hemorrhage of the brain, 100% oxygen and remaining on oxygen in the intensive care unit for nearly 3 months hooked to a breathing machine and died 3 times, before finally surviving.
This is greatly documented and lets be clear, any child born through any drugs or alcohol will be taken by the state, as my abuser has stated that this is the reason why my disabled son is retarded and that he is a disappointment of being born and an a great embarrassment.
Because my my faith and belief values and I raised and come from love from some of my family, the emotional and psychological abuse has stated things unto me that “I am of worthlessness, the degrading name calling, attacking my character and laughing at me and creating public embarrassment until I stopped going places under abuse, while yelling and belittling any accomplishments big or small I have made;
unilateral decision making after a decision financially has been made, that leaves me financially distressed on purpose, any attempts to break me down or to destroy me, while purposely making things difficult for me.
I have had past mistakes thrown in my face from a time I got arrested in January 1, of 2001, and the charge was “terroristic threat;” it is just that, for defending my disabled son from a man that attempted to lure my disabled son who was a small elementary child into God’s know what.
My intent was to attempt to have a conversation with the deranged man, which did not go good, which led to me being the aggressor for protecting my disabled son and arrested for 4 long days; as I later learned that the man was an unregistered sex offender, yet twisted in my face characterizing me as a violent individuals knowing the truth, yet denouncing me in a demeaning manner.
I don’t know any other way but to be transparent, in a situation that is deeply serious as the stats are real of the deaths due to domestic violence being real.
I am in a place all alone, with no solid support and due to the situation of my situation of being employed, a disabled son and many other issues that have me truly handicapped, I am very vulnerable at this current time which led to me establishing this go fund me page to get legal representation.
Let me be strongly clear again this is not to hurt or harm anyone, this is my real story of what is going on that I am desperately trying to reach out for help to stop, as I am seeking peace humbly.
I do not seek pity or sympathy as this is me putting my story out truthfully to the best of ability to get help as other may have pride that get in the way, or shame or choose to remain quiet while the fact remains domestic violence is hidden due to many being embarrassed or silence due to be frighten and later you learn of tragic news.
Lastly, I am very vulnerable due to a fall I had on January 13, 2020, on my job that I assumed was nothing, which later to find out through X-rays, I have a knee fracture that has kept me down from work and in a knee brace with excruciating pain as well as frighten of losing my independence and now to be going through the unspeakable of what I never thought would happen to me February 4, 2020.
Therefore, due to the situation of my son that walked into me being physically abused, I am establishing this page to:
1. Attain strong legal representation for myself and my disabled son.
2. To ensure we are represented legally in a professional manner from a reputable attorney that has experience in domestic violence.
Through the prayers I have submitted with the support of my ministry, I am in deep prayer for this entire sadden situation and through the toughest of a road that has handicapped me in my latter years has me broken in so many ways that has me extremely heartbroken at this point in my life as this is one of the hardest things I have ever had to do was be this transparent in such a way.
Any donations small or big to help me reach my goal will be deeply and greatly appreciated and thank you so very much.
I have to finalize this by February 20, 2020.
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/domestic-violence-statistics_n_5959776
https://wtop.com/maryland/2019/02/46-victims-of-domestic-violence-are-remembered/
Organizer
Monica Neecy Earl Washington
Organizer
Ft. Washington, MD
