"I wish and hope that my wife Shannon is pregnant by my next birthday"
Now.... I know what your thinking, just pull the goalie and get to it. Unfortunately for my lovely wife and I it's just not that simple. You see we pulled the goalie, kicked him out of the game and even created new "sports" but after over three years of trying still no baby, no scare.... nothing.
My Wife thought there might be something wrong considering that we tried thermometers, calenders, pillows, books and anything else we heard about. So she tells me that we should see a doctor "just in case". I agree and July of last year we go through the test's. I get the easy part "here's your cup, go fill it" and my wife gets blood work, probing, x-rays, and some strange thing called an HSG.
Now I am a optimistic person and feel that we just haven't tried everything yet. Then it happens, you hear it but your not sure you heard it right. "there is something wrong, we don't know yet but we need to do more tests".
A week later while I am at work I get the worst call of my life.
I can't hear exactly what she's saying through the tears, sobs and broken words but I make out "I'm missing half my Uterus, I can't....I can't have babies". I have never felt anything like that in my life and I hope no one ever has to. The woman of my dreams, the love of my life that has worked with kids her whole life because she loves them and wants to have one herself more than anything in the world, just said she can't. Which means we can't. This happens to other people not us. Why her? Why us? Why?
Soon we get answers. The doctors says Shannon has a condition called a Unicornuate Uterus. He explains that she is missing half her Uterus that didn't form at birth and it possible she may be missing half her kidney. After further test's they find that her kidneys are intact and possibly good news that one of both of her ovaries are there and in good shape. So I ask the doctor is there hope? "yes"
My heart go's from 0-60. The doctor explains, that we can get pregnant but only through IVF (in vitro fertilization). Which means they use a needle to take out a some eggs, fertilize it and watch it closely in a lab for five days. I say "great when can we start". Doctor said ASAP so we jumped right in.
Over the next two months it was doctors appointments, tests, internals every week, pills, and hormone shots in the stomach and of course mood swings. That is what my wife had to do. All I had to do was give her the shots, fight with the insurance company, keep busy and find anyway possible to NOT piss off the wife lol. Finally we were ready.
We go to have the eggs extracted. They were only able to extract four eggs with two of them looking very good. Which is OK because when you have a half a Uterus they can only put one egg in anyway. The extraction is NOT pleasant and Shannon was in pain for the next 4 days. I guess stabbing your ovaries with a HUGE needle over and over again hurts. But one egg becomes fertilized and we are scheduled for re-insertion in five days. Fingers crossed we are excited and are happy that there is even a chance.
The operation is a success as I get to watch on the video screen as our little egg shoots out of the needle and into her lady bits like a shooting star. We spent the next ten days staring at the picture of the egg, heck we even thought we could see a face. Now the fun begins because now the needles get bigger MUCH BIGGER. I felt like I was stabbing my wife with a knife the needles were so big. But she is a trooper and toughed it out, mood swings aside all went well. Next is the results.
On my wives birthday we knew we would hear the news. We waited till we were both home to listen to the doctors voice mail together. We held hands and played the recording. "I'm sorry but you are not pregnant." There's that pain again, the words you just don't want to hear. I cried for days. I could not comfort my wife. I could not ease my loves pain. I was lost. I did not know what to do next. Fight. That's what we'll do we will fight and try again.
The doctor tells us that there is still hope and that we will be a little more aggressive next time BUT there is one problem our insurance will not cover any more of the treatment as we have reached our max for infertility help. I fought with the insurance company for months and lost. Turns out that they only cover $5,000 lifetime and we would need to pay cash over $7500 out of pocket for our next attempt which is not including medications. We already spent all our savings, can't get financed and even with working two jobs we are still paying off the bills from the first attempt.
We need help! We could do it on our own but it may take years to get there and as the doctor says time is ticking. I don't care what I owe but they don't have a payment plan for this sort of thing. I have tried everything I can think of except ask for your help. So I am asking whoever is listening. My friends, my family and everyone who knows us or has not met us yet. Help us have the greatest moment in our life. Help a deserving wife. Help a desperate husband. Help us be the parents we always dreamed we would be. We still have hope.
This is my birthday wish!
Thank you all,
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