The Fey's Baby Dream
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Our Story,
Amanda and I have been married for just over 4 years and the time has flown by. We have always been an active and busy couple, working hard and participating in the many activities we are involved in. Although we feel abundantly blessed with each other and or wonderful friends and family, there is still apart of us that doesn’t feel whole. Amanda and I have been trying to start a family for a little over 3 years with no such luck. We have spent over $15,000 in fertility drugs and appointments, unfortunately none of which is covered by our medical insurance. Doctors have diagnosed Amanda with Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS), meaning she doesn’t ovulate on her own which causes her to get cysts on her ovaries which are usually very painful.
We have decided to take the next step in infertility which is In vitro Fertilization (IVF). Many of you might be asking yourself, what is IVF? IVF is the joining of a woman's egg and a man's sperm in a laboratory dish. In vitro means outside the body, fertilization means the sperm has attached to and entered the egg. Sounds crazy and expensive right? IVF has roughly a 62% success right, which depending on your point of view, might seem like pretty good odds or not so good odds at all. Coming from our point of view 62% of a chance to have a little one is far better than what our odds look like without doing IVF. In the past, Amanda had been taking Clomid and Metformin shots which were supposed to help with ovulation induction. The success rate for those shots are at 20%. We tried what they called “cycles” numerous times without any luck and, at $800-1200 a cycle, the bills added up quickly. This brings us to where we are at now- instead putting money towards pills and shots we have decided to try IVF. The price for one round of IVF is different for every patient. For Amanda and me they have estimated the cost to be between $13,000-$20,000 which absolutely zero is covered by insurance and is ALL due by your first appointment. The $13,000-$20,000 we will be financing on our own, what we would like to ask help for is the 5-$10,000 it will cost for medications and two separate procedures called HSG and a SIS/TET. These two procedures Amanda will be having this Thursday and Friday and will help the doctors determine if her tubes are clear and healthy for when they transfer they embryo. The whole process from start to finish usually takes two months. With that all being said we know it is just a 62% chance, and we are fine with that. We are putting it into God’s hands and praying for the best. What we do have going for us is the Doctors have never told us we CAN’T have a baby and that gives us hope!
There are thousands of couples going through the exact thing my wife and I are. It’s almost like we have a disease which we are ashamed of, hiding behind every questing that is asked of “when are you having kids!?” don’t worry, it’s not your fault for asking! It’s ours for not being upfront! It is a very stressful situation that we hide behind. We have decided to share our story and ask for help.. no more hiding and no more feeling like we are different. Don’t be scared to ask us about it, we are coming forward and it will help us with the process along the way! Taking this step of putting our story out there has been a very hard decision to make; we are both very hard working and independent people who are proud of what we have. In order to do this we realize that we need all the help we can get. Thank you for taking the time to read our story. We know many of you are in as difficult of times as we are so thank you in advance for your support. Whether it is through prayers or donations we truly appreciate it. Even if you are not able to donate please show your support by clicking to share our story with those you know.
Amanda and I have been married for just over 4 years and the time has flown by. We have always been an active and busy couple, working hard and participating in the many activities we are involved in. Although we feel abundantly blessed with each other and or wonderful friends and family, there is still apart of us that doesn’t feel whole. Amanda and I have been trying to start a family for a little over 3 years with no such luck. We have spent over $15,000 in fertility drugs and appointments, unfortunately none of which is covered by our medical insurance. Doctors have diagnosed Amanda with Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS), meaning she doesn’t ovulate on her own which causes her to get cysts on her ovaries which are usually very painful.
We have decided to take the next step in infertility which is In vitro Fertilization (IVF). Many of you might be asking yourself, what is IVF? IVF is the joining of a woman's egg and a man's sperm in a laboratory dish. In vitro means outside the body, fertilization means the sperm has attached to and entered the egg. Sounds crazy and expensive right? IVF has roughly a 62% success right, which depending on your point of view, might seem like pretty good odds or not so good odds at all. Coming from our point of view 62% of a chance to have a little one is far better than what our odds look like without doing IVF. In the past, Amanda had been taking Clomid and Metformin shots which were supposed to help with ovulation induction. The success rate for those shots are at 20%. We tried what they called “cycles” numerous times without any luck and, at $800-1200 a cycle, the bills added up quickly. This brings us to where we are at now- instead putting money towards pills and shots we have decided to try IVF. The price for one round of IVF is different for every patient. For Amanda and me they have estimated the cost to be between $13,000-$20,000 which absolutely zero is covered by insurance and is ALL due by your first appointment. The $13,000-$20,000 we will be financing on our own, what we would like to ask help for is the 5-$10,000 it will cost for medications and two separate procedures called HSG and a SIS/TET. These two procedures Amanda will be having this Thursday and Friday and will help the doctors determine if her tubes are clear and healthy for when they transfer they embryo. The whole process from start to finish usually takes two months. With that all being said we know it is just a 62% chance, and we are fine with that. We are putting it into God’s hands and praying for the best. What we do have going for us is the Doctors have never told us we CAN’T have a baby and that gives us hope!
There are thousands of couples going through the exact thing my wife and I are. It’s almost like we have a disease which we are ashamed of, hiding behind every questing that is asked of “when are you having kids!?” don’t worry, it’s not your fault for asking! It’s ours for not being upfront! It is a very stressful situation that we hide behind. We have decided to share our story and ask for help.. no more hiding and no more feeling like we are different. Don’t be scared to ask us about it, we are coming forward and it will help us with the process along the way! Taking this step of putting our story out there has been a very hard decision to make; we are both very hard working and independent people who are proud of what we have. In order to do this we realize that we need all the help we can get. Thank you for taking the time to read our story. We know many of you are in as difficult of times as we are so thank you in advance for your support. Whether it is through prayers or donations we truly appreciate it. Even if you are not able to donate please show your support by clicking to share our story with those you know.
Organizer
Brandon Fey
Organizer
Sioux Falls, SD
