Victoria Faith McNabb Severe TBI
Victoria Faith is in the Neuro Trama ICU at Mission Hospital. She has been in a coma and remains unresponsive at this time. There are over 16 different hemorrhages in her brain. The neuro surgeon put a monitor in her brain to determine where the pressure is. face & head lacerations, bleeding on the brain a deep cut on the chin w/ several stitches, a broken nose, crushed eye socket, a bruised lung and it knocked out some of her teeth, facial fractures, skull fracture and a hemmatoma on the left side of head. On a scale of 1-15 with 15 being the best, she is a 6. We are dealing with a lot of "wait and see" The neurosurgeon has told us, we are looking at months of recovery and multiple surgeries on her face.
She has no medical insurance at this time. She has a 4 year son, Ronan, that she loves dearly.
Her brother Matthew was sent off to boot camp to Parris Island last Sunday, with another 12 weeks left. It is imperative that when all those of us who love & support him, when you write to not discuss Victoria's situation with him. We know Victoria would love him by her side, but she would want him to finish his goal of becoming a Marine.
We are setting up a fund to help with expenses etc. if you would like to help. Thank you and Please, please pray & share.
Our goal is subject to change. We have no idea what we are dealing with but will keep everyone posted on her progress.
On Christmas day this Friday will be our 218th day into this heart wrenching journey. Much has happened since my last posting that everyone should be very excited about. We are rejoicing in what God has done and is doing
As you know from the last post in October, Victoria was in the ER for another trip and it was no surprise to have another severe UTI. The following Wednesday, I asked the doctor, “at what point do we get rid of the catheter?” After agreeing to disagree, he allowed a 48 hour trial to give her the opportunity to void her bladder. Praise God, she did and we are rid of that incredible source of infection!!!
I also have been asking for a swallow study and FINALLY was successful in getting a speech therapist to follow up and get one done. Tada !!!!! well, Miss Victoria has again passed a significant milestone and passed with flying colors! Unfortunately, I am the only one giving her anything. It has been 2 weeks now with very little Greek yogurt and she is loving it!
With all that has been going on, I have been overwhelmed and very discouraged over her care in a nursing home where most people are 60-80 years older than her. Her PT, ST, nurses and doctor have all agreed that she DOES NOT NEED TO BE IN A NURSING HOME BUT BACK IN A LONG TERM CARE REHABILITATION HOSPITAL. So the search has been on………………please pray for the one and only choice God has for her the doors will open wide for all the details to be handled.
Thanks to all who called, donated, emailed, visited, encouraged, and supported our family in any way. We are so deeply grateful for every single act of kindness.
We still have so far to go and Victoria needs to be to have a wonderful quality of life and have a very challenging road ahead. Your prayers and support are very much needed. May you and your families have a Merry Christmas and blessed New Year in 2016.
Hello family and friends. Abundant thank you’s to all of you who are continuing to pray for Victoria and sharing her story. This journey is going to be a long one. I know many of you have been wondering how Victoria is doing and as I have mentioned before, if you don’t hear from me here, please pray for us. We are simply going through so much and even booting up the computer to do any task is daunting. I am making every effort to be balanced and level headed and take time out for myself.
Five weeks ago Victoria Faith was moved to a skilled nursing facility. She is still a non-listed patient for her protection. Happy, positive minded and full of faith visitors are still welcome but screened by myself. Please let me know if you would want to visit and let’s make it happen. She needs so much love and support. Norman’s (my fiancé,) mother had a massive stroke late Saturday night or early Sunday morning and has left this morning to go be with her at Duke ICU. At this time she is non-responsive and the whole family needs your prayers. I hate for him to be (without me) during this time but I cannot leave Victoria in her still fragile condition. We were in the ER again Saturday night from nearly 2 weeks of uncontrolled pain.
We are still getting used to a new doctor, nurses, CNA’s, LPN’s, etc. and being short staffed. It is so frustrating having to repeat over and over our request, written and spoken. A third of the staff is really great, and the others need some serious training/and or don’t even need to be in health care. My favorite and Victoria’s is a nurse that is a Marine. She takes such good care of Victoria.
Victoria is continuing to improve with baby steps along the way. Praise God that 3-4 baby steps are a full step forward. Good news is…… Victoria is young. She is getting the best supplements available that give her body the ability to heal, repair, regenerate cells and nutrition to create new adult stem cells. Victoria has been moving her right arm and leg a lot. She is touching her face, her hair as if to “discover” or feel. She continues to do a thumbs up, she reaches for me if I am letting go of her hand, she hangs on like she does not want to let go. She has been trying to vocalize words by forming her lips and making sounds. She is smiling from time to time. I walked into her room a couple of weeks ago, she was wide awake and I said “Hello Beautiful!’, she smiled more to the right side. When I put lip balm on her lips and I ask her to rub her lips together, she will do it. She is following visual and verbal commands. She will blink once or twice on command but not when she is tired or recently had her medications. We have been watching church together live online and she loves it. She tracks very well most of the time. A couple of Sunday’s ago, we were listening to Hillsong’s Praise music and a song, “I Love You, Lord” was on and I began doing sign language as I had taught her when she was a young girl. When the word “I” was spoken/signed, she would point to herself!!!! Yea! She is still with us. Many of these are on command or sometimes she is taking the initiative to do on her own.
We did have a follow up CAT scan and met with the neurologist this past week. All we found out after being in the waiting room for nearly 2 hours (Victoria in her wheel chair) and the doctor being in the room for maybe 3 ½ minutes is no more hemorrhages but looks as if she had experienced a mild or mini stroke.
We am praying we can have a swallow study done soon to determine when we will be able to begin to introduce baby food and or the use of a sippy cup. Other goals are to have continued improvement in the limited PT that she is getting, removal of her feeding tube and catheter. We have no idea at this point when these can be addressed. Many things she needs for her recovery is not covered by insurance and your love, support and prayers and urgently needed. Encouragement, cards, donations can be sent to Victoria Faith McNabb at PO Box 1284, Fletcher, NC 28732
With deepest gratitude, Robin & Norman
Good morning family and friends. There are no words to express how heavy my heart has been going through this journey. Norman and I want to thank each and every one of you who are praying, supporting either financially or spending time with her. Especially, my Mom, (Grand-a-ma) for standing in the gap for me while we were gone to Parris Island to celebrate Matthew’s becoming a Marine. Ooo Rah!!! I know he is struggling over his sisters condition, please continue to keep him in your prayers. He is continuing his training at Camp Lejeune through November.
I know many of you have been waiting to hear how Victoria is progressing. Please understand, when I have not written, it is from time in addition, I want to be able to post something positive each time I write to you. Since my last post, after meeting with the doctors, therapist and case worker, they feel Victoria is ready for a long term care, skilled nursing facility that also offers continued physical therapy, speech therapy and occupational therapy. After much research, we are hoping and praying the right choice will be at the Laurels of Green Tree Ridge. This is good news! She will remain a non-listed patient. More good news, about a week ago, ON COMMAND, Victoria gave a thumb up with her right thumb and just yesterday, ON COMMAND, she lifted her right hand and put it in her lap and another thumbs up!!!! A huge blessing to experience!
We are asking for your continued support. I need to know you are praying and thinking of her/us. This uncharted waters is overwhelming at times. Many items she needs for her recovery is not covered by insurance. In addition, we still do not know the details of what happened to my daughter.
Victoria now has her own PO Box and bank account. For those of you who wanted to send support directly, her address is
PO Box 1284,
Fletcher, NC 28732
With deepest appreciation, Robin & Norman
Thank you for your prayers, love and support. Please continue. The last two weeks have been with a lot of ups and downs. The good news for now, Victoria’s trach location has grown back together and no longer even needs a bandage over it. She seems to do well with all the different types of therapy she is receiving during the week. She is swallowing more and trying to make sounds. Her tracking at times is very strong.
Every other day she is allowed to have a shower and it is always important to me that I be there to assist and be sure she gets her hair clean and rinsed well. She really seems peaceful when getting all cleaned up and rests so well afterwards. Last Sunday I was able to work on her feet while in a shower chair and give her a really good pedicure. We listened to one of her stations I created a long time ago on Pandora called “Phantom of the Opera”. And some of her favorite classical piano that reminds me of the times she has played so beautifully herself. She seemed to really enjoy that day as I would say to her we are at the spa being pampered. At times she is able to hold her head up and this day she was. I asked her if she liked the warm water and mommy washing her hair and she nodded her head yes!!!
8/8/15 Saturday Day #78
This past week, we are praising God for little bits of progress. I rarely have seen her storming this week. Victoria has been moving her right leg a lot, bringing it all the way to her trunk. She has also been moving her left leg some but very little. On Wednesday, her nurse and I were by her bedside and she was trying to talk, a serious effort in trying to talk. I cannot tell you how excited I was!!! She is allowed to have her hand splints off most of the time. There is so little time to write and keep you all updated. I am exhausted but am really trying hard to stay on top of her care, making sure everyone is doing their job in caring for her and keeping her safe. With her moving more it is vital she has pillows around her head to protect from further fractures. She is getting the greatest supplements available to heal her brain. She loves listening to her classical piano and her aromatherapy of eucalyptus, peppermint and lavender. She still has a very long way to go. Norman and I are meeting with the doctors on Monday to discuss her progress and continued rehabilitation. Please pray she will be able to continue and not forced to go to a skilled nursing facility. It is deeply disturbing to have to be consumed with this a week before Matt graduates from boot camp.
This week we have had on the Salt lamp in her room representing prayers for her brother, Matt, as he is just completed the Crucible at Parris Island and now is officially a US Marine. My emotions are overwhelmed and I am so very proud of you!! We are looking forward to traveling to his graduation next week and celebrate.
Norman has been amazing in caring for me and everything around the house. He has more character and integrity than I ever dreamed. Without a doubt, the most wonderful man I have ever met. He is doing all he can to care for his family and I am so proud and blessed to have him in my life! I love you, Norman, with all my heart!
I have a few friends who have volunteered to sit with her and I am so grateful. However, I need more help, volunteer help to come and just sit with Victoria, read to her, make sure the staff turns her no less than every two hours etc. During the afternoon, early evening and weekends is most needed. If you have 30 minutes 2 hours, or all day. I have got to have some free hours to work on things outside of the hospital that I must get done for her and myself. Respite is essential to keep myself healthy and able to be there for her and the rest of my family. Please send me an email or call if you are willing to help in sitting with her. I have a calendar I can email you.