Help Mark Savor Each Remaining Day
Like all of us, Mark has worked hard all his life. And like most of us, Mark has been looking forward to retirement so that he could achieve his dream of living on a boat and soaking in life at a slower pace. Mark and his long-time partner Roxane George have been planning how to make this dream a reality for several years.
Friends—and there are many—of this couple hope to help Mark achieve his dream of living on or near the ocean. We want to help Mark visit with his daughter Katy, savor each day and give both he and Roxane the financial space to enjoy their time together and share their goodbyes.
Please consider helping Mark achieve his dream by assisting to raise $12,000. This can pay for a boat or apartment rental and allow Mark and Roxane to focus on what is most important and to celebrate the love they share for each other and for this life they share.
If you don’t know Mark and Roxane but are reading this, consider making a donation in gratitude for your life and the lives of those you hold most dear.
Each donation, regardless of size, is an affirmation of our shared humanity and our desire to see others happy and at peace.
Thank you for considering a donation and for sharing this with others who might also consider a donation.
To follow Mark's journey, visit his CaringBridge site
“Just imagine becoming the way you used to be as a very young child, before you understood the meaning of any word, before opinions took over your mind. The real you is loving, joyful, and free. The real you is just like a flower, just like the wind, just like the ocean, just like the sun.” – Don Miguel Ruiz
Becky here. Thank you again for your outpouring of love and support.
Roxane asked me to post Mark's obituary and to tell you that a private memorial is planned for a later time.
For just over 61 years, life expressed itself beautifully through Mark Brian Gant, who died in his home surrounded by beloved friends and family on May 20, 2016. Mark is survived by the love of his life, Roxane George, his daughter Katy Gant, with whom he had the father-daughter relationship all fathers and daughters yearn to have, his big brother Jack Gant and a big devoted crew of loving, hilarious, adventuresome, compassionate friends and extended family members who miss him enormously and celebrate his life with joy, laughter and gratitude.
Mark was diagnosed with type I diabetes and cancer in January of this year. In February, a diagnosis of stage IV pancreatic cancer, as well as primary liver cancer was confirmed, with a life expectancy of 2-6 months without treatment. His first response to this terminal diagnosis was to sit down with Roxane and beloved neighbors to smoke cigarettes and drink whiskey while making gleeful plans to burn every single real estate appraisal file in his office and never do another goddamn appraisal again.
Mark met his dying with little fear, enormous grace and generosity, tremendous humor and infinite love. He had many wonderful experiences in life, including countless adventures on the Colorado River, the San Juan, the Green, the Salmon, the Amazon and both oceans. He was always happiest in the presence of wild places and wild-hearted people and made sure to spend as much time as possible with both. He believed strongly in Bernie Sanders’ political revolution and that “to die is different from what any one supposed,and luckier. “
In lieu of flowers, Roxane and Katy request that donations be given to two organizations that have been important to Mark and his loved ones. Donations to Flagstaff-based Further Shore can be made online at furthershore.org or mailed to Further Shore, Inc., P.O. Box 23518, Flagstaff, AZ 86002. Donations to the Bernie Sanders campaign can be made online at https://berniesanders.com
What do you think has become of the young and old men?
What do you think has become of the women and children?
They are alive and well somewhere;
The smallest sprouts show there is really no death,
And if ever there was it led forward life, and does not wait at the end to arrest it,
And ceased the moment life appeared.
All goes onward and outward. . . .and nothing collapses,
And to die is different from what any one supposed, and luckier.
At about 6pm last night, Mark left his tired body while surrounded by Roxane, Katy, Daniel, and Mark's brother Jack. He continued to be comfortable and surrounded by immense love right through his last breath.
Aleia from Further Shore joined Roxane to prepare a final ceremony of love and respect. It was beautiful. All of us are so grateful for Further Shore and for Aleia.
Katy and Roxane are, of course, exhausted and wish to just rest and be quiet for a bit. Thank you for your love and support. Roxane will communicate with friends when she's feeling up to it.
Mark's passing was filled with comfort, love, community, and grace. Your love and support helped to make that so.
Mark is now unresponsive, but he was able to spend some very sweet time with friends and his beloved Roxane and Katy.
Roxane and Katy are snuggled in bed with Mark and he is comfortable. He knows that the two loves of his life will look after each other.
A few friends are keeping vigil in the living room to make sure that Roxane and Katy have everything they need. Both want to express their gratitude and love to you all for the calls, texts, and visits.
They are now requesting to be left to spend time alone with Mark.
Thank you to those who have emailed fond memories and stories about Mark to firstname.lastname@example.org. This will be wonderful permanent reminders of Mark's remarkable life.
Best to you all and thank you. I know that Mark feels wrapped in love.
Thank you also for your generous donations. They are helping Roxane to deal with the financial stress of Mark's illness so that she can focus on just being present with Mark as he passes.
It seems that Mark's cancer has spread and he has elected not to do another round of chemo or to do any radiation.
He doesn't feel up to making the journey to California and Katy is on her way to Flagstaff. She'll be here tonight.
Katy has asked a favor of each of you. She would love it if you would email your memories of Mark: a funny story, a touching moment...anything. She wants to be able to read through all of your remembrances and see Mark through your eyes. We've created an email account for Mark-related stuff, the address is: email@example.com
Thank you for taking a moment to share your thoughts and memories with Katy and Roxane.
Roxane invites friends to visit. Mark sleeps most of the day, so there is a chance that he won't be awake when you arrive or that he'll fall asleep during your visit.
Mark is resting comfortably, is not currently experiencing much pain, and is under the care of Hospice.
The Hospice nurse estimated that Mark "doesn't have two months left", but that's the closest estimate we have at this point. He hasn't had anything to eat the past two days, but is drinking water.
Thank you for all your support. Mark, Roxane, and Katy are so touched by your concern and your love.
Thank you for sharing this link. We continue to raise money for Mark and Roxane's expenses.
Thank you, Becky. The San Juan will be ready when Mark and Roxane are. love, m