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Stephen Bittikofer Funeral Fund

$4,865 of $6,840 goal

Raised by 61 people in 1 month
Created March 3, 2019
Fundraising Team
on behalf of Michele Bittikofer
My little brother was found not breathing on Wednesday night of February 27th. He has since then been on life support in the ICU.  At 5pm March 2nd he was deemed "brain dead" and they "documented" his time of death to be at that time. But on March 3rd .....tomorrow (Sunday)  we have to let go, we have to  say goodbye...we will hug his warm body for the last time. We have to say ok turn off the breathing machine. I dont know how we will do this. I am dyeing inside. Literally a piece of me....my child hood...my first best friend.

If you know Steve..... he made you laugh. He had this way of intriguing you and making you so interested in what he was saying....like some kind of comedian. He told the best stories and he had the best long term memory.  He had his own lingo and the friends and family around him would start using it. His mom is "lady" his ex girlfriend who became his long time friend is "fish"....her friends still call her that. His and my parents little dog is "skinny". And my son....his only nephew is "G".....I dont know why he called him this...I never asked....but my son loves it. He unintentionally made his own nickname....his own alias "jive". For the first time the other night while he was laying there lifeless...machine breathing for him...I seen a tiny tattoo on the ring finger of his right hand...it was a tiny word written in cursive.....it says "Jive". He was still making me laugh even after he wasn't really there any more.

He made people feel special. He made everyone smile. There wasn't an evil bone in his body. He just wanted to be liked and loved by everyone so badly......and he never knew how special he was.

My parents do not have a spare extra  dollar to bury him or cremate him. We do not have any idea of how we are going to afford this. Its so painful for me to ask for help like this. I dont ask for help...with anything. I am dying even more inside asking for financial help like this. I think a funeral and burial/cremation is around 3000. Anything will help. And if you don't have an extra dollar its ok. Please just share this.

Thank you,
Nicole

http://buschfuneral.tributes.com/obituary/show/Stephen-J.-Bittikofer-106906057

***Update Tuesday 8pm 3 3/5/19 ****

Dear Family and Friends,
We met with the funeral home today and my initial estimate for the cost of a funeral was a great underestimate.

For a basic funeral for Steve the total cost is $6840.20, so I am increasing the fundraiser goal to this amount.

We appreciate every dollar that has been donated, it is a tremendous help. I thought it would be worth a shot to update the fundraiser goal to what we truly need, in hopes that there are some family and friends who have not yet donated. Every dollar helps.

As of right now we have a definite set date for his service.
Sunday March 10th
Tentatively between the hours of 1pm-4pm. We are working on his obituary and will post it as soon as possible; it will include the exact times, and service details.

Thank you,
Nicole
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*IMPORTANT UPDATE*
Visitation and Service Details

1-3pm Memorial Visitation
Come to visit with family and friends, and pay condolences if you wish. Stephen will be with us in his urn and in spirit, cremated, no casket. We will be looking at pictures & memorabilia, special chosen music playlist will be on, coffee & cookies & snacks

3pm-4pm Stephens Celebration of Life Service
The minister/life celebrant will be speaking, and some of his friends and family will also be coming up to speak to honor his life and his memory. There is no actual set end time, about an hour.
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Dear Family and Friends,

I am updating to give you the link to Stephens obituary. Again we are sooo grateful for all of your very generous donations and emotional support. We want you to know we plan to thank each and every one you individually & personally as soon as we are able to.

http://buschfuneral.tributes.com/obituary/show/Stephen-J.-Bittikofer-106906057

Thank you,
Nicole, Mike and Michele
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Update. Tuesday 8pm 3/5/19

Dear Family and Friends,

We met with the funeral home today and my initial estimate for the cost of a funeral was a great underestimate.

For a basic funeral for Steve the total cost is $6840.20, so I am increasing the fundraiser goal to this amount.

We appreciate every dollar that has been donated, it is a tremendous help. I thought it would be worth a shot to update the fundraiser goal to what we truly need, in hopes that there are some family and friends who have not yet donated. Every dollar helps.

As of right now we have a definite set date for his service.
Sunday March 10th
Tentatively between the hours of 1pm-4pm.

We are working on his obituary and will post it as soon as possible; it will include the exact times, and service details.


Thank you,
Nicole
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Dear family and friends,

From the bottom of our shattered hearts, we thank you soo very much for your generous donations . You took us past our goal in 1 day, its amazing. We are even more grateful for your love, kind words, and emotional support. You all love Steve soo much and wanted to make sure he gets the memorial and services that he deserves. Your kind words about him are comforting. Just thank you soo soo much. My body and soul hurt soo bad and I can’t think clear or straight I wish I had better words to express our sincere gratitude.

He came to me in spirit Saturday night in my kitchen, around 1am exactly 3 days from when my parents found him unresponsive. He let me know he’s ok, that he is finally at peace , no longer struggling and no longer suffering. His brain died from lack of oxygen for too long. His brain wasn’t damaged it was dead. He had absolutely no brain function, not even brain stem function. That is why when the ventilator was taken out his brain didn’t tell his lungs to breath. It was not going to heal or come back….that does not happen. We stayed with him until his heart stopped beating, his finger tips lost warmth and his lips turned blue. I laid my head on his chest and heard and felt his heart beat for the last time. It was and is beyond devastating and excruciatingly painful…it is absolute torture. Part of me died along with my sweet little brother. I am soo very broken; I will never be the same. Call your brothers and sisters and tell them you love them today. Make the effort to spend more time with them. If you are on bad terms forgive them and put in effort to better the relationship. They could be taken away from you at any moment.

Again thank you.
Love, Nicole
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Raised by 61 people in 1 month
Created March 3, 2019
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on behalf of Michele Bittikofer
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