Sean Meets His Birth Family Fund

Sean found his long lost birth family in IRELAND and we need help getting him there to meet them for the first time. My husband was adopted as soon as he was born. His mother, we found out is Irish. She came from Ireland expecting him. She gave birth to him, and from what we found out, she stayed on as nanny for the adoptive family for almost a year. She left in the night before the first home inspection visit from the social service people who were making sure the adoption was good. Unfortunately, Sean's adoptive mother was abusive. His adoptive father was an alcoholic but had a heart of gold. Sean was taken from his adoptive parents at the age of three and put in foster care until the age of six. He remembers his adoptive father sitting on the bed holding tight to him and crying the night before they took him away. At the foster home, he was put in a basement along with a bunch of other foster kids and he said he had a huge lump in his throat. Eventually, the court allowed the adoptive family to take him back. His mother's abuse continued. When he was a teenager, he got to stay with another family who was nice and essentially requested and was granted custody of him. He had a calmer environment. When he was old enough he decided to join the army. He told me he did this so that he could make something of himself. He wanted to do something he couldn't quit and you can't quit the army. He ended up fighting in the Gulf war and earned a bronze star. He didn’t stop there. He continued to improve himself and put himself through college with the help of the Army and graduated with honors. He is always kind and calm and a wonderful father and husband. He makes me feel like I can do anything I set my mind to. He has made so many of my dreams come true. He takes pride in having a family. He makes sure we have everything. He built our home and paid it off in full. We don’t use credit cards and do our best not to owe money. I was the one who finally found his birth mother. Unfortunately, she has already passed away. She died in the late eighties after an accidental overdose. Apparently, giving up a child must have taken a toll on her. It took us seven years to find her though. I told Sean, we can’t stop there. I just knew there had to be more family. I wondered if they were as nice as he is. I told him they probably don’t even know about him. Well, I’m pleased to say we found his real family and I was right. They are wonderful and smart. They didn’t know anything about him being in the world. They didn’t know their sister even had a child. We paid private investigators to help us with the final part of the search. The agency we hired is called Thesearchenders.com. They don’t take any money unless they can provide the results you ask for. We were worried putting money into it that was hard earned would be a risky business, but they are amazing and were giving us the results we needed within the week. Julia Donaldson was in charge of our case and was so professional and kind and we were given a dream come true ending. She is now one of our dear friends and I’m watching her change lives all the time. Sean’s family is in Mayo, Ireland. He has twelve aunts and uncles and countless cousins. They are hard workers, healthy, social and very family oriented. His uncle told us that if we can come to Ireland for a visit, he wants us to stay with him and he and his wife will show us all around Ireland. His uncle has five daughters. His house has five bedrooms but his children are adults now living in Dublin. They live in the country near the ocean. Sean has spoken on the phone with several of his aunts and uncles and through letters. They are good people and I have a new mission of making sure Sean gets to Ireland to see them. I’d like our kids to go as well. They have one living grandmother on my side. They never got to know Sean’s adoptive parents and it would be lovely for them to know where they come from and see people on their dad’s side who resemble them. Until we found Sean’s family, the only people who resembled him were our sons Sean and James. The only set back is I’m a stay at home mom and I have homeschooled our kids since they were born. We need $5,000 to get there and back. Sean and I are happy with me being a stay at home mom because when the kids are sick or if they need me to do anything at all, I am there without question. We have been doing this all their lives and it is hard to think of changing things now. Sean has a job that has been a blessing for us. He makes good money, but we still don’t make enough to have an extra $5,000 just to take off for Ireland. We are not extravagant spenders and we don’t care about material things. In order to pay off our house, we did without for many years. I did without a car for five years when the kids were babies. We didn’t eat out or eat expensive meals. Sean worked extra jobs on the weekends. I didn’t buy dresses and extra pairs of shoes were not a consideration. Even to this day, most of our clothes come from Goodwill because it’s a better deal. Sean and I cut each other’s hair and I’ve cut the kids hair. We make our own laundry detergent. We even wrote our own books when we ran out of stories for the kids. If we don’t have the money, we don’t have the money. I don’t want another seven years to pass without Sean having an opportunity to meet the people who might have been the people he could have been raised with. He is a wonderful person and has done so much for me and our family. He built his world around us. If you look in our yard there is a path worn in the grass from where he walks from the house to his truck every single day to go to work. I have to figure out a way to make this happen for him. I have looked on line for “stay at home mom jobs” but they seem like scams. I’m good at writing and enjoy it. I am also good at editing, but I don’t know how to find a legitimate editing job. I could babysit but I am wanting to stay in my home and I’m concerned about my dogs around young children. I could pet sit but I’m still concerned about my dogs around other dogs. It wouldn’t go to well. I’m artistic, but I have never made real money from art. I’m not afraid to work, but being a homeschool mom, I am just in a tight spot because that in itself is a job aside from being a mom. I just don’t want any more time to pass before he sees his family because everyone is getting older. It would be life changing and a dream come true for him. I’m going to see this through somehow because for someone who has given so much to his country, his family and his friends, he deserves this opportunity to meet his birth family. Any help and prayers will be a blessing.

Above, is a photo of Sean at the very top.  The  photo below of the boy with his dogs is a picture of his uncle when he was young in Ireland.

Above is a set of photos comparing the resemblance of Sean to his new found family.  

Above is a photo of Sean
Above is a photo of Sean's mother.