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Momma K's Vacay Fund

$1,000 of $3,500 goal

Raised by 10 people in 23 months
Alisha De Freitas  ELIZABETH, NJ

My stepmother, Kathy Parchia Flemming, was by my father's side as he took his last breath on March 21st. It had been ten months and two days since he suffered a massive stroke that left him debilitated, unable to even speak.

On the evening of May 19th, 2014, not long before having the stroke, Daddy, the Reverend Joseph Flemming, while at a church function honoring his wife, publicly proclaimed his love for God first, and Kathy, second. It would be the last time she would hear him say he loved her.

Despite a valiant fight, Daddy, after numerous surgeries on his skull, brain and other organs, never recovered. His kidneys failed and he began to receive thrice-weekly dialysis, which led to a number of blood transfusions. The tracheotomy that was placed to assist with breathing led to numerous infections, including repeated bouts of pneumonia. He was admitted to many hospitals, rehabilitation centers and a nursing home in at least three different counties in New Jersey.

Throughout every step of the way, she was there, meeting with surgeons, doctors, nurses, social workers and administrative staff. There  were hours-long phone conversations with health insurance companies and Medicare, topped off with long nights dozing on hard, plastic hospital chairs. She wanted to be by his side.

After months of this, I asked her to stay home more. By the fall, the insurance company forced him to be moved to a nursing home ninety miles south of where we live. She would firmly and resolutely shake her head in the negative and say, "Your father needs me". 

By the time Daddy passed, she had driven thousands of miles, and stressed had caused her to lose a considerable amount of weight. Even still, she maintained her duties as co-pastor of Apostolic Outreach Christian Center, a District Elder in New Jersey as part of the Pentecostal Assemblies of the World, Inc., and as a loving daughter, sister, mother, aunt and grandmother. And of course, she did with impeccably applied makeup and killer style. ;-)

I'm now asking for help to raise funds for Momma K to go on a getaway. Where will be up to her, although I say someplace warm, sunny and tropical! Just as she exemplified sacrificial love for my Daddy, I'm calling for us to show her love!
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20 months ago
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Thank you to all who donated. Momma K took a short vacay in the Caribbean with her sister Monica a couple of weeks ago and returned rejuvenated and refreshed! Please remember to keep her in prayer, and again, thank you!
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$1,000 of $3,500 goal

Raised by 10 people in 23 months
Created April 1, 2015
Alisha De Freitas  
CW
$25
Carol Washington
22 months ago
$100
Carolyn Forché
22 months ago

I can't think of a more deserving person. Not because she is my biological niece, but because she has exemplified all of the characteristics of a Proverbial Woman - a woman of Proverbs 31. Few women would show the love that extended beyond their marriage vows the way Kathy did, traveling thousands of miles each month, sacrificing till it had to hurt her purse and her body, and standing by her husband when he could not even respond to her ... till the end. Love you Kathy. Carolyn

AP
$200
Alfred Parchia
22 months ago
$50
Anonymous
22 months ago
DH
$100
David & Gigi Hubbard
22 months ago
SR
$50
Shovon-Tasnuva Rahman
23 months ago

Best wishes for Momma K.

$250
Anonymous
23 months ago
CB
$100
Cookie Belle
23 months ago

Alisha what a touching tribute! Brought tears to my eyes. God bless you for recognizing and appreciating the sacrifices your mom made. Kathy, the strength and dignity you have shown over the past 10 months have touched the lives of many. I pray God's continued strength and blessings for you. You are your Mother's daughter :)

ZD
$100
Zoe D
23 months ago
AJ
$25
Alan Babbitt Jr
23 months ago

Such a great woman to stand by her husband through so much. Please take some time for yourself!

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