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My moms name is Sharon McMillion. I am her daughter Rachel McMillion. I first wanted to tell you a little bit about my mom and her story. She was the nicest and most caring person I have meet and I'm not just saying that cause she is my mom she would show this in everything she did. She grew up with very little but would give the last shirt she had to someone in need more then her self. She taught me and my sister, Brooklyn McMillion, to also treat others how you would want to be treated no matter what. To give kindness even if you do not always receive it , to show love to everyone you can, to be independent and strong, to go beyond what the world tells you, to express yourself in any form, and to NEVER pass judgment to others! She loved us with every being she had and adored being a grandmother. She was an artist and a dreamer. She fell ill in January and was put into the ICU at atrium health main in Charlotte NC. She was on a ventilator and was not due to make it. Through will and strength in God she over came it. Worked through tracheal placement and was then sent to a skilled nursing home for rehab. That's where things took another turn for the worst. The home was supposed to keep her safe and make her stronger. While there we had a horrible time with even getting them to give her proper water and food consistency. My mother at this time was on thick honey liquids and they would try to give her thin liquids that could have her choke and die. They would not fill her liquid box holder with ice packs not giving her cold items to drink. My mom luckily was alert enough to advocate for herself and had to tell them to follow her liquid orders. Nurses and CNAs would tell me they did not even know she was on such diet orders. After numerous trips there and having to provide my own thickener to them was this ever somewhat resolved. They refused swallowing test to be done to make sure she was not choking silently on thinner liquids and the speech therapist there was just trying to force her along with out doing proper testing. I had to force them to give the testing she needed. After this had past they where still not properly medicating her. She had conditions of liver failure, bipolar, severer depression, pain, memory loss, restless leg syndrome, severe acid reflux, Afib and other medical issues. It took them well over 4 weeks to get her medication provided to her. During this time she stated to them how her depression depended, felt dizziness, insomnia, anxiety, had pain constantly, and shortness of breath. The food was always very inadequate and cold to the point I was having to bring her food. Still our concerns where ignored. I followed with them everyday on this and so did my mom. They left her suffer with her depression and bipolar for 6 weeks due to them not having a proper psychiatrist appointment made after numerous times being told they would. Nurses would tell me they have changed DON ( director of nurse) of the facility 7 different times in the last 4 or 5 years. Which this did happen during her stay there. They told me she would receive showers there twice a week which she never received once during the whole time of her stay. My mom was attempting to wash her self in her bathroom sink. This was also voiced to them. During all this my family and I were constantly looking for a new facility. This is a tough process due to Medicaid, her disability, funds and bed availability. On April 6th my mom called me highly confused and disoriented. I sent my boyfriend and best friend up to see her. They told the nurse how she was acting and sounding. They stayed with her for while that day and was told that she was ok. The following day I received a call stating mom was being combative, confused, stumbling, showing breathing distress and other symptoms. I stated we notified you of this yesterday and you still have not done anything! They rushed her to atrium health main where we found out she had high levels of ammonia in her blood, due to her liver failure, high amounts of alchohol and other abnormal items. After investing further we found out that she had ingested large amounts of hand sanitizer during her confusion on Saturday and Sunday. We also found out talking with the staff at the home that they could not confirm if she was receiving all her medications for her liver ammonia and other conditions because they do not watch them take their medications. We also found out that they neglected to put proper statements in her chart stating I was her power of attorney so they were not notifying me of medication changes, doctor appointments they were making and that they were allowing her to possibly wonder out side the facility on her own with out supervision. We also found out that there was a huge psychiatric medication change 4 days prior to the events on Saturday and where not following up with asking how she was feeling, any side effects she may have been having, or watching her. My mom is unable to voice these types of things for her self if not asked or notified on what to check in with. During her stay at the hospital she continued to decline rapidly. In just 2 days she was intubated once again and then a few hours after that on full life support. We had to make the hard decision yesterday to take her off life support to be with the lord. The hospital has contacted the proper adult protective services to file a formal facility complaint about the nursing home and we are in the process of seeking legal advice. My family is asking for donations for her funeral costs. We are unsure if we are able to afford to have a proper burial or cremation for my mom. Anything helps. Again thank you for all the thoughts, prayers, calls and texts.
With love,
Rachel
My moms name is Sharon McMillion. I am her daughter Rachel McMillion. I first wanted to tell you a little bit about my mom and her story. She was the nicest and most caring person I have meet and I'm not just saying that cause she is my mom she would show this in everything she did. She grew up with very little but would give the last shirt she had to someone in need more then her self. She taught me and my sister, Brooklyn McMillion, to also treat others how you would want to be treated no matter what. To give kindness even if you do not always receive it , to show love to everyone you can, to be independent and strong, to go beyond what the world tells you, to express yourself in any form, and to NEVER pass judgment to others! She loved us with every being she had and adored being a grandmother. She was an artist and a dreamer. She fell ill in January and was put into the ICU at atrium health main in Charlotte NC. She was on a ventilator and was not due to make it. Through will and strength in God she over came it. Worked through tracheal placement and was then sent to a skilled nursing home for rehab. That's where things took another turn for the worst. The home was supposed to keep her safe and make her stronger. While there we had a horrible time with even getting them to give her proper water and food consistency. My mother at this time was on thick honey liquids and they would try to give her thin liquids that could have her choke and die. They would not fill her liquid box holder with ice packs not giving her cold items to drink. My mom luckily was alert enough to advocate for herself and had to tell them to follow her liquid orders. Nurses and CNAs would tell me they did not even know she was on such diet orders. After numerous trips there and having to provide my own thickener to them was this ever somewhat resolved. They refused swallowing test to be done to make sure she was not choking silently on thinner liquids and the speech therapist there was just trying to force her along with out doing proper testing. I had to force them to give the testing she needed. After this had past they where still not properly medicating her. She had conditions of liver failure, bipolar, severer depression, pain, memory loss, restless leg syndrome, severe acid reflux, Afib and other medical issues. It took them well over 4 weeks to get her medication provided to her. During this time she stated to them how her depression depended, felt dizziness, insomnia, anxiety, had pain constantly, and shortness of breath. The food was always very inadequate and cold to the point I was having to bring her food. Still our concerns where ignored. I followed with them everyday on this and so did my mom. They left her suffer with her depression and bipolar for 6 weeks due to them not having a proper psychiatrist appointment made after numerous times being told they would. Nurses would tell me they have changed DON ( director of nurse) of the facility 7 different times in the last 4 or 5 years. Which this did happen during her stay there. They told me she would receive showers there twice a week which she never received once during the whole time of her stay. My mom was attempting to wash her self in her bathroom sink. This was also voiced to them. During all this my family and I were constantly looking for a new facility. This is a tough process due to Medicaid, her disability, funds and bed availability. On April 6th my mom called me highly confused and disoriented. I sent my boyfriend and best friend up to see her. They told the nurse how she was acting and sounding. They stayed with her for while that day and was told that she was ok. The following day I received a call stating mom was being combative, confused, stumbling, showing breathing distress and other symptoms. I stated we notified you of this yesterday and you still have not done anything! They rushed her to atrium health main where we found out she had high levels of ammonia in her blood, due to her liver failure, high amounts of alchohol and other abnormal items. After investing further we found out that she had ingested large amounts of hand sanitizer during her confusion on Saturday and Sunday. We also found out talking with the staff at the home that they could not confirm if she was receiving all her medications for her liver ammonia and other conditions because they do not watch them take their medications. We also found out that they neglected to put proper statements in her chart stating I was her power of attorney so they were not notifying me of medication changes, doctor appointments they were making and that they were allowing her to possibly wonder out side the facility on her own with out supervision. We also found out that there was a huge psychiatric medication change 4 days prior to the events on Saturday and where not following up with asking how she was feeling, any side effects she may have been having, or watching her. My mom is unable to voice these types of things for her self if not asked or notified on what to check in with. During her stay at the hospital she continued to decline rapidly. In just 2 days she was intubated once again and then a few hours after that on full life support. We had to make the hard decision yesterday to take her off life support to be with the lord. The hospital has contacted the proper adult protective services to file a formal facility complaint about the nursing home and we are in the process of seeking legal advice. My family is asking for donations for her funeral costs. We are unsure if we are able to afford to have a proper burial or cremation for my mom. Anything helps. Again thank you for all the thoughts, prayers, calls and texts.
With love,
Rachel
Fundraising team (2)
Rachel McMillion
Organizer
Lincolnton, NC
Brooklyn McMillion
Team member
