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Raised by 12 people in 42 months
Courtenay Slingo Griffin   MIDLOTHIAN, VA

If you know me... you know my marriage has been shaky for years. I finally decided I could not live in misery for the rest of my life. My children have meant everything to me to the point of being accused of giving them too much attention over the years.

I filed for custody, visitation, and support with the state in July 2012.My hope was for an amicable and inexpensive do it ourselves' divorce. The boys and I have been surviving without any spousal support since July when he suddenly packed up everything in the house, had the utilities cut off, and moved out of state with our daughter. I had to borrow enough towels for the boys to shower, and a mattress and sheets for their beds. The house was placed on the market in August. While it was my home, my name was never on the deed. Guess I did not rate that.

My 10 year old has been doing very well in school while adjusting to our new circumstances. He spent Thanksgiving with his father. When he was "˜taken' for an unplanned visit before Christmas rather than the days after, I never dreamed that he would not be returned. He didn't get to say Good-bye. His assignments are piling up on his desk at school. He has never opened his gifts under the tree here. All of his personal items are in his room still. He was enrolled in school there last week. My 17 year old has chosen to stay with me and misses his brother and sister.I have been dealing with a daughter very angry with her mother for wanting to divorce her father. She was my right hand girl. We were together all the time and she stood up to her dad when he was mean to me. She is 15 and hurt... I get it. I know the bond will heal in time.I have not seen Greyson since Dec. 22, and my daughter, Zoe since July 2012.

Obviously, the amicable divorce will never happen. I now must have an Attorney to protect the most precious gifts life has given me... to bring them home to me. I have been and am working full time but every penny goes to housing and food for us. I have continued to pay Health Insurance for the entire family until recently. Any savings that existed were in a bank account that did not include my name.Without legal help, I am powerless to fight for my children. Most lawyers do not have payment plans, and my tight budget cannot fit another payment. I am reaching out to anyone that has the compassion to understand my situation.

Please help me bring my children home. 

 

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Update 15
40 months ago
Signed papers yesterday ...basically custody shared by both...boys primary residence is with me, Zoe primary with her dad. She is graduating early and wants to go.to.Coastal like her mother.....
I figure all I have done over the years that as always as it has been.
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Update 14
40 months ago
Sorry for the delay of updates...sometimes I find It easiest to.just try and ignore what inevitably is fast approaching. Hoping to be able to come to a legal agreement at least providing status as to.whom is where and whom they are with. He sees no.need to.provide support and at this point....I have no legal fight . Marital property not split but at this point it can be replaced and I have survived just fine without it! Stuff is stuff....and ultimately doesn't mean much. It doesn't define who you are....and happiness is something you carry with you always! Nobody can take it away forever.....so Hope and pray that Thursday will be settled Wednesday and no court will be needed. I will keep everyone posted!!!!
Thanks and my gratitude to all......
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Update 13
41 months ago
I have been hoping, praying that things would be able to trudge ahead to keep the peace. What I thought was an agreement was not! Of course It was all what he wanted it to say, and I had no input. He did not agree and now has thrown things into full force action. It has become has become his way or no way... it is not about the kids. He is now trying to come back and take full custody of the youngest... I have gone every avenue I can to get assistance. If you have any attorney friends that will do this for an initial fee... please, please let me know. I have court in 20 days... and NO ATTORNEY.... had to use little bit of tax money to pay bills...... I would hope all the truths would prevail, but the first court date did not prove in my favor, and I do not know that I can go through this again.... I thank those for the character witness letters, and I am soooo thankful for all the support I have had! Greyson is very, very happy.... and his visit to SC opened his eyes. He is where he truly wants to be.... he loves his father but knows at this time, education, and what he gets is what he needs ! PLEASE help me to fight this in any way you can..... I do not know what to do from here. I have so little time to take action.....
HOPE, STRENGTH, LOVE..........
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Update 12
41 months ago
Holiday weekend in retail proved me ill one day and cleaning the next....but got a weekend with Greyson ...was nice. He was my caretaker Saturday. Trying to come up with an agreement according to his terms as an attorney still can not be retained. Trying figure out all means possible. I suppose to have the rights legally set and allow him to pay me nothing...is the way to go. I just wanted the children to be separated from the divorce. It is still what I want and ultimately the best way to go.
Xavier is on a car hunt. His grandfather graciously loaned him his vehicle. One day at a time is all I need.....thanks to all helping out there.!

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Courtenay Griffin
42 months ago

My Greyson is home.... but need to keep this all in place as discussed with his father... he has the legal angle I am lacking....! Thank you so much for all the support and I just want the kids to be separated from all personal things going on.....!

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$417 of $5,000 goal

Raised by 12 people in 42 months
Created January 14, 2013
Courtenay Slingo Griffin  
  Emergencies   MIDLOTHIAN, VA
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Angela Lee
42 months ago

Good luck Court!!!! Luv ya!

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Jenny Gray
42 months ago

You Know that you mean the world to me and i hope you get them back!

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Courtenay Griffin
42 months ago

My Greyson is home.... but need to keep this all in place as discussed with his father... he has the legal angle I am lacking....! Thank you so much for all the support and I just want the kids to be separated from all personal things going on.....!

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