Mike's Family & Medical Expenses
On Saturday, March 19, Mike Greiner experienced sudden cardiac arrest while doing what he does best - serving - in this case, his community, while delivering mulch with his son's Rangers troop. He has been in the ICU since then. He was originally put into a medically induced coma but he has not yet regained consciousness. His family waits and hopes for a miracle while medical bills are beginning to pile up. Even in the best case scenario, Mike will be unable to work for months and his wife, Khristie, will lose income as she cares for him.
A beloved husband, dedicated dad of four children ages 12 to 21, thoughtful high school English teacher, fantastic coach and a dear friend, Mike is a pillar of the community. He is loved by many and has always given generously of his time, talent, and love to his family, friends, neighborhood, church, and school. At various times throughout any given year, Mike can be found coaching basketball, overseeing debate tournaments, organizing block parties, and volunteering in numerous capacities at church each week.
He always gives so much . . . now we can give back to him and his family and support them in their time of need.
Our goal is fluid as we face the reality of their needs - medical, mortgage, daily expenses - thank you for walking with them through this. We are so overwhelmed with your generous response; every penny helps them focus on Mike instead of financial concerns. ~Thank you!
You before me. And we before I.
That sums up our marriage, and his fatherhood. It was not perfect; we had some disagreements that were real humdingers, but Mike always tried to be better. He apologized. He sought advice. He sacrificed. He always put others before himself (expect for a few playoff games, most recently UVA basketball). He always gave of himself- that was probably the one source of our disagreements- his time to others (I wanted his time), but it also was the source of my immense pride in him and why I loved him so. He set a high bar on how to be a good human being. We loved each other, we completed each other, and that is why it hurts so badly.
Katy, Gabriella, Greg, Becca and I miss him horribly. We cannot believe he is gone. It is the worst thing that could happen and we are living it.
We are trying. We want to be happy and celebrate the blessings that he gave us and the gift that he was. The days are okay; we go about our normal business, but the evenings and nights are hard. Mike was an integral part of our nightly routine- from dinner together every night for 22 plus years, to homework, reading out loud and our litany of prayers. He may have missed some dinners, but never, in all the years I have known him, did he miss nightly prayers.
Katy and Gabriella are back at UVA and trying to finish the semester as best as they can. Katy will graduate on May 21st with her Bachelor of English and continue at UVA for her Master of Education. Gabriella is working on her degree in Engineering. Greg is back at Freedom High School finishing his sophomore year and Rebecca is back at middle school finishing out 7th grade. Mike was so very proud of all our children and was bursting with pride that Katy was on the lawn at UVA. He was looking forward to Katy's graduation in May. He was so giddy with excitement; it was like he was a kid again.
I have headed back to work part time at Freedom High School in the College and Career Center helping students with their post-secondary plans. I am also looking for something more secure to support us.
We have a lot of planning to do still for our future without Mike. We are not sure how it will look, as no one really is certain of the future.
Thank you, thank you, thank you for your support these past two months. We are struggling through our grief and some days are certainly worse than others. The donations, food, cards, flowers, phone calls and visits have given us the reason to get out of bed and live life. Mike would want no less from us, and we do know that. Please continue to pray for me and my children. We will always grieve, but we hope it will lessen as we focus on the blessings of Mike's life, and our lives, more and more. Those blessings include you and we are thankful that you have helped us to lay him to a peaceful rest.
May Mike's soul, and all the souls of the faithfully departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace. Amen.
With overwhelming thanks and love,
Katy, Gabriella, Greg and Becca Greiner
Mike’s Obituary, Katy’s Eulogy, photos and other words have been shared on the Adams-Green website under “Obituaries & Tributes”> “Past Services”> “Michael Greiner.”
On behalf of the Greiner family, thank you for the tremendous outpouring of love and support to the family during this most difficult time in their lives. Your support has come in so many ways – prayers offered for the repose of Mike’s soul and for the family, financial gifts via the GoFundMe site, meals delivered to the family, food and beverages for the reception, Masses offered for Mike, comforting words of support, and shared memories of Mike. Khristie and the children are so very grateful for all that has been done for them. Each day, they face the challenge of working through their sadness and grief, but they are strong in their faith. Khristie will continue work at the local high school as it allows a similar schedule as her younger children and she loves the people and work.
Khristie, while at times overwhelmed, displays great fortitude while tenaciously working to secure a stable future for her family as they approach this new chapter in their lives. She has welcomed a small group to assist and support her, and we have met to offer ideas and understand her needs. This led to a plan of action as we seek to help the family, just as so many of you would be willing to do. The Greiner family has always given so much to others with their time, talents, and treasures, and by sharing this letter we invite you to further help at this sad and difficult time.
In terms of finances, things are okay but could be better. Khristie and Mike have always been disciplined spenders and savers with only a modest home mortgage. Despite Social Security benefits and life insurance, Mike’s passing at a young age poses long-term financial challenges for the family. People have sought to limit family expenses and did not know we would be sharing this with you when they offered. Examples include:
• Fr. Weymes from St. Timothy Parish provided the gravesite at no cost to the family. However, there were other cemetery expenses incurred.
• Duvall Heating & A/C is doing a free visit for the heat/AC and will discount/limit costs.
• Dulles Exxon (Terry Cook, owner) is doing free reviews of the 98, 99 & 03 cars and will discount/limit costs.
• Scott Flanders (Flanders & Wade) is doing a will/trust and other new legal documents at no charge.
The GoFundMe site quickly provided $81,000+ that are a true blessing as some have been already used to cover family expenses due to delays in receipts of other funds. We believe it would be best to attain an additional $40,000-$50,000 based on current/future college expenses, thereby providing about half of what will likely be needed and allow other funds to be used for maintaining the household. (Therefore, we have changed to goal to $130,000.)
Please pray and reflect on your personal financial situation and consider making a second donation. Perhaps you are in a position that you can make a larger gift of $500, $1,000, or more. Maybe you cannot make a financial gift at this time, but you know a family member, friend, co-worker, or fellow churchgoer who you can ask for their support. Finally, consider spreading the word about this GoFundMe campaign to others who knew Mike, Khristie, or the family and ask them to consider a gift of support. We hope you can help achieve this goal of providing Khristie and the kids with financial support to move forward.
Other Ways You Might Help…
• Do you have a good used car that you no longer need and might offer the family in the future?
• Do you have suggestions of specific scholarships that could be applied for to assist with college costs?
• Could you or someone you know at a company provide free/discounted services (home repairs, lawn, etc.)?
• There are still openings on the Sign-Up Genius to bring them meals into June: http://www.signupgenius.com/go/10c0c45a4ab2daa8-meals3
• Do you have other suggestions to offer us? You can email them to: firstname.lastname@example.org
We are sure all of you feel as we do – the sadness of losing and missing Mike is overwhelming some days, and we know that time and prayers will help us to heal. Please join us in praying for peace and comfort for Khristie and the kids as well as Mike’s mom and brothers.
Once again, please be assured of the gratitude of the family for all that you have done and/or continue to do. If you can help the family further, that is also greatly appreciated and we have shared this as some of you have wanted to know what more you could do. We are seeking to complete this funding by May 6th.
With Blessings, Rob Lloyd, Bob Mueller, Kevin O’Malley and Irene Starrs
P.S. We also share a recent reflection on Mike’s life by St. Veronica’s pastor, Rev. Dennis Kleinmann. The Greiners have been very active at the parish since its inception, over 15 years ago.
To see the Pastor’s Column, St. Veronica Catholic Church, Chantilly, Va., April 10, 2016, please click here: http://www.stveronica.net/SiteAssets/Pages/Bulletins/4.10.2016%20St.%20Veronica%20Bulletin.pdf
The visitation will be held on Thursday, March 31 between 6 and 9pm at St. Veronica Catholic Church, 3460 Centreville Road, Chantilly, VA 20151. Please enter through the parish hall to greet his family before continuing on to the main church. There will be a rosary at 7:30 pm.
The funeral Mass will be at 11:00 am on Saturday, April 2, also at St. Veronica's. The burial will follow immediately after the Mass and then a reception will be held in the parish hall from 2:30-4:30 pm. Please park on the parish hall side (to the left as you enter from Centreville Rd) for each of these events.
There is a Sign-Up for food items for the reception here:
Mike's obituary and a wonderful tribute, written by his daughter Katy, can be found here: http://www.adamsgreen.com/book-of-memories/2449925/Greiner-Michael/index.php
Our dear friend, Michael Greiner, has passed into eternal life. Mike's timing is so fitting as we celebrate Easter and the glory of Christ's resurrection. Glory to our good and loving God.
My dear all....I was stunned to learn of Mike's health issues. Know that I keep you all close to my heart and in my prayers. I was Mike's guidance counselor at Madison and work with him some when I subbed at Westfields a number of years ago....Nic...if you have my number please call me...Love to all....Mom Roeder (now Wagaman)
Very sorry to hear about Mike. He was a friend going way back, and he has always been a great guy. My best to the Greiner family.
To the entire Greiner family, no words can heal your pain. But know love and prayers are with your family in this time. From my family to yours, our deepest condolences. Lean on each other and our God in your time of grief.
Continuing to pray for the Greiner family.
Prayers for the Greiner family.
God Bless. Continued prayers for Michael and the whole family. Stunned. If he's still as strong willed and stubborn as I remember, he's not ready to give up the fight. Much love, Stacy Nicky, please give Khristi , the kids, and your Mom a huge hug from me. Give Dic one , too. Tell him my Dad still remembers when the two of you tp'd my house, yard, inside and outside of my car, and especially when you wrote "Stacy, you Boob" on the roof of the house. Major give away.
Kristine - Prayers for you and your family! Angie
Khristie, the Doyle's are praying for Mike, and for you, Greg, Becky, Gaby, and Katy.