FINALLY, ANOTHER UPDATE:
Hey everyone! WOW, has it been a rollercoaster ride! For a month and a half we have been working with a certain bank branch in Charlottesville (who shall remain nameless; it's the branch we have the problem with not the bank itself) who has been giving us the run around, not returning a single phone call, and not doing anything they said they were going/ needing to do. After, a month and a half of non-sense I went to the bank in Winchester, VA and told them everything that was going on. Out of respect she did not say the words "they messed up" but she had no idea why they didn't just do a "donations" account and why they put a hold on it. She did some digging, spoke with the bank we had been dealing with and then went over top of them to the regional manager and took care of the problem in literally 4 days. She unfroze the account, and ended up not even having to make it a donations account, she left it as "Lydia's Account" and now once we get our Bank Card WE WILL GET TO PAY THE BILLS!!!! I can't believe it! So far it is looking like we will have enough to cover all the bills or at least thus far. Lydia has twice as many doctors' appointments then other babies her age and I know at some point someone will be out to check her development and see how she's coming along but by that point we will be able to afford all the cost on our own thanks to all of you! I just can't wait till we have the current debt off our back, It been stressing me out! Now, for more good news! Lydia is doing amazing! Her hair is really starting to come back now; thick, brown and beautiful! She is always smiling and/or eating, and has really started to enjoy keeping her mommy and daddy up at nights! I like to say she does that because she just LOVES spending time with us! LOL Now, we also have some giant updates: While we were in the hospital it really showed us how important it was to get back home with our family and friends in Charlottesville, but even I didn't know it would happen this fast. A job opened up in Culpeper working for my same company and same job. I applied, got it and have now been here for 2 weeks! (PS I LOVE LOVE LOVE IT HERE IN THE NEW OFFICE! I am the happiest I have ever been!) Our house is currently on the market (hopefully it will sell fast!) and my hubby officially is unemployed starting today and will be home with the girls until we find a daycare and a job for him. So if you know of any openings, feel free to let us know! Even though this will not be our ideal setting, it will be getting us steps closer to our dreams of owning a house near all of our friends and family ïŠ We couldn't have gone through this whole Lydia ordeal without all of you guys and I can't imagine a better place to be then with family and friends!
Now you are updated on everything! It's been an eventful 3 months but our dreams are coming true! Thank you everyone for all your support, love, donations, help, hugs, kisses, messages "¦..EVERTHING! I love you all so very much! You mean the world to us. Thank you for being you!
UPDATE: First let me start by saying... LYDIA is doing great! She is keeping up with all the other babies her age and the doctor said she is doing remarkably well for what she has been through. THATS MY GIRL! Now, for the not so pleasant news... Lydia's Bank Account: We started up a bank account for sweet Lydia while we were in the hospital and from the getgo told them what it was for and our situation. Everything from this wonderful site has gone into that account as well as every check, cash and even the money that was given to Kyle and I instead of Lydia (we wouldn't have felt right if we put that in our account even though it was intended for us). But because we put cash & checks into the account and it wasn't just the money coming from the gofundme site, the bank froze Lydia's account. This happened about a month ago and we can no longer put money in or take it out (which we haven't taken any out yet cause we are waiting to get all our bills and take care of it all at once) On the plus side, they Froze the account cause you all raised so much money that we literally have to start a trust! On the down side, there are still checks we need to deposit in her account and can't b/c its frozen so if your check has not cleared yet. I am so sorry! That is why! I don't feel comfortable putting it in our account either, It should be in Lydia's. So now, we are told we have to get a lawyer and create a trust so the IRS wont come after us. If they get our bank records and see this money sitting in there they may think we have a side business or something and tax us on all of it. So we need to prove that it was all donated. Also if you guys want to claim it on your taxes that you donated to us then we would need to show that we did infact recieve donations (something like that). Anyways, I was a little angry at first because how do they expect us to pay a lawyer when obviously we are worried about Lydia's hospital bills. The bank has been so great working with us on this and are talking to their lawyers to see if we can just do a written statement stating what this money is going to be used for instead of a full blown trust cause apparently that is a bit process to go through! I don't know how long this is going to take but I really am sorry that the checks are not processed yet and I will do it as soon as the account is unfrozen. Also, our bills are starting to roll in now and I am worried that we are going to get past due notices and delinquent accounts so I will try and hurry them up. I don't want our good credit to get ruined! So, I hope this gets taken care of very soon. Again I am really sorry for the inconvience this causes some of you! And we appreciate all that you have done for us! Hopefully at the end of this we will have physical proof to show just where your dollars have gone to. Its normal for people to say "I wonder what they did with all that money" and this will show it all went to our sweet angel, Lydia. Thank you again again again and again! You all mean the world to us.
UPDATE, Kind-of: The holiday's were amazing thanks to all of you! So many of you and others, even ones we don't even know, sent gifts to Lydia and Caroline for Christmas, whether it was a donation or something they could physcially open. Caroline even got everything she wanted for the holidays and she so deserved it because I know this whole ordeal was hard on her. We are back into the swing of things here in Winchester, VA, for the most part. I cleaned the house from head to toe multiple times and have become a hand sanitizer freek! But I am sure Lydia is okay with that. Lydia has been a super happy baby even though she is currently sick with a bad cold. On New Years Day we took her to the Medexpress to have her checked out cause she was running a fever and was really fussy. (everything makes me nervous now!) After being there for only about 15 minutes the doctor recommended we got to UVA emergency room because he was worried she was having trouble breathing and her chest sounded really bad. THAT MADE US NERVOUS but we knew we would be in good hands when we got there. Once we arrived we gave them our medexpress paperwork and they took us back right away. We had a resident named, Brock, who actually was with us during the whole botulism bonanza, so he knew us and Lydia really well. He did his work on her and come to find out, she just had a cold. Nothing tylenol, saline and the nose sucker wont fix! He said, sometimes the medexpress doctors dont feel comfortable working with newborns so they sometimes send them to UVA for a second look. Anyways, I am just glad the outcome was okay on that one, You never know with Ms. Lydia. Now, at this very moment, Lydia is a happy, bouncing baby even with this the stuffy nose, watery eyes, and bad cough. This child amazes me more and more everyday! She has truly inspired me to be a better me; to be brave, keep on smiling, and to hold family close. This inspiration is a great way to start off the new year. We have had time to really sit back an evaluated what matters to us most and my husband and I have realized just how important it is for us to be near our family and friends. I don't know what we would have done if we didnt have all them around during this trying time. It has showed us how important it is for us to work on moving back home to have the kids closer to the people who mean so much to us. This is our goal for 2014! 2014 IS OUR YEAR! Please continue to pray for us and pray for Lydia. Thank you 2013 for showing us what matters most. Our hearts are leading us home...
Hey Everyone! TOMORROW IS CHRISTMAS EVE!!!!!! We are so excited in the Bywaters Household! Today Lydia had her first outing to the dentist office with mommy! She smiled and laughed as I got a molding done of my teeth. She was making me laugh and I was making her laugh. The joys of life! After that we came back home and put pictures in frames which hopefully I will be able to hang on the walls tonight before Santa and company get here! Speaking of Santa, Today when Caroline got home, we wrote a letter to Santa. It reads:
I want pink Bike, I want Pink Boots, I want Dora. Please. Hi Rudolf! Hi Santa!
I asked Lydia if she wanted to write a note to Santa and she just smiled at me, so I figured that was her way of politely telling me "No, Thank you". After we wrote the letter we put it in our mail box. We are hoping tomorrow there will be a letter in the mailbox for Caroline from Santa since Santa mail works pretty fast! Anywho, I am super anxious for Christmas! I have never wanted it to be Christmas Eve so bad in my life. I want to see the look on my babies face when she sees the presents under the tree and I can't wait for our parents to come spend Christmas day with all of us. Its truly a Special Year in more ways then one!
There are still kids in the hospital for Christmas soone thing I would like to ask all of you is to pleeeeease pray for those Children! I hope every one of them has a miracle and enjoys their special holiday! It still breaks my heart thinking of all the childern suffering from health problems and their parents that may not be able to hold their babies for Christmas. I pray for all of them! As Always, so much love from our family to yours!
Yesterday Lydia had her first doctors appointment here in Winchester,VA! I can't believe I forgot to tell you all about it! IT WENT GREAT! So far it looks like she is meeting all her milestones. Lydia is pretty well known now at Selma Medical Center because they havent had a case of botulism in 5 years and alot of those doctors have not had a baby with it at all. They were so happy to see Lydia so healthy and happy. The only downside of the visit was that Lydia can not get any vaccine for 9 months which worries me a bit. If she can't be Vaccinated then she will have to avoid sick kids big time and that is hard when she has to go back to daycare on January 13. Hopefully becuase I am still breastfeeding her, maybe that will keep her on the healthier side! Other then that, yesterday was an amazing day. We cleaned the house, finished up last minute decorations and made cupcakes for Caroline's Christmas party at daycare.
Today Caroline brought her cupcakes in and at this very moment they are having their Christmas party. I know she is having a blast! She loves everything Christmas! As for Kyle, he is running some errands and Lydia and I are hopefully going to do some laundry, dishes, unpack our suitcases (finally!) and wrap one last present for Caroline! It will be a very productive day :)
Hey Everyone! We are HOME in Winchester, VA now. We got home and the first thing we did was clean out the fridge becuase so much had gone bad. We made a list of all the things we needed to pick up from the grocery store and literally at that moment I recieved a text from one of my friends who works at Caroline's Daycare and is also my neighbor and she told us NOT to go grocery shopping. Apparently while we were gone, the Church/Daycare had a food drive for us. She literally brought 4 LARGE LARGE boxes of food including almost everything we had on our list. Its so hard to believe that they did this for US! our family! ahhh! On top of that, we dropped Caroline at daycare and Mrs. Dorothy (the daycare director) pulled us aside and gave us gifts for Caroline that her classmates got for her along with a box of money that people donated to us! I couldn't believe it! I really couldnt! Kyle & I are so beyond thankful. I just can't believe what everyone has done this for little ol us! We are no one special! We are just Geraldine, Kyle, Caroline and Lydia! A family who had a sick baby. So many have taken us under their wing and helped us make this a special Christmas and New Year for our girls and even us! This is going to be a year to remember! Instead of remember the bad I am going to remember the good and remember each and every one of you. When I look back at this and share it with the girls, I am going to share with them the kindness of people and that it truly took a village to raise them. Gosh, Everyone! Thank you for choosing to bless us! Thank you for taking us in and loving my family and especially my littlest girl. Thank you for your prayers cause I swear thats the only way we have made it out of the hospital in 16 days! Thank you for donations! Thank you for your time! Thank you for being you! We love you and always will.
Reality is hitting hard. Just spoke to my boss who made me aware that I would be getting my first $0.00 pay check for the past two weeks. My husband has not been getting paid since lydias been in the hospital either. In 2 weeks I will be getting paid because I will be using up all my vacation time that I had set for the first of the new year. After I use that up then I will be back to not getting paid. Ugh not a good start to 2014 but we will be just as strong as Lydia and get through this too. We really appreciate all the help we have recieved and continue to recieve. Having this go to Lydias hospital bills are going to be such a relief! I'm so nervous about that bill but at least we can Handle a chunk of it thanks to all of u! Please continue to pray and any advice would be so great! So much love to all of you!
We are literally on our way to mimi and papas house To surprise Caroline, our 3 year old daughter! My emotions are out the roof! This morning we had no idea we would be leaving today! Ahhhhhhhhhhhhh I'm so happy! She still has some healing to do but by January 13th (the day after my birthday) she will be ready to go back to daycare! This is going to be a very special christmas, new year and birthday this year! I love u all so much and I thank u for everything. I am so thankful for the wonderful staff at UVA. they are life savers and truly amazing. Thank u to everyone at UVA PICU especially for watching over my baby 24 hours a day. U are amazing people! So much love to all
On Saturday November 30th, 2013 Lydia Denise Bywaters was admitted to the University of Virginia Pediatric Intensive Care Unit. She was diagnosed with a rare case of infant botulism. The UVA medical staff had to fly in medications from California to treat this rare illness which alone cost $45, 000. Kyle and Geraldine Bywaters (Lydia's parents) are going to be facing a tough road ahead with medical bills and caring for Lydia during her difficult and trying recovery. They are asking for your help and donations. Every little bit will help and go towards paying for Lydia's medical expenses. Thank you in advance for all your support and concern during this difficult time. We will be posting updates as progress is made. We appreciate and love all of you!
All my best to you, Kyle, Caroline and Lydia. So sorry this happened but so glad she is doing better now. :-)
Merry Christmas to you and yours and hoping for a wonderful New Year for you and your family.