Family Home is Now Sold
Claudia has spent her life helping others. As her youngest daughter, I have witnessed some of the nicest things come from my mother. A local family with seven children relied on my mom to help them go to doctor appointments, attend school, go to the store for food and clothes, and so much more including handling their funds to help them situated for their life together. Other families in the area knew they could come to her as well, including many of our friends.
Claudia’s taken in people to live at our house in times of need, including one friend who was so bad off that she was almost put into a group home. My mother was able to get her help with medical to the point that a year after she moved into our house, she was given keys to her own home and was able to live and function on her own. Claudia worked at group homes before helping people daily until she lost her job due to her own medical disability, multiple sclerosis. She has one of the kindest hearts, and has even helped strangers who she could tell was in need. Now she needs help, and we’re alone.
In the beginning of 2014, Claudia’s aunt, Esther, passed away from cancer. This left Claudia with two homes. While we have wanted to keep the house that we’re in, the family home for multiple generations, the payments on the house were higher than my dad could really afford with his job. Though giving up the house would put my sister and I out on the street. While both of us are working to get our own place, my sister is recovering from a broken neck and I was hit with a bad electric shock in 2004 getting severe nerve damage, leaving me permanently disabled with Reflex Sympathetic Dystrophy Syndrome.
Through the year, we have been trying to make things right. Working on trying to find a home for my sister and I, while my mom and dad have looked to moving into a much smaller location. A new problem arrived, as a cough hit both my mom and dad that started not long after moving in to take care of Claudia’s aunt. This cough is so bad that it will not go away, keeping them awake at night, and the doctors going in circles on what could be causing this severe cough.
My dad has returned to work, but his health has not returned since the surgery. He is weak and may not be able to continue working much longer before his retirement can kick in. My mother’s health is worse than it ever has been, and her knees are so bad that she’s looking at knee replacement.
In August, the Michigan Flood happened, causing us to lose so much in our family home. The basement was completely flooded. There were 5 curb loads of trash and 3 weeks of non-stop cleaning for me to help my parents. We lost a lot of family photos, home movies and furniture during this flood. Mold set into our basement tile floor, you can smell it throughout the house. While FEMA helped with furnace, water heater and sump pump and we had a few crews volunteer to help clean our basement, no one would pull up the bad tiles which the mold is trapped under.
The house that we’re losing was bought brand new on May 18th, 1948 by Claudia’s mother and father, she was born in 1950. She grew up there, with her brother. While growing up, I would visit that house often as I was very close to my grandparents. We lost my Grandpa in 1996 and my Grandma in 2003. My mother moved back to her folks house in late 2002 to take care of her mother. I moved in 2003, as we started to build an addition onto the back of the house so we could all be there for my grandmother. In 2010, my brother moved into the house with his wife and three children. He has since moved to another state to be closer to his wife’s family. Our house has had four generations of our family living within it. In all reality, we do not want to lose this house.
David has worked for years at a factory and has done many side jobs. In the 1970’s and 1980’s he was the Art Director for a Horror Host TV show called “The Ghoul Show” and in recent years he worked on “Wolfman Mac’s Chiller Drive In”. Both of these series were not paying jobs, as he did the work for experience and passion. He’s also worked on building props for haunted houses and has made costumes for many years. His work has entertained and touched the life of many.
David is due to retire soon, though the house payments remain too high for him. His health has us worried, as he needs rest and deserves the chance to retire, which is the only reason they are looking to move into this senior park that Aunt Esther lived in. The idea of losing the family home has been a big depression upon my mother, though we have not seen any answer that could save us. As we backed ourselves into a bad corner in 2003.
The addition to the back of the house cost a lot, and the company that was doing it never finished the job. We had to get rid of our old house at that time, and so my dad wanted it to look nice for the new owners and spent a lot to fix it up with new floors, furnace and so much more. We still owed on the house, but thought that it would sell well. When he finished fixing up the house, the market crashed and we lost money on the sale instead of being able to pay it off. It ended up adding to the money we still owed to our current mortgage on the family home.
Claudia has been trying hard to find a way to save the family home. Making payments on the house every month and rent at the new place. Though money has ran out, and this January 2015 is the first time that we do not have the money to make the house payment. I have been watching my mom break all year long, and want nothing more for my folks than to be able to live in the home they want without being weighed down by stress. Their health is already taking a toll on us all, and with how much good they have done for those around, I hope that there can be a time where money problems could disappear.
With the money raised here we will put it towards helping Claudia and David. What I would really love is to save the family home, which is what the goal is set at. Though if we can’t raise enough for that, we will pay for movers to help us get the stuff out of the house and into storage. We need the movers, since my mother, father and I are handicapped and have barely made a dent on getting stuff out of the house, with all the hours we’ve spent there. And put advance payments on the storage, so that it can help take some stress off till the house is no longer with us. If we raise over the goal amount, it will go towards fixing up the family home for them, such as finishing the addition which has sat undone for over 11 years.
I am reaching out asking for help for my mother and father. Hoping that together we can make my mom’s dream of keeping the family home come true.
Thanks in advance for anyone decides to help!
I have been sitting on any updates with the house, because for a while we did not know where it would be going. After the GoFundMe started, I felt there was a chance. The donations through GoFundMe went straight into my folks account, which went from there into ways to help with the house. We shouldn’t have put so much of it down into the Principal right away. As it would’ve been nice to have had that money to keep up with the payments instead. We had a friend try to buy the house, though that fell through which only made it take longer before we got the house onto the market. The stress over the house this year alone, has taken it’s toll on both of my parents.
This month the house has officially been sold, and is no longer a part of our family. It feels like it took a long time to come to this point. And because we were going for a short sale, and trying to work things out with lawyers, I did not feel I could give updates on things until things were sorted out. I am hoping that with the house sold, the stress will be lifted from my parents.
I want to send out a huge Thank You to everyone who took part in trying to help my folks during that rough time. Every bit of the donations lifted some of the stress. I still remember crying when we reached $20,000, getting to tell my mom that we had some real help. She broke down crying to me too. I tried to send out personal Thanks to everyone who donated, but truthfully I can never express how thankful I really am.
The next goal is to get a house in California. We’re hoping to do so by Christmas, as we’ve been looking over the details for some time now. I want to see my family with a real home again, that’s my real goal.
Thanks again everyone! I wish the last post here was that we were able to save the house. Maybe I’ll do one more post to update when we have a new home so it’s a happy ending. Until then, best wishes everyone.
Life has been a lot of stress these last few months. I know I have not updated here on gofundme in a while, though that comes from just stress and being too busy. It’s not easy to ask for help. Life is not getting easier, as we have been working to empty the family house. We have two storage lockers in which our family items are going, one filled with the furniture we don’t want to get rid of from my Grandma, Grandpa, Aunt, and ours. The other filled with boxes. Though the house is still not empty as we return and spend many hours a day just boxing things. The mobile home is already filled to the brim, yet we still bring things here,a place too small for four adults and pets.
Here are some updates on why things are remaining rough for us. With the bit of money raised previously, we put half down towards the principle of the mortgage. Other money was used to try and start fixing problems with the house like the furnace needing to be replaced. My brother was brought out to help get rid of the floor in the basement since he’s trained to remove some stuff that the volunteers who came could not remove.
During the last week of my brother being in town we all pushed hard at getting stuff out of the house. We had a UHaul truck, for four days. Filled it with boxes and furniture bringing it to the storage locker.
While I wish I could say it was that easy, there wasn’t many of us working so I was often alone at the storage locker. I have bad nerve damage, which hit me very hard that week trying to work. Everything was thrown in the storage lockers as a mess at the time, just to get things in there and locked down. At the same time I was going through my pain, my mother went through a really bad spasm from her MS. This took out her left arm. She could not lift her arm from the shoulder or move it from there at all. She could move her hand and things down at the elbow.
For my brother’s return home to Vermont, he got a ride from my mom and dad. This was a chance for my mom to get a break from working for her arm and so they could see their grandchildren that they have not seen in two years. They would be there for my niece’s birthday, but none of us could have foreseen the car breaking down once they got to Vermont. Trapping my mom and dad out there for two weeks.
Once they returned, my dad’s breathing was still acting up and my mom’s shoulder was still out. My mom went to the doctors about her shoulder and got admitted into the hospital to find out what’s wrong with her. During the time she was in the hospital, my sister had to call 911 because my dad could not breath in the middle of the night. Scary times, both mom and dad were in two different hospitals. I was out of town at the moment trying to get work done for my website to not lose hope of a future. Miki was alone, dealing with this very stressful time.
We realize we can’t keep the house now, it’s just very clear that there is no saving it. With all of the problems from the car breaking down, hospital runs, and double bills we’re still in the hole. Now we are working to empty the house to just try and live. We need to be down to only one place. The house is almost empty, we hope to have it cleared out by June and start looking into cutting down to one place.
We have not been able to do a house payment for April or May, making it two months behind in payments. My mom is trying to figure out how to raise the $2,200 to pay those two months. We also are behind in our gas bills for the last two months at both locations. We’re okay with the gas being off at the family house as no one is living there, but that has just put where we’re currently living out of gas. Which means no hot water, no showers, and no oven for cooking. Basically trapped in a bad spot all around. We need around $500 to get that turned back on.
Thanks to Gofundme, we have greatly reduced the amount of how much was owed on the house. We’ve been able to make it so there’s heat/air in the house for working in there and getting our stuff out. We were able to get a moving truck to move things into the storage unit. We’re waiting on a refund from AAA for some of the stuff from when my folks were broken down in Vermont. Money from that will help, though we’re not sure how long it’ll be before we see that. And at this point, we will not see any gas in our home for another 2 weeks or longer.
This is why I’m asking here to see if we can wake this up and try to get some help. Even a little, to put towards getting the gas turned back on. The stress levels are very high, as well as depression right now. I want my dad to be able to retire and now that we’re getting rid of the family home, as much as I wanted to save it. I would like for my folks to relocate out to California with my sister and I, so that they’re not alone here in Michigan. Though all of that is down the road, first we need to save the folks from drowning due to a house that we can’t afford to keep.
Good news on my mom’s arm, they found that it was a pinched nerve and she’s in therapy. Her arm is not back to normal, though she is able to move it now. My dad still has breathing attacks daily, though we’ve been working on ways to help him without running to the hospital.
Thanks to anyone who read this through! If anyone can help us a little, I couldn’t be more thankful! I just want to see my family able to breath with all the work we’re doing all the pain we’re in.
A huge thanks to everyone who has helped us so far! Things could be much worse, and we realize this. So thank you to the kind hearted people who got us here!
Sharing some more updates on how things are going. January and February's house payments are made to try and save the house. We put a big chunk down with February's payment, and have put some money aside for future payments to keep this going.
We just had another push to get back into the house because of Health today as David was gasping for air this morning. Claudia had to bring him into the ER, they were able to clear him up so he could breath. The problem being the mold at the location they're staying now. They want him to wear a mask when ever he's home, to help prevent this from happening again.
Big problem is there is mold at both places, the house because of the Flood. And the small place they're staying now. So Claudia called around to try and get help testing for Mold. She found someone who will help at the Family House, but said the other location is pointless because of how many things in there would be causing the mold.
This has cause an even bigger push to get the Family home paid off and fixed so that they can move back in. I am truly worried about my father's health and wish that he could just breath easier. We are doing everything in our power to find away to get things fixed.
While the house is saved right now, we're a long way off from the goal to where they can move back in without fear of loosing the house for good. With putting work into art shows, and looking to raise money in other ways we still ask that if anyone can help or even just share this story, it can bring us closer to the goal.
I can't express enough thanks to all who have helped. And I do promise that if this gets fully funded, I will pay it forward. Making a donation towards other Gofundme accounts each month. Helping lower stress from one family to the next.
I'll like to share a quote now that sits in front of me on a poster... to know even during these tough times there's still positive thinking.
"The way I see it, every life is a pile of good things and... bad things. The good things don't always soften the bad things, but vice versa, the bad things don't necessarily spoil the good things or make them unimportant" - The Doctor "Doctor Who"
With the money received we're going to do a large payment towards the balance of the house, and keep some money in a saving account to keep paying the monthly bill.
We are 10% into our goal now. We're also working on other ways to come up with funds. We will keep everyone informed every step of the way.
I can not express the amount of stress that this has relieved from my family and I. We're so Thankful to everyone who's pitched in to help us. If fully funded I will pay it forward here on gofundme to help others reach their goal. To help others get some relief from the stresses that hold them down.
Thank you again for everything! Please keep sharing this story and together we may be able to make my folks dream a reality!
My daughter has opened this gofundme account, trying to save our family home. True we are going through rough times, and actually have been struggling for over 15 years now. My married life money wise has never been what one would call rich, even though both my husband and I have tried very hard......but I am so so rich memory wise. My family and I have had a life like no other that I know of. My concerns is the toll this stress is doing to my husband's health. I almost lost this very talented intelligent man a year ago and that has scared me so bad. I am afraid of losing him. Dave Ivey is an artist in the Detroit Area. Even though he has created some fantastic stuff, he had to work in a factory, like many others, for an income. Many know my husband, through his work. He was the Art Director for the Ghoul Show and also for Wolfman Mac. Not just for his art, but for his talent in acting too. But those kind of shows, even though have a big following is all done volunteerly, unlike other media, they are unpaid. But my husband was in hope of someone seeing his work. Well actually it was seen, his idea was taken from one of his cartoons that was aired and a lot of money made from it, we even were told by someone that was connected to that, verified it. But so much time has gone by, and at the time we had no proof, we didn't know what to do. But that has been the way it is. We won so many costume contest in our past that has blessed us with travel and able to give our children, when they were young great Christmases, and get caught up with our bills and buy our medicine. Dave always had to work extra, so we could just get by. I worked too, but having MS, I had a hard time keeping my jobs, because of yearly physicals that was needed for my job.....if any sign of a flare up during that physical, well then good by job. So ended up getting disability. Because we needed help. My parents bought that house new in 1948 and yes, they had it paid off long ago. But in the year 2001 I had to move in and take care of my mom, who got pancreaus cancer. A year after her big surgery, in 2002, the doctor said she was cancer free. I had lost my dad in 1996. A month later I almost lost my mom again. Another kind of surgery had to save her that time, but then more cancer was found. Having MS, I wasn't able to keep up two different places. And my husband would go to my mom's after work to have dinner with us. So we decided to add to my mom's house, with an addition we could afford. We signed papers to have the addition in hopes of selling our other house, in March 2003, if I knew my mom was going to die on the day that company started building the addition in August, I wouldn't have gone that route. Then it took us years to sell our other house, the market crashed. Dave had a heart attack and had stints put in his main artery right before we finally sold our house in 2006. We struggled trying to make two house payments during that time. We sold the house for a lot less then what we owed. What wasn't paid off to the morgager was tagged on to my mom's house, over doubling the amount what we were paying each month, $600 house payments jumped to over $1500 a month. The addition never got finished, we couldn't afford that. Forget holidays, and even medicine at times, because we just didn't have it. If we went on a trip, it was one we would win, from costumes. but with bad health, those kind of memories were more from the 1990's, our lives changed in the 2000. I tried not to show my worry to the out side world. Dave feared that he wouldn't be able to retire. Then my Aunt died and I got her mobile home, we couldn't afford rent too. So we thought move there. Rent was cheaper, and let the house go. Now when I found out my Aunt had cancer, my husband has a major heart attack again, but now he had to have an emergency triple by pass. When they got out of the hospital, I put my Aunt up in her room and my husband in a hospital bed in the back room. Several months we have nurses going in and out, some for Dave and others for my Aunt, then hospice for my Aunt, and then I lose her. She was my last family member I had grew up with, I was the last one left, Thank God I married Dave and had my own family. It was one thing after another. It wasn't just my husband and I living in my family home, but my daughters too, and that would leave them homeless. I did a lot of work in my family home, I tiled our new handicapp bathroom, it was made so I could work in it, I put the laundry room next to the bedroom and it has a lot more there, but it is drowning us. But then we learned that my Aunt's place, Dave can't breath in there, it is causing many hospital runs, because he can't breath. I wrote a book in hopes for saving the day.....but I don't have anyone to edit it, I am very dyslexic. It isn't that we hadn'
I wish you and your family the best of luck! I know the house means the world to you guys and it would be so much easier on your folks to be able to live in that house. Much love to you all, my friends.