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This is going to be a long one, and taking all of my pride, along with pushing my ego aside.
Starting 10/18 justin cleared out my bank account the night before kylies homecoming, and the boys games in belvidere. 11/15 I got a call from kylies school I needed to come ASAP as she needed a mental health evaluation. Due to something most dumb teenagers do, she snuck out on 3/31/18, let's just say the kids/boys pushed limits after the word NO was clearly stated. This started a whole line of bullying calling her a whore, liar, slut, easy etc. She was told to kill herself no one liked her, and some other tremendous things. We went to the school, the police we did everything. We made it public the bullying, the MULTIPLE POLICE REPORTS, CALLS WITH DEANS, EVAN AND ORDER OF PROTECTION, ETC. Well it came to a point she truly didnt want to live. I never drove so fast in my life, and we went straight to sherman as directed. From sherman to st Joe's they were full. Started heading to stream wood she read me the reviews we turned around came home. Everyday I called hospital after hospital, facility after facility, did evaluation after evaluation for over 6 weeks. Answers we got were no openings, no juveniles, we dont take your insurance. Finally in December we were blessed by Central Dupage where they took her in within 24hrs. For 6 weeks I drove back and forth to and from an hour each way. Meaning extra gas money, wear and tear on the car, late starts to work, leaving early from work, but every moment was worth my child's life.
Just as we finished that hurdle i lost my father. I carried so much anger, guilt, hurt, jealously, and so many emotions I didnt understand and still dont. I took 2 days to recover from the shock of it all. Went back to work and 3/15/19 Kylie lost a friend since she was 3yrs old in a tragic car accident. I cant even begin to tell you how that impacted our family as a whole, and still does. There went several days of work grieving and consoling kylie, she was devastated and completely shut down. I was so scared with everything we were slowly recovering from 12/2018-2/2019.
April 6, 2019 I found a small bump thought maybe a pimple, ingrown hair nothing really. Started growing daily and becoming super painful. During this time Kylie learned that someone she had befriended during her time at CDH was discharged and committed suicide in a violent manner, why? because kids are ruthless and they continued to bully him. A kid you would NEVER expect, super popular, funny, smart, athletic, and just what we would classify as "the popular one". The day of his service 4/8/19 my bump was the size of a tangerine. I couldnt take the pain anymore, so kylie by my side we went to sherman where they lanced it. I felt every incision, every squeeze, and all the packing of the wound. I screamed like I have never screamed before in pain. I took kylie to Brennan's service hiding my er procedure cause it was kinda embarrassing. Within 12 hours I woke from a dead sleep in agonizing pain, I had to wake Evan explain it all and have him check the area. Let's just say my whole right butt cheek was red and inflamed. Straight to the ER we went, I was admitted for a ragging infection and taken into emerg surgery. Missed about a week of work during that hospital stay, also learning it was MRSA positive. I was given so many antibiotics I couldnt even move my arm anymore. Came home for a couple days went back to work against drs orders. Developed around 5 more abcess's. Back to the er, they said no big deal they were micro abcess's. Within a few hours of discharge I seen my surgeon and she stated "theres nothing micro about these they are ready to rupture" this was a monday she scheduled me for surgery on thursday with us both knowing i wasnt going to make it. Went to work anyways on tuesday low and behold one ruptured at a house. I completed the house came home, and back to the er was admitted and taken in for a second emerg surgery. Yep u guessed it more time off of work, falling further and further in the whole. I focused on feeding the kids and what little rent I could pay, going back to work everytime against dr's orders. Why? Because I have 4 kids to support, feed, cloth, and expenses of just surviving. Not even 48hrs 2 more abcess's this time I went to St Joe's as I felt huntley was missing something. I also had cellulitis in several locations from multiple iv attempts blood draws etc. I was very very very sick. They admitted me for 5 days, I had a team of dr's including infectious disease finally on board. Yeah huntley never contacted them. I had MRSA the bad MRSA the kind ICU patients get. From where? How? Dont know still dont know. I got one on my back, then armpit, face, and ear. No one could figure it out so went to Luthern General waited 9hours to be seen. They heard all I had been thru, and then the ER dr made a diagnosis of Hidradenitis suppurativa (HS). Anyone who has this knows how extremly painful this disease is, the following day I got a call from my dr that my abcess on my face tested MRSA positive again, over a month later(May). More antibotics, more time off work, more oozing ruptured sores/abcess's. I lost many clients because, either I was MRSA positive (1 in 3 people are carriers, it's on 90% of our produce, its everywhere) or because I was undependable/unreliable. I understood and understand currently. I was sick and still am, every nasal swab comes back negative, and any wound comes back positive. I dont have answers still, and I am desperately trying/seeking them out, which means traveling to the city and lots of dr appts.
Well I havent had any abcess's since july, and then developed 2, they ruptured at home and I refused any more hospitals. Then my new dr said no more pain meds since 2016 I have had neck and back surgery. I suffer from degenerative spinal disease, spinal stenosis, scoliosis, arthritis, neuropathy, and a bunch of.truly painful shit!!!!! The new answer was a medication I was highly allergic to, and highly addictive. This med was NOT covered by insurance cost $77 a week, I had to rapid detox off the med and cold Turkey'd it.
Then I feel down 2 stairs, lost control of my bladder completely. Went to sherman and thr dr literally asked me "what do you want me to do?" (Same dr who cut me open and almost killed me april 8th) I replied " I didn't go to medical school for 12 f**king years, you did" anyways I had to google everything, then page the dr back and honestly tell him how to treat me, he atleast listened. So I called my primary she stated I need a trama 1 ER stat, luthern general or Rockford I choose luthern general. HUGE mistake, I was literally treated like a junkie off the streets looking for pain meds, then the dr seen me and admitted me and kept me very heavily medicated because low and behold I pinched my spinal cord. I hit the nerve cluster that controlled my bladder, I had to be put under general anesthesia just for a mri, to find out I pinched my spinal cord. I had to have an emerg procedure to cut the lower portion of my tethered spinal cord. The mri revealed I have effacement of my spinal cord C4-C5 (thinning) I have an edema T12 (fluid pocket that could potentially be infectious but are not touching at this time as it can do more harm.right now) and some crap with my S1-S3.
More surgeries, no injections as I am to prone to infections at this time. My primary prescribed me a med that literally almost killed me yet again. I came home from luthern general for a day and half and collapsed, kids called 911 and was taken by ambulance. I havent even healed from fall 1 and had fall 2. I have NO pain management at this time (thank u to the government and FDA, suicide is up 20% in patients who suffer from chronic pain, and the amount turning to the street pharmacy is steadily rising, along with overdoses. I understand this in a whole nother level now).
So after a very long story of what caused me to fall so far behind, with still no real answers just increase my current meds soooooo gabapentin(maxed out at now fully at 3600mg a day), then decided I need to be on anti depressants to tell my brain theres no pain (this one still boggles me) and come back in 30days. Do not return to work, LOL funny I went back today. I fell almost 7 months behind on everything. I have cut out everything I possibly can. Rent, utilities, minimal groceries, and internet because I cant exactly sit in parking lots every night for kids to do homework. I technically should of been evicted tomorrow at 11:59pm, however I have busted ass along with Evan, and kids when they could to bring us close to current on everything. I am 2100 short on rent. My oh so gracious landlord gave me a 14 day extension but that's its. Been signed by him, the judge and myself 2100 by 10/15 or we are homeless at 11:59pm, and I have to pay the water/garbage/sewer etc bill in full also for a grand total of $3000.00
I am working this week, sadly i only have 7 clients and 1 next week. The food pantry will be our only source for the bare basics providing i can coordinate that with working. I truly never try to ask for anything because i am a prideful person. I try not to innconvience anyone, but this isnt about me right now this is about my kids. So please if you can help I truly appreciate it, if you cant please just share the crap out of this post. Single mom life is hard BTW ronnie moved from CA to FL, I only know this because he had his wife message kylie "now that your driving your dad said you can come visit and the drive is shorter too"
Shes NOT driving, nor does she want to at this time, because of danielle. Let alone NO sane parent would allow thier 16yr old child to drive solo from IL to FL, and a truly responsible parent would know his 16yr old.daughter doesnt have a drivers license, hasnt been in school since 11/15/18, and would attempt to pay his whole.whopping 135 a week. Instead I was able to get an interstate approval for child support, meaning CA was taking over my IL case. I truly believe they found him and his answer was to flee from one coast to the next. I cant tell you how many countless pics we see of him and his "new family" at all types of sporting events, going on vacations, and living the good life. We ate eggs for dinner I have a sick child, and very sick me.
So I have no answers, a long road of recovery, no pain management or control, and I will be at work yet again every day I can stay out of a hospital fighting my way to my $3000 goal by the 15th. Fighting daily to keep my kids safe, happy, healthy, feed, clothed, and sheltered.
So again it's taken so much to.write this for everyone to know my life is in complete shambles and on the verge of truly.loosing everything and living out of my car or shelters. For those of you who have children that know mine I PRAY YOU SAY NOT A WORD OF THIS TO THEM, I ALMOST LOST 1 CHILD TO BEING BULLIED, I DO NOT WANT TO HAVE ANYMORE BULLIED OR TEASED!!!!
Grace is already going thru hell because her cell phone is broken (really shut off and broken) and she broke down to me today. BTW can we stop raising mean kids please???
Thanks for taking the time to read this, there is more that I didn't include, but I included all the major things that caused this situation. I wish i could say we blew money and enjoyed something to put us in this position, but I cant even say we have done that.
If anything just share share share share please. Maybe just by the grace of god this will be possible. Again thank you so much.
The Flint Family
Starting 10/18 justin cleared out my bank account the night before kylies homecoming, and the boys games in belvidere. 11/15 I got a call from kylies school I needed to come ASAP as she needed a mental health evaluation. Due to something most dumb teenagers do, she snuck out on 3/31/18, let's just say the kids/boys pushed limits after the word NO was clearly stated. This started a whole line of bullying calling her a whore, liar, slut, easy etc. She was told to kill herself no one liked her, and some other tremendous things. We went to the school, the police we did everything. We made it public the bullying, the MULTIPLE POLICE REPORTS, CALLS WITH DEANS, EVAN AND ORDER OF PROTECTION, ETC. Well it came to a point she truly didnt want to live. I never drove so fast in my life, and we went straight to sherman as directed. From sherman to st Joe's they were full. Started heading to stream wood she read me the reviews we turned around came home. Everyday I called hospital after hospital, facility after facility, did evaluation after evaluation for over 6 weeks. Answers we got were no openings, no juveniles, we dont take your insurance. Finally in December we were blessed by Central Dupage where they took her in within 24hrs. For 6 weeks I drove back and forth to and from an hour each way. Meaning extra gas money, wear and tear on the car, late starts to work, leaving early from work, but every moment was worth my child's life.
Just as we finished that hurdle i lost my father. I carried so much anger, guilt, hurt, jealously, and so many emotions I didnt understand and still dont. I took 2 days to recover from the shock of it all. Went back to work and 3/15/19 Kylie lost a friend since she was 3yrs old in a tragic car accident. I cant even begin to tell you how that impacted our family as a whole, and still does. There went several days of work grieving and consoling kylie, she was devastated and completely shut down. I was so scared with everything we were slowly recovering from 12/2018-2/2019.
April 6, 2019 I found a small bump thought maybe a pimple, ingrown hair nothing really. Started growing daily and becoming super painful. During this time Kylie learned that someone she had befriended during her time at CDH was discharged and committed suicide in a violent manner, why? because kids are ruthless and they continued to bully him. A kid you would NEVER expect, super popular, funny, smart, athletic, and just what we would classify as "the popular one". The day of his service 4/8/19 my bump was the size of a tangerine. I couldnt take the pain anymore, so kylie by my side we went to sherman where they lanced it. I felt every incision, every squeeze, and all the packing of the wound. I screamed like I have never screamed before in pain. I took kylie to Brennan's service hiding my er procedure cause it was kinda embarrassing. Within 12 hours I woke from a dead sleep in agonizing pain, I had to wake Evan explain it all and have him check the area. Let's just say my whole right butt cheek was red and inflamed. Straight to the ER we went, I was admitted for a ragging infection and taken into emerg surgery. Missed about a week of work during that hospital stay, also learning it was MRSA positive. I was given so many antibiotics I couldnt even move my arm anymore. Came home for a couple days went back to work against drs orders. Developed around 5 more abcess's. Back to the er, they said no big deal they were micro abcess's. Within a few hours of discharge I seen my surgeon and she stated "theres nothing micro about these they are ready to rupture" this was a monday she scheduled me for surgery on thursday with us both knowing i wasnt going to make it. Went to work anyways on tuesday low and behold one ruptured at a house. I completed the house came home, and back to the er was admitted and taken in for a second emerg surgery. Yep u guessed it more time off of work, falling further and further in the whole. I focused on feeding the kids and what little rent I could pay, going back to work everytime against dr's orders. Why? Because I have 4 kids to support, feed, cloth, and expenses of just surviving. Not even 48hrs 2 more abcess's this time I went to St Joe's as I felt huntley was missing something. I also had cellulitis in several locations from multiple iv attempts blood draws etc. I was very very very sick. They admitted me for 5 days, I had a team of dr's including infectious disease finally on board. Yeah huntley never contacted them. I had MRSA the bad MRSA the kind ICU patients get. From where? How? Dont know still dont know. I got one on my back, then armpit, face, and ear. No one could figure it out so went to Luthern General waited 9hours to be seen. They heard all I had been thru, and then the ER dr made a diagnosis of Hidradenitis suppurativa (HS). Anyone who has this knows how extremly painful this disease is, the following day I got a call from my dr that my abcess on my face tested MRSA positive again, over a month later(May). More antibotics, more time off work, more oozing ruptured sores/abcess's. I lost many clients because, either I was MRSA positive (1 in 3 people are carriers, it's on 90% of our produce, its everywhere) or because I was undependable/unreliable. I understood and understand currently. I was sick and still am, every nasal swab comes back negative, and any wound comes back positive. I dont have answers still, and I am desperately trying/seeking them out, which means traveling to the city and lots of dr appts.
Well I havent had any abcess's since july, and then developed 2, they ruptured at home and I refused any more hospitals. Then my new dr said no more pain meds since 2016 I have had neck and back surgery. I suffer from degenerative spinal disease, spinal stenosis, scoliosis, arthritis, neuropathy, and a bunch of.truly painful shit!!!!! The new answer was a medication I was highly allergic to, and highly addictive. This med was NOT covered by insurance cost $77 a week, I had to rapid detox off the med and cold Turkey'd it.
Then I feel down 2 stairs, lost control of my bladder completely. Went to sherman and thr dr literally asked me "what do you want me to do?" (Same dr who cut me open and almost killed me april 8th) I replied " I didn't go to medical school for 12 f**king years, you did" anyways I had to google everything, then page the dr back and honestly tell him how to treat me, he atleast listened. So I called my primary she stated I need a trama 1 ER stat, luthern general or Rockford I choose luthern general. HUGE mistake, I was literally treated like a junkie off the streets looking for pain meds, then the dr seen me and admitted me and kept me very heavily medicated because low and behold I pinched my spinal cord. I hit the nerve cluster that controlled my bladder, I had to be put under general anesthesia just for a mri, to find out I pinched my spinal cord. I had to have an emerg procedure to cut the lower portion of my tethered spinal cord. The mri revealed I have effacement of my spinal cord C4-C5 (thinning) I have an edema T12 (fluid pocket that could potentially be infectious but are not touching at this time as it can do more harm.right now) and some crap with my S1-S3.
More surgeries, no injections as I am to prone to infections at this time. My primary prescribed me a med that literally almost killed me yet again. I came home from luthern general for a day and half and collapsed, kids called 911 and was taken by ambulance. I havent even healed from fall 1 and had fall 2. I have NO pain management at this time (thank u to the government and FDA, suicide is up 20% in patients who suffer from chronic pain, and the amount turning to the street pharmacy is steadily rising, along with overdoses. I understand this in a whole nother level now).
So after a very long story of what caused me to fall so far behind, with still no real answers just increase my current meds soooooo gabapentin(maxed out at now fully at 3600mg a day), then decided I need to be on anti depressants to tell my brain theres no pain (this one still boggles me) and come back in 30days. Do not return to work, LOL funny I went back today. I fell almost 7 months behind on everything. I have cut out everything I possibly can. Rent, utilities, minimal groceries, and internet because I cant exactly sit in parking lots every night for kids to do homework. I technically should of been evicted tomorrow at 11:59pm, however I have busted ass along with Evan, and kids when they could to bring us close to current on everything. I am 2100 short on rent. My oh so gracious landlord gave me a 14 day extension but that's its. Been signed by him, the judge and myself 2100 by 10/15 or we are homeless at 11:59pm, and I have to pay the water/garbage/sewer etc bill in full also for a grand total of $3000.00
I am working this week, sadly i only have 7 clients and 1 next week. The food pantry will be our only source for the bare basics providing i can coordinate that with working. I truly never try to ask for anything because i am a prideful person. I try not to innconvience anyone, but this isnt about me right now this is about my kids. So please if you can help I truly appreciate it, if you cant please just share the crap out of this post. Single mom life is hard BTW ronnie moved from CA to FL, I only know this because he had his wife message kylie "now that your driving your dad said you can come visit and the drive is shorter too"
Shes NOT driving, nor does she want to at this time, because of danielle. Let alone NO sane parent would allow thier 16yr old child to drive solo from IL to FL, and a truly responsible parent would know his 16yr old.daughter doesnt have a drivers license, hasnt been in school since 11/15/18, and would attempt to pay his whole.whopping 135 a week. Instead I was able to get an interstate approval for child support, meaning CA was taking over my IL case. I truly believe they found him and his answer was to flee from one coast to the next. I cant tell you how many countless pics we see of him and his "new family" at all types of sporting events, going on vacations, and living the good life. We ate eggs for dinner I have a sick child, and very sick me.
So I have no answers, a long road of recovery, no pain management or control, and I will be at work yet again every day I can stay out of a hospital fighting my way to my $3000 goal by the 15th. Fighting daily to keep my kids safe, happy, healthy, feed, clothed, and sheltered.
So again it's taken so much to.write this for everyone to know my life is in complete shambles and on the verge of truly.loosing everything and living out of my car or shelters. For those of you who have children that know mine I PRAY YOU SAY NOT A WORD OF THIS TO THEM, I ALMOST LOST 1 CHILD TO BEING BULLIED, I DO NOT WANT TO HAVE ANYMORE BULLIED OR TEASED!!!!
Grace is already going thru hell because her cell phone is broken (really shut off and broken) and she broke down to me today. BTW can we stop raising mean kids please???
Thanks for taking the time to read this, there is more that I didn't include, but I included all the major things that caused this situation. I wish i could say we blew money and enjoyed something to put us in this position, but I cant even say we have done that.
If anything just share share share share please. Maybe just by the grace of god this will be possible. Again thank you so much.
The Flint Family
Organizer
Nicole Flint
Organizer
Hampshire, IL
