In Memorial of Lisa Juels (Lierman)
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As many of you have known my mother Lisa Juels has recently passed away.
Lisa was an incredible mother to both me and Matthew and losing her has been heartbreaking for us both. My mom was loved by so many, from the people at St. John's Lutheran to her friends and colleagues at Orange National Bank/ Citizens Bank to family and to all who met her. Everyone who met her, tells me how kind, genuine and empathetic she was. How she remembered the smallest details of what everyone was going through. How she was always there for her loved ones. And best of all her personality- her laugh, her carefree nature and confident demeanor.
The Lisa that you know is different from person to person, as she lived with an awful mental illness for a large portion of her life and my life. Regardless of her mental state my mom was my rock. She was the first person I called when I was upset. The first person I called when I didn't know what to do. She knew exactly what to say to put me at ease and calm me down. In these days when me and Matt have been trying to figure out what to do- the funeral, the bills, taking care of her belongings and loose ends- I have found it increasingly painful that I can't just call her and ask what to do next. I know that my mother would have never wanted for me and my brother to struggle financially in the wake of her loss, but it is the unfortunate reality that we are facing right now.
It appears the cost of losing someone is more than the emotional scars, it is a financial undertaking. Matthew and I have been troubled to learn the costs it will be to get a simple autopsy (up to $5,000), the cost of a funeral ($2000 +), the cost of burial and/or cremation ($2000 +), the cost of closing up her bills, the cost of cleaning out her home and caring for her beloved dog Molly. Matt and I had no idea of the cost of such seemingly basic necessities when dealing with the death of a loved one.
As Matt and I are the primaries in taking care of these situation, we simply do not have the means to take care of this financially. We are so woefully asking for the compassionate help of friends and family in this matter. We truly wish we did not have to ask for money, but we feel this is the best option in order to honor our mother and take care of the most basic of needs.
My brother Matt is just recently engaged to the wonderful, Chelsea Cora, whom my mother absolutely adored. Matt is currently working full-time developing incredible apartment buildings. He recently just told me he will be paying off his student loans for the next 10 years.
As for me, I am just about to start my fourth and final year at University of California, San Diego and am taking the MCAT in the following months in hopes of attending medical school. I have decided to quit my summer job in order to handle my mother's death- both emotionally and handling taking care of her belongings and home.Needless to say, I have almost $0 to my name as almost any college student can attest to.
It breaks both me and Matt's heart that we cannot contribute more to honoring my mother and her life,but luckilyI know that we are not alone as I have so many friends and family who are there for us. As I have had so many people asking me how they can help, it is unfortunate to say that essentially it has come down to money.
We kindly ask you to donate whatever you have the means to. Even just a $1-$5 will help. If every friend that me and Matt know donated just $1 that would help us out so much. We know that everyone has financial matters they themselves are dealing with, so do not feel obligated. If you cannot contribute but want to help, please share this post in hopes of reaching more people that may have known Lisa or her family. From both me and my brother we thank you deeply for all of your love and support. I have continually felt as if my mother has been watching over me with all of the kind words and actions that my close friends and family have done for me. We are eternally grateful for your help in such a difficult time.
Lisa was an incredible mother to both me and Matthew and losing her has been heartbreaking for us both. My mom was loved by so many, from the people at St. John's Lutheran to her friends and colleagues at Orange National Bank/ Citizens Bank to family and to all who met her. Everyone who met her, tells me how kind, genuine and empathetic she was. How she remembered the smallest details of what everyone was going through. How she was always there for her loved ones. And best of all her personality- her laugh, her carefree nature and confident demeanor.
The Lisa that you know is different from person to person, as she lived with an awful mental illness for a large portion of her life and my life. Regardless of her mental state my mom was my rock. She was the first person I called when I was upset. The first person I called when I didn't know what to do. She knew exactly what to say to put me at ease and calm me down. In these days when me and Matt have been trying to figure out what to do- the funeral, the bills, taking care of her belongings and loose ends- I have found it increasingly painful that I can't just call her and ask what to do next. I know that my mother would have never wanted for me and my brother to struggle financially in the wake of her loss, but it is the unfortunate reality that we are facing right now.
It appears the cost of losing someone is more than the emotional scars, it is a financial undertaking. Matthew and I have been troubled to learn the costs it will be to get a simple autopsy (up to $5,000), the cost of a funeral ($2000 +), the cost of burial and/or cremation ($2000 +), the cost of closing up her bills, the cost of cleaning out her home and caring for her beloved dog Molly. Matt and I had no idea of the cost of such seemingly basic necessities when dealing with the death of a loved one.
As Matt and I are the primaries in taking care of these situation, we simply do not have the means to take care of this financially. We are so woefully asking for the compassionate help of friends and family in this matter. We truly wish we did not have to ask for money, but we feel this is the best option in order to honor our mother and take care of the most basic of needs.
My brother Matt is just recently engaged to the wonderful, Chelsea Cora, whom my mother absolutely adored. Matt is currently working full-time developing incredible apartment buildings. He recently just told me he will be paying off his student loans for the next 10 years.
As for me, I am just about to start my fourth and final year at University of California, San Diego and am taking the MCAT in the following months in hopes of attending medical school. I have decided to quit my summer job in order to handle my mother's death- both emotionally and handling taking care of her belongings and home.Needless to say, I have almost $0 to my name as almost any college student can attest to.
It breaks both me and Matt's heart that we cannot contribute more to honoring my mother and her life,but luckilyI know that we are not alone as I have so many friends and family who are there for us. As I have had so many people asking me how they can help, it is unfortunate to say that essentially it has come down to money.
We kindly ask you to donate whatever you have the means to. Even just a $1-$5 will help. If every friend that me and Matt know donated just $1 that would help us out so much. We know that everyone has financial matters they themselves are dealing with, so do not feel obligated. If you cannot contribute but want to help, please share this post in hopes of reaching more people that may have known Lisa or her family. From both me and my brother we thank you deeply for all of your love and support. I have continually felt as if my mother has been watching over me with all of the kind words and actions that my close friends and family have done for me. We are eternally grateful for your help in such a difficult time.
Organizer
Michaela Leigh Juels
Organizer
La Jolla, CA
