John Roy - Helping his family
I only got to know John for a short time, when he answered an add looking for a guitarist for my crazy band idea. He was like a God send. We immediately hit it off, and bringing him onboard during the foundation of the band was hugely important to getting us off the ground. His talents as a player were immense, and he had an incredible knack for getting exactly the right sound and feel for every song we did. Even after playing guitar for more than 30 years myself, I learned a great deal from him in the few months we played together. He inspired me and made me strive to improve. During that time, he and I had many talks about depression and the struggles that accompany it. Like John, I too have fought it for my entire life. He was the first person I have ever met who really seemed to understand it and experience it like I had. We both saw being in a band as a form of therapy and a chance for experiencing true joy. Unfortunately, John's struggles led to him quitting the band. The other band members and I were very sad to see him go and made every effort to get him to change his mind. We stayed in touch periodically, but not enough. I was looking through my phone recently and saw the last text message from him and thought that I really needed to give him a call. I didn't know it was already too late. I found out last Thursday about his passing, and was crushed. I can't convey how devastated I am for his family. They have been in my thoughts since I heard the news. I may not have known him for very long, but he had a huge impact on me and I will miss him terribly. There's a song we performed wherein the lyrics ask "How many times have you let depression win the fight?" We called it our anthem, and I believe we found found strength in its message. The band continues on, we continue to perform at local venues. I don't know if I will ever be able to perform that song without getting a little choked up. It will be a challenge for sure. Certainly, it will always make me think of John. We will be dedicating our November 19th show at Brick by Brick to John. My sincere and heartfelt condolences to his family and close friends. Rod Moyes and The Obscure80's
We briefly met John Roy. However, he was definitely one of those people that made the world a better place because he was a very kind person. We are so sorry to hear this news.
I explored the planets John helped create in such vivid detail. It was at those moments that I too was experiencing personal pain and John's worlds helped me cope and escape. My thoughts are with your family at the time of this terrible loss.
I may be unable to donate money, but I'll donate my condolences to John's family in its place. Rest in Peace, John Roy and continue working on all the art for those who never had a chance to know you.